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Originally Posted by lokil
they are my best friends

I know this for a fact, friends do not screw other friend's husbands and then lie about it.

If you are a friend, who needs your friendship?

Your "friendship" is dangerous !

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Originally Posted by lokil
they are my best friends my business partners you dont get it my relationship with them is almost as important as my relationship with my husband I cannot stand the thought of losing them as friends.

You've already lost them. You just haven't accepted it yet. MB aside, I've never seen a recovery program after an affair that allows you to remain friends with the affair partner.


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Originally Posted by lokil
they are my best friends my business partners you dont get it my relationship with them is almost as important as my relationship with my husband I cannot stand the thought of losing them as friends.

You don't get it. You are not a "friend," you are an enemy. You already lost them. You are no "friend," that is another one of your lies.

Any woman who pulls off her panties with another woman's HUSBAND in her home is an ENEMY. You are no friend.


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Originally Posted by MelodyLane
Any woman who pulls off her panties with another woman's HUSBAND in her home is an ENEMY. You are no friend.

TRUTH !!!

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Originally Posted by lokil
they are my best friends my business partners you dont.

No decent woman would be your friend. You are dangerous. You are no "friend."


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Originally Posted by Jean36
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I really am having trouble understanding why you didn't push away or smack him and leave when he hugged you. THEN you sit at chat with your friend while your panties are moist with her husbands "droppings".

I must say, this one really hit my gag reflex. puke puke puke

This is someone's definition of a FRIEND?


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oh FFS they are my friends you dont know us.... I would do anything for either of them... it wsa a mistake a stupid mistake a really really stupid mistake its not going to be over because of this.

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Okey dokie good night people.... Thank you all who tried to be helpful.

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Originally Posted by lokil
oh FFS they are my friends you dont know us.... I would do anything for either of them

Yes, you would "do anything," including taking off your panties and screwing her husband like a jackrabbit in heat in HER HOUSE.

You are no friend. You are her biggest enemy.


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lokil

If you want to be a different person than who you were the other night, you cannot be friends with OM. He IS an adulterer (same as you) but if he doesn't tell his wife, then you should not be friends with OM. He is a man without character and you and your husband will be busy working on your new marriage of honesty.

So you cannot be friends with OM because he is not the type of person you want to associate with. (Because you don't want to be a 'ho and will change, tell your H and work your butt off).

And, you can't be friends with OM's wife since you screwed her H. It is just not possible to be a friend to her with what has happened without telling her the truth.

So you tell your H and you figure this out together.


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Originally Posted by lokil
oh FFS they are my friends you dont know us.... I would do anything for either of them... it wsa a mistake a stupid mistake a really really stupid mistake its not going to be over because of this.

If you really mean this, then do it. Tell them the truth, then stay away from them. Write a No-Contact letter and make a commitment to never contact your friend's husband again. Give them a chance to heal their marriage and recover from the terrible damage you have caused.

Then, do the same thing for your husband.


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lokil,
I really am having trouble understanding why you didn't push away or smack him and leave when he hugged you. THEN you sit at chat with your friend while your panties are moist with her husbands "droppings".

I must say, this one really hit my gag reflex. puke puke puke

This is someone's definition of a FRIEND?

Sorry Writer for my lack of tact. I was hoping to elicit the gag reflex in the OP, not the innocent bystanders.

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Originally Posted by lokil
Okey dokie good night people.... Thank you all who tried to be helpful.

You're welcome grin

The TRUTH shall set you free.


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Lokil,
You respond to everyone's posts with the same thing. That these people are your "friends" and that you are going to make it work with your husband. So, you sound like you've figured it out.

I'm just curious...What is your plan?

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lokil,
I really am having trouble understanding why you didn't push away or smack him and leave when he hugged you. THEN you sit at chat with your friend while your panties are moist with her husbands "droppings".

I must say, this one really hit my gag reflex. puke puke puke

This is someone's definition of a FRIEND?


Sorry Writer for my lack of tact. I was hoping to elicit the gag reflex in the OP, not the innocent bystanders.

It's okay. I'm fine now. That's what i get for reading posts during dinner.

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I think that the ONLY time someone writes

"don't judge me"

is when they KNOW their actions will be judged because they KNOW they have acted badly!

A person never says:

"I educate my child .... please don't judge me."
"I've been faithful to my vows ... please don't judge me."
"I got an A on my book report ... please don't judge me."
"I exercised and watched my diet and lost 35 pounds ... please don't judge me."

They might say:

"I don't make my child attend school ... please don't judge me."
"I've cheated on my spouse ... please don't judge me."
"I failed my book report ... please don't judge me."
"I ate 12 donuts and sat around on my butt all day and now I am fat ... please don't judge me."


It is a redflag redflag that your conscience bothers you when you say:

"Please don't judge me"

You know your actions deserve scrutiny - but you reject that very same scrutiny.



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Judge away if there was a town square I would stand in the middle so you can all throw rocks at me.

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OMG this thread is only two days old and its got 40 pages of posts.

Lokl or however its spelled, you are driving a wedge between you and your friends marriages.

Are you guys like in high school or something? Sounds like a childhood party fantasy more than someone who wants to live responsibly with a mate for life.

What are you smokin? I hope you get a more mature outlook on life and just read up on what infidelity does to people.

Well good luck and maybe you will get seriuos eventually but untill you realize that you can't do everything that feels good at the time don't expect anyone to be there when your looks and libido run out.

Momma told me not to have a battle of wits with an unarmed person.

Grampa told me not to argue with a crazy person either


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Originally Posted by lokil
Judge away if there was a town square I would stand in the middle so you can all throw rocks at me.

dramaqueen dramaqueen


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Originally Posted by lokil
Judge away if there was a town square I would stand in the middle so you can all throw rocks at me.

I don't throw rocks. I throw truth and insight.

I want you to acknowledge that you are CURRENTLY a liar and a cheat, and then, I want you to construct a PLAN where you distance yourself from those characteristics.

So far, your "plan" is to continue to lie and continue to betray your friend. naughty


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