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Many a divorced couple have remarried. If you want it. Proceed slow. XWW has to show she is willing to do what it takes to you. So do you to her.
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I agree, and I am just going to go on about my life. I will keep her as a texting buddy for now, but she would really have to show me a lot to work on things. I can say that I see everyones point now though and I will not go out of my way for her at all. Texting buddy? How can you have a texting buddy with someone you have such a significant history with?
D-Day 2-10-2009
Fully Recovered and Better Than Ever!
Thank you Marriage Builders!
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No, no, no.
She needs to be X'd out of your life. Don't give her "free rent" in your mind. Get her out. She's gone from your life. She doesn't want you or respect you.
Guess what, though? YOU are worthy of love and respect. And there are TONS of girls out there in the world who would give you both joyfully.
You can't even imagine what a wonderful world is out there waiting for you. SEIZE IT!
This is like a starving dog who is trying to scratch his way into a garbage can for some rotten meat gristle, so consumed with his "mission" that he doesn't even see the fresh steaks filling the street behind him.
Best regards,
ConfuzedHusband
Formerly ConfuzedHusband
BH
WW (Now XW)
Married 4 years, No children.
EA/PA from 2/2008 to 5/2008.
DDay: 5/17/2008 - Separated 6/1/2008 - Filed 8/3/2008
Divorce final 3/2009.
Now in a committed relationship with a woman of character who loves me so much better and deeper than I ever dreamed possible. I had no idea what I was missing out on and am so grateful God gave me a free "second chance" at love and life.
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Point taken everyone, just sent her a text to say that I am going to focus on healing.
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Point taken everyone, just sent her a text to say that I am going to focus on healing. Good man! It will probably be painful at first and you may think about her alot. Just keep focused and tried to keep your mind busy. Soon enough, you will find it doesn't even occur to you to text or call her. If she presses you on this, just tell her that she inflicted this pain on you, so it doesn't make sense to keep the source of that pain close while you try and heal.
ex-WW had 2 PAs in first 2 years. Buh-bye.
Divorce finalized: 1/28/09
Now just living and loving again.
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She will not try to push the issue and I already know that. I just wish things were much different. I do understand why I need to not text her.
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