This is the Karma Bus making its first stop, I'd say.

How widespread is the distribution of this paper? Will any other papers pick it up? How soon will the news hit WH?

And, oh yes, I'm ecstatic about this for you, too!

Dr. H <~~~ idiot XXXXBoy, are THEY DUMB, or WHAT ??? XXXXX slut ~~~> OW

LongLegs <~~~ Lookin' GOOD !

Wow. At first glance I thought PB was referring to Dr. Harley, and not WH.

Whew.

Fred Astair, did you find the hidden message?

Of course.

Wow. Take some joy in it. Karma bus coming 'round. He deserves it. So does OW.

The original
"Theres no fool like an old fool"

rings true here huh Z?

LLL Grats on the obvious confirmation by your imediate peers that WH is whacked in-da-haid.

Now if we could be a fly on the wall of the classroom if you are so lucky as to have them served on campus..
MU____HAHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHa

Is this like calculus or simultaneous equation Pep ?

HUh? huh? HUH? Tellme tellme tellme!~

Ladylonglegs
This was the bomb I was suspecting might happen I was referring to in on of my previous posts to you. This is a huge loss of face for him.

Now the life of this article could be extended lets say for example if the paper were to get information from a reliable source that the administration was aware of the situation and it appears they did nothing about it.

From my understanding the higher ups in any organization do not like to share in the pain direct reports cause them. In my experience if they get implicated because of the actions of an underling, the underling gets to feel the brunt of their displeasure.

You seem like a very bright lady. And I am sure you have already thought about this, but I just want to make sure you do not underestimate how much pain an article like this can cause.

While in a corporate job I was in a meeting attended by VP's , Directors, Managers, Division heads. One day the President of the company had an embarrassing news clipping brought to his attention. The meeting was halted while the chain of command was pulled from the meeting in succession to explain what happened and how they were going to fix it. Needless to say our meeting was canceled. There were many red faces, raised voices, threats and demands. The Director who caused the blunder suffered great pain because of this exposure in the newspaper. This is why companies have highly paid PR personnel, as bad press is a BIG deal.

Good luck to you and your newly acquired Nuclear Exposion.

too bad they didn't name ow in the article....

I'm sure everyone will know soon enough, it will be the girl with a pillar of flame shooting out her ears...and a column of smoke coming off the top of her head because of how mad she is.

Up again early, but made it to 5 a.m. so got at least 5 and a half hours sleep last night. Even too much wine and laughter with girlfriend staying for weekend didn't get me more sleep. But dogs (my two and weekend guest dog)all were hot to go run in back yard, so they're outside playing.

I LOVE what happened yesterday with campus gossip rag (read by EVERYONE...students love it and adults read it secretly). Its totally uncensored and very National Enquirer-like in the way it covers stories....comes out about once every two weeks. I haven't got a copy yet but my friend on campus who called me yesterday is mailing it to me. I'll be sure and give my attorney a copy!!!

I HAD to tell someone, so it's great to read all of your responses....you're my secret group of supporters. Girlfriend also was gleeful....she got left by H a few years ago and is the embodiment of "living well is the best revenge". We had a great evening talking, eating and drinking wine....playing with the dogs and watching the opening of the Olympics. Now if I could just sleep late like her....

We were trying to guess H's next move after this exposure. Surely he will hear about it or see it....unless people are too embarrassed to say something. I know the upper admin will hear about it and so maybe it will light a fire under them.

I'm going to venture a guess. H will move into his own apt somewhere at least for appearances. I don't know how he can continue to live with OW when its now open knowledge what he's doing. That is the height of conflict of interest with this student and makes his position even more indefensible than it was before. Also, he needs to establish his own address. I think he must have changed some of his personal mail to a P.O.Box or something because less of it is coming here (except our joint bills, which still flow in freely with no concern from him).

Anyhow, this week and next will not be fun for him. News is out on campus and next week he'll be served hopefully in class. That should result in another campus gossip rag article as there will be witnesses who will surely report it....I must be a bad person....I'm sort of enjoying watching his actions come back and smack him.

This article needs to be anonymously sent to all the key administrators at the college and all the other college news publications as well.

Then maybe some more anonymously sent details such as OW name, misspent funds. Trips together on fund money.

Send it by email from public computer with new email address to only be used once for this new round of exposure, then forget and never reuse this email or computer again.

Hi LLL,

I've followed your thread with amazement at how your process has unfolded.
I asked the question (and bolded your answer above) a long time ago from a different perspective due to personal experience with the media.

I've been known to worry too much but just in case it might be warranted, I'll share my concern with
the "enquirer-esque rag" breaking your exposure first without your instigation or input.
IMO the fact that you didn't start it is good; that you have no input potentially could be bad.

From my experience, 3 aspects are sure things when the media gets involved with a head-line grabbing story,
especially one exposing infidelity:

* People (waywards) lie.
* Media spins.
* It's difficult (if not impossible) to unspin a media story once it's out of control.

The components of your situation (college prof/student/ethics/grant funds) may keep this spinning to your advantage.

There is a chance, however, that this might come back to bite you if there are any potentially incriminating threatening pieces of evidence (e.g. Elizabeth Edwards' alleged harassing voice mails to Andrew Young's wife) floating out in cyber/electronic land.

If you have a savvy well-respected media contact that you can trust to keep your confidence,
you might seek input with this goal in mind:


Your first exposure by the media via the campus rag seems to focus on the ethics violations/potential investigations, which IMO will benefit your cause to clean WH out financially and get your pound of flesh.

Worse case scenario, if this spins around to the point where a respected media outlet (local radio/TV news, regional publication) seeks/finds/invents a way to implicate you (even if it's not true), this could backfire somehow and be detrimental to your cause. (BTDT, which is why I have to protect my profession/ID/location.)

That's why I asked if you had any contacts in the media....not to further your exposure, but to help you keep the exposure that's happening naturally to continue spinning in the correct direction.
(For you and us "correct" means truth; for most (not all) in the media it usually means rating$.)

If there is anything anywhere that your WH might use to try to disparage you, your trustworthy media contact might be invaluable in guiding you.

Like I said, I know I worry too much but I would hate to see a few unscrupulous-ratings-seeking members of the media possibly derail all your stellar efforts to take the high road and come out of this the winner that you are.

You are a real inspiration in how you've handled youself, LLL....thanks for sharing.

Wishing you well,
Ace

LLL, enjoy the moment. I LOL when I read the article about your H. No matter how he and OW spin this it looks bad. Any chance you can ask the server to give you a blow by blow account after he serves those papers? Darn, I can't wait for that to happen. I'm glad you are keeping a sense of humor in all the madness.

Maybe.. You could act all shocked and be interviewed? Or if someone contacts you have your spin ready with a dose of tears to go along with it. Kinda like jumping in the runaway car to control the crash?

If you have anything that could make you look bad and gossip rag can use it to thier advantage it could be better for you if you feed them the right stuff till the story loses its shock appeal.

JMO. You will obviuosly have known because the papers were filed before the Rag printed the story so.. Maybe after the papers are served, you should have a meeting with the administration of the colledge and express how embarressed you are about all this and how bad you feel for the Colledge. That way you can get in with them on what they want to do and there will not be any repercussions aginst you from them.

You have a right to fight and protect your reputation, and ACe is right bad news travels fast.

Dear LLL,
I do admire what you have done and I think it is great. I have a thread on "what should I do now", I wonder if you can read it and give me some advice about exposure. I also work in an academic environment, and I know how much the damage can be done through exposure. All the advices here suggest me to expose, I have not done it so far at workplace, I wonder what is your insight on this, what would you do if you were in my shoes? I think I would do exactly what you did if I have no child involved. So your advice will be very useful for me. Thanks.

I read LLL thread and 29 years of her M gone....and her H kicks her to the curb as if she never existed. The someone else posted (sorry forgot the name) and after 36 years of M he does not even look at her in the courthouse.
A year earlier LLL' s H was happily travelling with her....
How is it possible that love turns to hate or indifference at the flick of a swith? Was it real love to begin with?
I know i might be crazy, but i love my H no matter what my love for him is unconditional. He hurt me badly, but i love him.
He, like LLL's H turned cold and heartless.

LLL, do not expect you H to react to anything, even the worst case scenario press. I bet anything he will not give you the satisfaction to see his anger.
That's the way they are. They are so detatched. I swear is it beyond imagination.
hugs and blessings.....I admire you. YOu have been of so much help to me...just seeing you so resolute and dignified in the face of heartlessness and indifference