They are DJs you are making. You are assuming he means this, or he means that, and what you should be doing is ASKING him for clarification.

Now, in a perfect world, he'd be on board with MB concepts and he'd appreciate your inquiry, and he'd strive to be open and honest without committing any LBs himself. It doesn't sound like he's at ALL there, yet, which does make it hard on you.

I think if I were in your position, I would try hard to work on me. Keep up with the diet, the exercise, eliminating LBs, etc. Try very hard not to have any expectations from him. He isn't learning these tools and techniques so he's going to make a lot of LBs and fail to meet your ENs. That makes it really hard. But if you can, just let him own his stuff and you own yours.

Later on, when you're in a stronger position... no LBs, feeling more fit, happy about your weight... when you are in a position of strength and confidence then you can approach him about his part in the M and how you feel about the M (without LBs ) and see if he cares to get on board. If he does, you can live happily ever after. If he does not, you'll have some decisions to make about how you want to live the rest of your life. And THEN you can live happily ever after