Pepperband,

Don't you think that *everything* that has happened in your life and marriage is what makes you who you are today; including, as you say, your "stubborness and pridefulness"?

So, in effect, it all matters...

In my life, I have found this to be true. And the realization does not make me (or you) a victim of the past... it just shines a little light on the "why" of our behavior -- especially, when deciding about issues as important as trust.

What do you think?

you're correct

sum total

thanks

Pep

NBII

I'm at work eating lunch (Campbell's select traditional Italian-style wedding soup >>> EXCELLENT)

and my H just called me

to tell me (tearfully) how much he loves me !!!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

he's not working today, he's home overseeing the remodeling chaos ... he was watching a movie with infidelity sub-plot ... and he just called to say how incredible our lives have become despite that bad time from our past ... I had to share with you .... it's a little embarrasing how much he slurps me ... but. I'll take it ! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Pep

Pepperband,

Have I told you lately how much I enjoy reading what you write? I dig the choice of words, the analogies and the ~~~>'s and changes of color and stuff. Oh yeah, and the message... the message ROCKS.

And about this particular message: That's so neat!! Incredibly neat!!

(PS: That soup *is* excellent! My mom has a recipe for Italian Wedding Soup from scratch that I haven't tried yet, but it's one of my favorites, too! You've reminded - inspired - me to try it, soon!)

(PSS: Do you like sweet and sour chicken? I have a recipe to DIE FOR... so simple... and EVERYONE loves it. Let me know and I'll post it)

One last thing, about this book ('cause I have to go to work very soon and can't stay on to write)...

I put it away.

I'm awful. <not said tongue-in-cheek at all. I'm not proud of this>

I have umpteen issues going on right now... and unlike you, Pep, I tend to NOT go to God when things are tough. I'm much better at *thanking God* for the good things, not so good at talking/listening with God when crisis comes.

I have no idea what *that's* about.

Sigh.

The more I read through this first chapter, the more I realize that husbands & wives are so connected. What one does will affect the other in everything. I thought maybe we could pull apart this first prayer at the end of "His Wife" & discuss it.

The first paragraph goes like this:
"Lord, Help me to be a good W. I fully realize that I don't have what it takes to be one w/o Your help. Take my selfishness, impatience, & irritability & turn them into kindness, long-suffering & the willingness to bear all things. Take my old emotional habits, mind sets, automatic reactions, rude assumptions, & self-protective stance, & make me patient, kind, good, faithful, gentle, & self-controlled. Take the hardness of my heart & break down the walls w/Your battering ram of revelation. Give me a new heart & work in me Your love, peace & joy. I am not able to rise above who I am at this moment. Only You can transorm me."

Maybe this prayer could help you, Pep in releasing control a little bit to God.

Any comments on it?

GREAT

post the recipe

even tho....... I am not cooking for at least another week!

the kitchen appliances are all over my house, but not in the kitchen!

LOL

Pep

P.S. Thanks for the compliment.

yes

here is my comment

I admit to all the failings mentioned

I surrender that I cannot correct my failings without God's Grace

I pray for His Grace

for He is my Father

Pep

Hi Pepperband,

The killer recipe, for when the kitchen comes back into commission:

(And you won't believe this... 'cause it's SO EASY ... and it's soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo good!)

Chicken pieces - can be legs, breasts, skin on or off, but I prefer skin off for this one

One can of cranberry sauce - or homemade - about 2 cups worth. Can be chunky or gel, again, your preference

One bottle of Catalina salad dressing (I know! But I'm serious)

One envelope of onion soup mix

Mix the cranberry sauce, salad dressing and envelope onion soup mix until smooth

Pour over chicken

Bake at 375 for about an hour... it turns into a glaze on the chicken...

You can do this in the crock pot, too, which is my favorite way to do it. I put the chicken (with about an inch of water) in the bottom, and cover with the sauce and put on low all day.

Serve with white rice...

Without fail, every person I've given this recipe to has loved it!

To everyone...

I need to get my head back into this book, into the Bible, into the things of God. I feel far away... and this is not a new feeling for me. Please pray for me.

My prayers for you!

tuesday is appliance delivery day ... we're getting closer to actual cooking !

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

microwaving is getting old fast

and eating so much take out costs soooooo much $$$$

I am not complaining, just observing the facts ....

the new kitchen looks fantastic

Pep

bjs,

Just a quick note to thank you very much for praying for me!

God bless you!

Hi. I have read Power of a Praying Husband and thought it was great. So great in fact that I bought Power of a Praying Wife for my FWW. (She is not real big on reading). I left it as a gift for her one morning in her car with a note attached to it.
I explained to her that I thought that it would be a good read for her and that she might find some interesting stuff in it. I told her to just have an open mind and maybe check it out.
Unfortunately it's been about a week now and it just sits on the floor of her car. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
Oh well. You can lead a horse to water.

A friend of mine mailed me Power of a Praying Wife. I got it in the mail on Sat. - just as I was about to give up all hope for my M. I took it as a sign that I needed to hang in there a bit longer. I started reading and praying for my H that night and have done 1 chapter each day now. Interestingly enough, Sunday he started being kinder and more interested in talking to me!

Gee, I could use some prayers from my wife.

Hi time and rock,

Interesting. I'd kind of forgotten about this thread... and if you've read through it, you'll know why. Hmmm... and then I saw my name on the Active Topics page... hey, what's this?... oh, someone has replied to that old thread I began about POPW. Wonder what THAT means?

So, right now I will tell you both that I am praying for you, and rock, for your wife.

This particular part of the forum ebbs and flows... sometimes it's very very slow... sometimes very very busy... and as you can see... right now is a slow time. The prayer requests section is slow, too... and you know, that's SAD, isn't it? I began a thread on Prayer Requests about how people come by and read, pray and often do so silently. My guess is that it's the same here. So, if you sense some prayers, it may be that someone read here and prayed for you.

If you'd like to continue talking about POPW, keep on keepin' on... because there was obviously some interest, as you can see. I just wasn't feeling comfortable being the 'leader'...

God bless you both.

NBII,

Aloha young lady.


But never ever forgotten. God always has a remnant. And many times it's the ones you least expect.

Blessings to you.

S&C

I AM NEW TO THIS FORUM BUT I WAS READING POSTS ON THE BOOK THE POWER OF THE PRAYING WIFE AND I AM GOING TO GET IT, I THINK IT WILL HELP US WITH OUR MARRAGE, WE BOTH LOVE EACH OTHER VERY MUCH BUT THERE IS A STUMBLING BLOCK WE HAVE, MY HUSBAND HAS NO PATIENCE AND I HAVE ALOT AND HE GETS SO FRUSTRATED, (I TELL HIM EVERYTHING BOTHERS YOU) AND HE DOESENT LIKE THAT. SO WILL YOU PRAY FOR US AND ANY SUGESTIONS WIL HELP. THANK YOU,
SHERYL

S & C -- Hi! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

slm0546,

GET THE BOOK! Even if the study here isn't going strong right now (or at all), the BOOK stands on its own and is very helpful for Christian wives!

I just said a prayer for you...

If it's slow in this part of the forum, maybe think about going to the General QuestionsII section and posting a question... it moves VERY fast there, just to warn you ahead of time... but you'll get lots of feedback. If you feel more comfortable here, I can understand that. Post here but know that oftentimes it is very, very slow here. But you know what? God hears you... and the answers will come... I know it!

Let us know what you think of the book, okay?

funny you should mention starting that book as a Bible Study..I just picked it up tonight and started re-reading it. My husband and I seperated this past weekend and my thirt for God and His words have been unquenchable...
my name is Janet. I'm new [color:"green"] [/color]

Hi Janet,

Wow, I saw this thread pull up and was surprised! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> I don't write often, and am always delighted to see new people drop by, although the reasons that brought you here are painful.

I'm sorry for your pain... a new separation is difficult, at best, heart-wrenchingly painful at worst, especially if you have children. I would encourage you to share your story... either here on this thread or over on General Questions (which is a very busy part of the forum). Click HERE if you're interested in moving over.

In the meantime, READ THE BOOK and PRAY. And know that folks do drop by and pray for others. There is also a Prayer Request section HERE.

And welcome to MB. You will find good people here...