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Re: Peer Counseling: Anyone can do good when they _Larry_ #2345719 03/30/10 10:04 PM
Joined: Jul 2005 Posts: 6,316 Michigan M MrsWondering Member
MrsWondering Member M Joined: Jul 2005 Posts: 6,316 Michigan	Originally Posted by _Larry_ One of the very best on this board is MrsW, who is a former WW. Her contribution cannot be discounted. She does good. So any FWW is needed and appreciated because of what they KNOW in terms of the fog, how they got into their affair and how they got out and recovered their sanity. MrsW contributes far more than FWW perspective. She has grown and learned as a person and has changed as she has adopted responsibility as her mantra. I think it is a shame that she is not as active here as she once was. But others will come in and take her place as time goes on. This is the way it works for a board like this one. Larry Well wow what nice things to say, Larry...Thank you... I'm still here a good bit - the last few days I've been posting on MB101...I am not usually one to post to a bunch of threads at once - I find that I have a hard time keeping stories straight if I do - I am blonde you know! We've been pretty busy lately [a good busy ], but we still try to keep up at least somewhat - we post more when we have the time - it's sorta cyclic these days - this place saved our family, and we are beyond grateful to the Harleys and so many of the wonderful people here for that... Mrs. W P.S. Tell the truth now, you just said all those nice things to try and persuade me to quit clownin' on yer thread, didn't ya? Good Luck With That! HA! FWW ~ 47 ~ Me FBH ~ 50 ~ MrWondering DD ~ 17 Dday ~ 2005 ~ Recovered

Re: Promise:... Anyone can do good if they post! _Larry_ #2345735 03/30/10 10:38 PM
Joined: Jan 2010 Posts: 614 Limbo M mymissy Member
mymissy Member M Joined: Jan 2010 Posts: 614 Limbo	I hope one day to return all of the wonderful support and advice I have received on this site. Right now I don't think I am in a place of offering support to anyone else; I continue to be wrapped up in my own pain, feelings of betrayal, and sense of failure I think many newly BS are in the same place and are just trying to survive. I am just trying to survive at this point. (I actually still secretly hope this is all a bad dream) I'm not sure if keeping quiet is a good thing or bad at this point, but I don't think I am able to provide support to someone else - maybe that is selfish and I am allowing my taker to rule. But I do want to thank all of those people who do come here time and time again to share, provide wisdom, and generally try to make someone feel a little better. Me:BW Dday:12/31/09-Found MB 01/03/10 3DstepChildren24&20 PlanA:01/03/10 PlanB:03/25/10 D final 11/15/10 "I dare you to find some time and some place to be silent for longer than usual; a few moments, a few minutes, a few hours. Listen to your heart, listen to your soul; and most importantly, listen to the silence to see what it sounds like and how it speaks to you."

Re: Promise:... Anyone can do good if they post! mymissy #2345821 03/31/10 08:27 AM
Joined: Sep 2005 Posts: 3,916 The Great State of Texas _ _Larry_ Member
_Larry_ Member _ Joined: Sep 2005 Posts: 3,916 The Great State of Texas	Mymissy Please don't miss one point that was made. You obviously read other threads. Just posting that you have read someone's story and feel for them is often a very, very good thing. A few people saying that can sometimes make all the difference in the world. Please do NOT think you have to offer detailed descriptions of what you think is their mindset or a direction to travel or quotations from Dr. Harley. Sympathy is often a powerful motivator for someone to do their own soul searching, reading and learning. Larry

Re: Promise:... Anyone can do good if they post! _Larry_ #2345838 03/31/10 08:52 AM
Joined: Sep 2005 Posts: 3,916 The Great State of Texas _ _Larry_ Member
_Larry_ Member _ Joined: Sep 2005 Posts: 3,916 The Great State of Texas	MrsW Nope! Originally Posted by the clown Tell the truth now, you just said all those nice things to try and persuade me to quit clownin' on yer thread, didn't ya? All work and no play made Jack a dull boy, etc., etc., etc. This is an open forum with emphasis on encouraging people to post their thoughts and/or their sympathy and concern. You have no idea how much time I have spent trying to find emoticons that some of you haven't already mined for content. Bah, humbug. I am jealous. Larry

Re: Promise:... Anyone can do good if they post! _Larry_ #2345850 03/31/10 09:04 AM
Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 12,357 M maritalbliss Member
maritalbliss Member M Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 12,357	Originally Posted by _Larry_ You have no idea how much time I have spent trying to find emoticons that some of you haven't already mined for content. Bah, humbug. I am jealous. Larry Yeah, what's up with that? I can't get any work done, what with clicking, dragging, deleting, websiting, emoticoning...give it up, gang! Where're you getting the icons??? I mean, com'on! The pink shoes??? Last edited by maritalbliss; 03/31/10 09:04 AM. D-Day 2-10-2009 Fully Recovered and Better Than Ever! Thank you Marriage Builders!

Re: Promise:... Anyone can do good if they post! maritalbliss #2345884 03/31/10 09:37 AM
Joined: Sep 2005 Posts: 3,916 The Great State of Texas _ _Larry_ Member
_Larry_ Member _ Joined: Sep 2005 Posts: 3,916 The Great State of Texas	Bliss. . . If I told you, I would first have to shoot you. It is an ill kept secret. . . . Ok, click on quote. Read the quote. See the web link? that's where you find them. Go to the link in another browser window. Look around. What you are looking for is something you can use. Then you need to find the link address and use it. For example, the link might be: http://www.21softs.com/emoticons/images/tongue.gif Put a {img] then the link followed by [/img} Except use brackets where I used {} and you got it. After that, use preview to see if you got it right. If not, play with it or come back and ask what you are doing wrong. Larry Last edited by _Larry_; 03/31/10 09:39 AM.

Re: Promise:... Anyone can do good if they post! _Larry_ #2345918 03/31/10 10:30 AM
Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 12,357 M maritalbliss Member
maritalbliss Member M Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 12,357	Originally Posted by _Larry_ Bliss. . . If I told you, I would first have to shoot you. It is an ill kept secret. . . . Ok, click on quote. Read the quote. See the web link? that's where you find them. Go to the link in another browser window. Look around. What you are looking for is something you can use. Then you need to find the link address and use it. For example, the link might be: http://www.21softs.com/emoticons/images/tongue.gif Put a {img] then the link followed by [/img} Except use brackets where I used {} and you got it. After that, use preview to see if you got it right. If not, play with it or come back and ask what you are doing wrong. Larry But...but...the pink shoes!? Where did they come from - pinkshoes.com? Where are they originally getting the pics??? I wanna play! I can pull up the link address after I see the icon. I wanna pick some of my own! Last edited by maritalbliss; 03/31/10 10:31 AM. D-Day 2-10-2009 Fully Recovered and Better Than Ever! Thank you Marriage Builders!

Re: Promise:... Anyone can do good if they post! maritalbliss #2345930 03/31/10 10:49 AM
Joined: Sep 2005 Posts: 3,916 The Great State of Texas _ _Larry_ Member
_Larry_ Member _ Joined: Sep 2005 Posts: 3,916 The Great State of Texas	The link is to the pic and how it gets to the post. Just look at the links and explore. There are bunch of places that offer FORUM pics. You gotta do FORUM type pics so you can post the link. The ones that offer IM pics or email pics or whatever are not suitable. Larry

Re: Promise:... Anyone can do good if they post! maritalbliss #2345940 03/31/10 11:09 AM
Joined: Dec 2006 Posts: 2,965 C chrisner Member
chrisner Member C Joined: Dec 2006 Posts: 2,965	Originally Posted by MB I wanna pick some of my own! MB, Right click on any of the forum pics you like such as Pink Shoes and drop down to Properties. This will will give you the URL address and site where it came from. Go to that site and browse away. Testosterone boys! Testosterone! It ain�t just for nose, ear and back hair anymore!

Re: Promise:... Anyone can do good if they post! _Larry_ #2345941 03/31/10 11:10 AM
Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 12,357 M maritalbliss Member
maritalbliss Member M Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 12,357	Originally Posted by _Larry_ The link is to the pic and how it gets to the post. Just look at the links and explore. There are bunch of places that offer FORUM pics. You gotta do FORUM type pics so you can post the link. The ones that offer IM pics or email pics or whatever are not suitable. Larry Ohhh...you mean like this? D-Day 2-10-2009 Fully Recovered and Better Than Ever! Thank you Marriage Builders!

Re: Promise:... Anyone can do good if they post! maritalbliss #2345952 03/31/10 11:16 AM
Joined: Sep 2005 Posts: 3,916 The Great State of Texas _ _Larry_ Member
_Larry_ Member _ Joined: Sep 2005 Posts: 3,916 The Great State of Texas	Originally Posted by maritalbliss Originally Posted by _Larry_ The link is to the pic and how it gets to the post. Just look at the links and explore. There are bunch of places that offer FORUM pics. You gotta do FORUM type pics so you can post the link. The ones that offer IM pics or email pics or whatever are not suitable. Larry Ohhh...you mean like this? Dang, that's good. But OMG, what has been unleashed upon us, inquiring minds want to know... I didn't want to download the toolbar. But that is a great site for emoticons and stuff. Larry

Re: Promise:... Anyone can do good if they post! _Larry_ #2345962 03/31/10 11:23 AM
Joined: Sep 2005 Posts: 3,916 The Great State of Texas _ _Larry_ Member
_Larry_ Member _ Joined: Sep 2005 Posts: 3,916 The Great State of Texas	Vibrissa. Maybe papasita. If you are reading here Vibrissa, PLEASE post more where you think it is appropriate. You have heart, mind and knowledge. And you did really good with your posts to mamasita. papasita. You are very smart guy. If I told you that in my long ago past, I learned how a mediator would often make both sides mad at him to get them to work with each other, would you be surprised? Er, and the tools used. Just saying. . . Larry

Re: Promise:... Anyone can do good if they post! _Larry_ #2345964 03/31/10 11:28 AM
Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 12,357 M maritalbliss Member
maritalbliss Member M Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 12,357	Originally Posted by _Larry_ [ Dang, that's good. But OMG, what has been unleashed upon us, inquiring minds want to know... Larry Oh, yeah - I'm cruising now! D-Day 2-10-2009 Fully Recovered and Better Than Ever! Thank you Marriage Builders!

Re: Promise:... Anyone can do good if they post! maritalbliss #2345970 03/31/10 11:32 AM
Joined: Dec 2006 Posts: 6,986 P princessmeggy Member
princessmeggy Member P Joined: Dec 2006 Posts: 6,986	OMG we've created a emo-monster!! LOL Bliss! Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage ********************* �In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.� Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story

Re: Promise:... Anyone can do good if they post! maritalbliss #2345980 03/31/10 11:38 AM
Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 531 G gonefishing Member
gonefishing Member G Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 531	OHHhh Maaaaannnnnnn = I am SOOOO not getting any work done today NOW... PINK SHOES Last edited by SisterReed; 03/31/10 11:40 AM.

Re: Promise:... Anyone can do good if they post! princessmeggy #2345982 03/31/10 11:40 AM
Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 12,357 M maritalbliss Member
maritalbliss Member M Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 12,357	Originally Posted by princessmeggy OMG we've created a emo-monster!! LOL Bliss! Next, total world domination.... D-Day 2-10-2009 Fully Recovered and Better Than Ever! Thank you Marriage Builders!

Re: Promise:... Anyone can do good if they post! gonefishing #2345983 03/31/10 11:41 AM
Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 12,357 M maritalbliss Member
maritalbliss Member M Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 12,357	Originally Posted by SisterReed OMG, I am laughing my head off! Too funny, Sister! D-Day 2-10-2009 Fully Recovered and Better Than Ever! Thank you Marriage Builders!

Re: Promise:... Anyone can do good if they post! maritalbliss #2345990 03/31/10 11:52 AM
Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 531 G gonefishing Member
gonefishing Member G Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 531	A tale about the purple ponie My boss once asked that I not book meetings back to back..that no meeting last longer than 30 minutes and that he actually have 2 - 3 full days a week to do realy work... A fellow EA looked him square in the eye and said "and SR and i want to ride on flying purple ponies - but thats not going to happen EITHER" - So Purple Ponies now mean, for me, an unresponsible request that just aint gonna happen no matter how nice it sounds. Thought I would share that.

Re: Promise:... Anyone can do good if they post! _Larry_ #2346020 03/31/10 12:28 PM
Joined: Jul 2005 Posts: 6,316 Michigan M MrsWondering Member
MrsWondering Member M Joined: Jul 2005 Posts: 6,316 Michigan	Well firstly, let me just wish everyone a How great is it that is pretty much here? I it! I think [] what Larry is saying, is that we need all the around here that we can get, and you don't have to be this guy~~~> to qualify! Too many people are scared of arriving here~~~> and worry that for them to be effective they need posts that sound like this~~~> But RELAX, take a and realize that sometimes a simple or a [to be continued...cuz apparently only so many images will post in one post here...hmmm...] FWW ~ 47 ~ Me FBH ~ 50 ~ MrWondering DD ~ 17 Dday ~ 2005 ~ Recovered

Re: Promise:... Anyone can do good if they post! MrsWondering #2346021 03/31/10 12:28 PM
Joined: Jul 2005 Posts: 6,316 Michigan M MrsWondering Member
MrsWondering Member M Joined: Jul 2005 Posts: 6,316 Michigan	or even a is exactly what is needed! No one is gonna tell you to Hey, even comments from a danged ole will do! Cuz we don't need to leave peeps like this~~~> or this~~~> Help 'em out, they will think Dat about sum it up, Larry? Mrs. W [to be continued...] FWW ~ 47 ~ Me FBH ~ 50 ~ MrWondering DD ~ 17 Dday ~ 2005 ~ Recovered