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You are wrong. She may not be sleeping with OM yet, but she knows exactly who she was going to openly date if you agreed to date her friend. It's at least an emotional affair, and it's probably that old friend who's been circling the water waiting for you to divorce. There is another man who is meeting her needs; otherwise, she would want you to meet them.
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Nal, I am making an assumption based on your thread title:
Divorcing after 8 years and 3 kids
.... To me, implies that you are in the "process" of a divorce, and the divorce it is not YET final.
Is my assumption correct?
If my assumption is correct, WHEN will your divorce be final? (as far as you know).
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i beleive this to be very true myself but that other dude better back off he has no idea what i am capable of
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this is true however i do not know what she has done so far in terms of going thru the process if she has even started it at all the only thing i know for sure which is probably nothing at all is that she told me we are getting a divorce
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can some 1 tell me the process of divorce
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If you haven't been served, you're not getting a divorce.
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i beleive this to be very true myself but that other dude better back off he has no idea what i am capable of
What are you capable of?
Please, try to write in complete sentences.
It's quite difficult to determine your meaning sometimes.
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this is true however i do not know what she has done so far in terms of going thru the process if she has even started it at all the only thing i know for sure which is probably nothing at all is that she told me we are getting a divorce 
Unless you have been served some sort of papers, you are not "in the process".
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can some 1 tell me the process of divorce
YOU do this.
Look it up yourself.
It's your job to learn the facts of your situation, not ours.
Google "divorce" and your state.
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i have not been served so i am good for now
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t/j
Would you recommend changing course once 'officially served'? I ask because my WW just filed yesterday and I was working a Plan A.
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NAL- Threatening divorce is a pretty common wayward tactic. My WW did this for about 3 months. She didn't actually start the process until yesterday.
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she has this old grade school friend in FL that has come out of the blue and has been circling like shark he has feeling for her
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so you think this is just a threat ?
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so you think this is just a threat ? What do you think?
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i think it is a damn good threat and i need to get my $hit together fast.
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what do you mean changing course ?
well we have been seprated since nov 09 but just last month she came to this divorce conclusion
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i think it is a damn good threat and i need to get my $hit together fast. You should have gotten it together when you separated. Like others, I don't think she's going to file, at least not yet. I also agree with Pep - whether or not there is an affair, your course of action should be the same: work on yourself and Plan A your wife. Have you read Plan A? How are you going to implement it? What are you working on TODAY?
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she has this old grade school friend in FL that has come out of the blue and has been circling like shark he has feeling for her WTF??? One page ago you were ready to swear on a stack of Bibles that your W was not in an A! Now this??? How can we help you if you withhold information like this???
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not holding info i mentioned this friend before
and i am sure she is not having an affair
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