Yes I can let it go to voice mail but I'm always curious to see what she may have to say. All of you are so creative with your ideas. I think I will try the whistle and I love the "hi you've the happy couple and we are so sorry we can't entertain you right now because we are too busy entertaining each. If we EVER get a minute, we may call you back, please hold your breath".

I would sing.

Just burst into song. I know this sounds stupid, but it isn't the reaction she wants. She wants you to be upset, she wants you to argue, to rant, to do something expected.


So, sing. Pick a song that you hate, that is repetitive, like, "Who let the dogs out", or maybe a Broadway tune, that will hang in her head, like "The Sound of Music".

If you are a good singer, it will give you some practice.
If you are like me, and a lousy singer, it will make her hang up faster.


Either way, she won't know how to react. If she does start talking, just keep singing.


Another possible response is to pass the phone around, and have everyone just laugh into it. See, if she feels everyone is just laughing at her, and that YOU are laughing at her, she will stop.

The point of her call is to UPSET you. She is after a reaction.

Don't give her the satisfaction.


If you change numbers, that is what she is after, and she will just chase that number down. It's a never ending cycle.

Making her feel stupid is your only possible defense.

Sing this - or get it recorded and play it

That song is perfect!

I recently wrote in my journal:

I am deeply comforted by the knowledge that she wasn�t and will never be woman enough to take my man. The only thing she was good enough for is a few of his crumbs when he was at his very lowest point.

i believe the song was written just after Lorretta caught her hubby with another women. they were on tour and she came back to their trailer to find h with some state fair tramp...kicked her out of the trailer and wrote that song...

Do you just enjoy being triggered?

Change the numbers.

I love it, lol. That's what I'll do is start singing. I like that song by Loretta Lynn. I also like to pass the phone around and have everybody laugh into the phone. Yes it's true, her goal is to get under my skin, but I'm gonna flip the script. I'll let you all know what happens. Now I'm almost looking forward to her calling. I'm so bad :-)

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I was just kidding. You knew that, right?

Anyway, nice new thread you have here

Kinda like the new marriage YOU have started. Bad things happen to good people, good things happen too!

Larry

This really is as simple as changing your number.

I recommend applying the KISS method to all situations like these... Keep It Simple Stupid!

None of this needs to be complicated!

We changed ALL of our numbers!
My wife and I have the same messages on both of our cell phones.... Hi you've reached tst & SMB (with our last name), please leave us a message.

If either of us were to change our messages, it would be a big red flag for the other....

let's seeeeee....$30 or...a chance of the A being rekindled....gosh that's a tough one.....no


change your number, don't play with fire

atually - my H and I have set up each others voicemail...My voice on his "hi you have reached Mr. Reed...hes away from the phone righ tnow blah blah

mine has HIS voice - Hi, you'v reached Mrs. Reeds ...she is away.


I just remembered!!! the one time my BH ever gave his cell out to an OW - he screwed up and gave her mine...she ws suprised when I answered the phone. He claims it was a joke - the guys at work pressuring him to give a number so he did but he had no intentions of following up with anything. Thats neither here nor there...what ever was the intent - nothing happened cause he accidentally gave her my number instead of his..

Well I've decided that I am not changing our number AGAIN. I have access to the phone bill online. It shows every call, text message and website he has been on. He won't even answer the phone if it's not someone he knows, I will but he won't because of her. Her cell # is blocked on both of our phones. She uses her kids cell phone to call us. She blocks their #. Please know it's not a daily event, maybe once or twice a month.

She's not that crazy, but yet it is annoying when she does do it. Last time she called I told her if she called again I would tell her husband some things about her that he probably doesn't know. I think that scared her. I did an extensive background check on her.

Yes Larry I knew you were kidding.

Larry

tst, I'm sorry but I don't understand what the face means. I'm a little slow sometimes, just ask Larry, lol.

Does the face symbolize that you disagree with the decision NOT to change our number? Every activity that goes on with the cell phone I am totally aware of it. I changed my number once and she got it, she can get it again. Being that the position that we are in, it can be easy to get our new number. I've decided I'm not spending another dime on her. If it gets out of hand I'll just file the restraining order and she does'nt want that being that she is already a "felon". That's one of the things my H didn't know about her before the A or it would have never happen.

Yeah, I think tst disagrees with you regarding hanging on to your number.

I can kind of see your point as far as the OW getting your new number. She possibly could. I'd still change it, though. The cost isn't spending money on her - the blame for having to disrupt your life with changing phone numbers falls to your H. I'd change it and make sure to tell everyone that it is not to be given out.

As far as the RO is concerned - I believe you need to prove that you are in imminent physical danger in order to get one. And in the event you were able to persuade a judge that phone calls once or twice a month make you feel like you are in danger and could actually get one against her, it could very possibly send her the message that you are in fear of her, or that she figures large in your world. Do you want her to feel that way?

I think the only legal thing you could do is try to file a harassment charge. You need to document the calls. Have you saved all of them? Have you called the police to determine what they define harassment to be?

I would definitely change the number again.

Can you also call your phone company to see if you can reject all blocked/private calls? Some have that service...

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Ahem.


Nope, you were not slow, you were obsessed, hung up, stuck in a rut. Huge difference. Once you got a somewhat gentle nudge in the appropriate place, you caught on fast as can be, and have made progress at a fantastic rate, in leaps and bounds as they say.

That proves you are NOT slow.

Your husband isn't slow either. He was stuck in his own place. How are you guys doing these days?

Larry

Like others, I disagree with your decision.

I vote for changing it, too. Yeah, maybe she'll get it again. But it's too dangerous of a door to leave open.