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Marriage Builders Forums Infidelity Surviving an Affair Wife in 4 month affair, so far "it's all my fault"

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Re: Wife in 4 month affair, so far "it's all my fault" Just_a_Guy #2353569 04/13/10 10:26 AM
Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 12,357 M maritalbliss Member
maritalbliss Member M Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 12,357	Originally Posted by Just_a_Guy So any follow up out there? Two months ago I did a very limited exposure to 4 of her 'christian' friends (3 enablers, 1 more mature wise lady) and to 2 pastors. So she has a mix of advisors but the most powerful influence is her sister. They have always been 'close' but now it is excessive and maligned against me. Just a big mess... She made the mess. She can thank you later after you've cleaned it up by starting with EXPOSURE. Two months ago you attempted an 'Exposure Lite'. That doesn't work. That only flags the infidels that word of their A might leak out and gives them ample time to paint you as a psycho, smothering, lunatic, [your adjective here] who has gone crazed and made your poor long-suffering W miserable/threatened her physically, blahblahblah. You can clean this up, though. Re-expose to those you exposed to earlier by adding this to the beginning of your first exposure paragraph: "As I spoke to you about a few months ago, I am deeply sorry to tell you that WW's affair continues." And go from there. This is NOT to be vindictive or to get revenge! Exposure is intended to KILL THE AFFAIR. Or stay silent and kiss your M goodbye. You choose. D-Day 2-10-2009 Fully Recovered and Better Than Ever! Thank you Marriage Builders!

Re: Wife in 4 month affair, so far "it's all my fault" maritalbliss #2353668 04/13/10 11:59 AM
Joined: Jun 2008 Posts: 1,277 SDF-1 G Gack1 Member
Gack1 Member G Joined: Jun 2008 Posts: 1,277 SDF-1	Did you call OM's wife yet? Me 34 WW 30 Abandoned Feb 17th 08, D-Day Aprl 27th 08. Returned home Jul 7th, OC born 12/30/08 The FOG is clear, and we are in recovery.

Re: Wife in 4 month affair, so far "it's all my fault" Gack1 #2354084 04/13/10 07:45 PM
Joined: Dec 2007 Posts: 5,860 T TheRoad Member
TheRoad Member T Joined: Dec 2007 Posts: 5,860	expose to everyone now

Re: Wife in 4 month affair, so far "it's all my fault" TheRoad #2356303 04/16/10 10:38 PM
Joined: Dec 2009 Posts: 1,921 H helpthelostdads Member
helpthelostdads Member H Joined: Dec 2009 Posts: 1,921	Any update?

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