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You guys are so smart!!
I got a return email that said "he" is not interested in talking on the phone and that if it is to much trouble to email "him" then "he'll" just wait for family members to ask him.
ME: BS 31y/o H: WS 35y/o DS: 3y/o DD: 1y/o Married: 10 years OW: co-worker D-DAY 9/11/08 text messages EA 2ND D-DAY 5/16/09 Walked out together OFFICIAL D-DAY 12/1/09 (confession) (EA began 9/08 PA 12/08. PA ended 4/09 but EA continued) NC letter 1/10 FINAL D-DAY 3/31/10 (continued phone calls and emails) NC Email 4/10 Recovery 4/12/2010 Still his sunshine = ) http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/u...904#Post2347904
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You guys are so smart!!
I got a return email that said "he" is not interested in talking on the phone and that if it is to much trouble to email "him" then "he'll" just wait for family members to ask him. Ok, now she knows you are trying to get through to him and will try and block you. Do you know where the OWH works so you can call him? Do you know where they live? Why not disguise your # tonight using *67 and calling his house to see if you can get him? If she answers and tries to block you, keep calling back until you get his attention.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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So much for parental support...
"This is xxx (OWH) step mother. OWH's father, and the owner of this account is facing surgery next week. I log into his Facebook account periodically because he doesn't and saw the messages. I hope you understand but I have deleted the messages to spare his father the upset. OWH know I have seen them, I told him if he wants his father to know he can tell him personally but I would prefer he doesn't.
I understand and I am very sorry you are having to go through this. You have two beautiful children and I hope you are able to work through this situation."
ME: BS 31y/o H: WS 35y/o DS: 3y/o DD: 1y/o Married: 10 years OW: co-worker D-DAY 9/11/08 text messages EA 2ND D-DAY 5/16/09 Walked out together OFFICIAL D-DAY 12/1/09 (confession) (EA began 9/08 PA 12/08. PA ended 4/09 but EA continued) NC letter 1/10 FINAL D-DAY 3/31/10 (continued phone calls and emails) NC Email 4/10 Recovery 4/12/2010 Still his sunshine = ) http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/u...904#Post2347904
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Thats ok! Don't let it bother you one bit! Remember your goal here is to expose to as many ppl as possible, not to get public approval. Please do try and get through to the OWH, though. The OW is trying to block you and if she is trying to block you that means that he probably doesn't know and she wants to keep her options open with your husband.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Thats ok! Don't let it bother you one bit! Remember your goal here is to expose to as many ppl as possible, not to get public approval. Please do try and get through to the OWH, though. The OW is trying to block you and if she is trying to block you that means that he probably doesn't know and she wants to keep her options open with your husband. I think he must know - because his step mother said that OWH knows she has seen the messages. AT LEAST you did not get the response from OWH that I did - telling me "no wonder your husband is leaving you" and calling me pathetic, desperate, and immature. It seems his stepmom is supportive of your situation. Hopefully she can be a stepping stone to checking OW's actions.
Me: BW, 27
Him: WH, 29
DD 4
DS 1
Married 07/25/09
A began end of 08/2009 (possibly sooner)
D-Day: 3/31/10
2nd D-Day: 4/9/2010
3rd D-Day: 4/21/10
Plan B (shortlived as it was): 18/05/10
WH decides to work on marriage: 20/05/10
False Recovery, Back to Plan B: 13/08/10
Filed for D Feb 2011, D April 2012
Looking forward to the sunshine and rainbows life should hold for us all!
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I think he must know - because his step mother said that OWH knows she has seen the messages. This has to be verified. She can't go by what others tell her. People often lie about this. Even if he did see the messages, we don't know that the OW didn't spin the story. Secondly, she needs to ally herself with the OWH and keep in touch with him.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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ML - you are right. She DOES need to verify this. I never thought of the fact that OWH step mom could be lying.
Me: BW, 27
Him: WH, 29
DD 4
DS 1
Married 07/25/09
A began end of 08/2009 (possibly sooner)
D-Day: 3/31/10
2nd D-Day: 4/9/2010
3rd D-Day: 4/21/10
Plan B (shortlived as it was): 18/05/10
WH decides to work on marriage: 20/05/10
False Recovery, Back to Plan B: 13/08/10
Filed for D Feb 2011, D April 2012
Looking forward to the sunshine and rainbows life should hold for us all!
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OWH never would call. I finally blocked him/her email? Not sure how to reach him, but feel positive that he knows. Honestly I don't want to play games to try to get to him. I'm done wasting my time on them. If he wants to live in denial I don't know what I can do about it.
ME: BS 31y/o H: WS 35y/o DS: 3y/o DD: 1y/o Married: 10 years OW: co-worker D-DAY 9/11/08 text messages EA 2ND D-DAY 5/16/09 Walked out together OFFICIAL D-DAY 12/1/09 (confession) (EA began 9/08 PA 12/08. PA ended 4/09 but EA continued) NC letter 1/10 FINAL D-DAY 3/31/10 (continued phone calls and emails) NC Email 4/10 Recovery 4/12/2010 Still his sunshine = ) http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/u...904#Post2347904
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Remember your goal here is to expose to as many ppl as possible, not to get public approval. This is a very good point that I need to remember each day!
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