-Spend at least 15 hours a week of UA with Broken (M, on list 2)
-Spend at least 15 hours a week doing family activities (P, on list 2)
-Stop recreational internet activities (Mafia Wars), (G on list 2)
-any internet usage will be in the presents of Broken ( H, on list one and O, on list 2)
-Plan a date outside the house with Broken once a week (M, on list 2)
-Pull bigger load in household duties (M on list 2 (meeting EN�s))
-Account for all time away from Broken (H, on list one)
-Go to bed at the same time every night I'm not at work (I work from 11 PM-7AM, for now the only way that can change is if I change jobs) (Q, on list 2)
-Not make any plans or decisions until AFTER I have spoken to Broken and have 100% enthusiastic agreement (E, on list two)
-Only spend time with friends if Broken is with me (T, on list 2)
-Continue to read and reread books (SAA, LB, HNHN) (R, on list 2)
-Complete love busters worksheet (I have already done the EN one) (R, on list 2)
-Read and study Broken's EN work sheet (R, on list 2)
-Continue IC or begin MC with broken if she desires (S, on list 2)
-If Broken has errands to run, I will go with her (unless she wants to be alone)
-Be available 100% of time (H, on list 2)
OK these next three items need some thought!
-Create opportunities for Broken to have 1 hour of "her time" a day
-Continue to allow unrestricted access to email, FB, cell phone, financial statements
-Stop the excessive drinking I did occasionally, when I do have a beer, limit it to 2-3 at most
-Wife having one hour of alone time is not going to work if you are both working the MB Program�. I would leave this out.
-Drinking���. I would ask her how she feels about you drinking at all! This is easily a Love Buster and needs discussed and she MUST be enthusiastic about you drinking a beer, or you stop drinking entirely!
-The other one that concerned me only had to do with FaceBook�. Is your wife ENTHUSIASTIC about you having a social network account?
Are you willing to eliminate any of these questionable things without discussing them with your wife?
The first category is a list of one-time EPs that you need to make sure you complete.
The second category is a list of EPs that you will follow for a lifetime.
So let�s start with your first category items. Here�s the changes I would recommend that you do!
Remember�. You�ve done some of these, but they MUST stay on the list for accountability reasons. OK?
A) Change my cell phone number.
B) Change my email account.
C) Eliminate all social networking accounts (i.e., Facebook, Classmates, MySpace, etc.)
D) Make a copy of my vehicle keys and any other keys my wife does not have and give to her (i.e., safe deposit boxes, business keys, storage cabinets/lockers, etc.)
E) List out passwords and personal computer logins, and any other passwords my wife has not had access to.
F) Give my wife access to any banking/financial accounts, business and personal.
G) Install software that tracks all internet use, giving my wife administrative access.
H) I will contact an attorney that will work on my wife�s behalf and write a post-nup agreement.
Again, these are one time things that you set up and they stay this way without any maintenance.
Category #2 is a little more along the lines of EPs that you need to maintain on a continuous, consistent basis.
These are the changes I recommend! Again, you�ve done some of these, but they MUST stay on the list for accountability reasons. OK!
A) I will protect my wife and her feelings above all else.
B) I will not participate in any one-on-one meetings with women.
C) I will not discuss my personal marriage issues with any women.
D) I will not attend clubs, strip joints, or any such establishments
E) I agree to use POJA as a basis for all decisions.
F) I will be open and honest with my wife at all times about the past and present.
G) I will not participate in online gaming (mafia wars, etc.)
H) I will make a weekly schedule of all my time & If I need to make an adjustment to my schedule, I will notify my wife of the change ahead of time.
I) I will make my wife�s calls my highest priority by answering them or returning them immediately.
J) I will avoid all chat rooms, porn, member sites, etc.
K) I will trade phones with my wife at any time she requests. No questions asked.
L) I will leave my phone accessible to my wife at night.
M) I will commit to at least 15 hours of undivided attention with my wife to meet each other�s ENs every week
N) If OW finds a way to make contact, I will immediately end the contact and notify my wife about it immediately.
O) I will install a keylogger, GPS, or any other tracking system my wife may request.
P) I will commit to 15 hours a week of family time
Q) I will schedule & maintain healthy sleeping habits
R) Work, Study & Read all of The MB Program
S) Agree to MB Coaching (and IC if Broken wants me to do this)
T) Will not spend time alone with outside friends. I will only spend social time out with my wife.
Any Thoughts??