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MB, good job on catching him! Sorry to hear there is still contact. How are you handling this recent discovery?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I discovered on the no contact was broken on April 26th...(through spyware)
I told him I knew they were still in contact and he denied it. It became obvious there was something on his computer because I knew stuff I couldn't know so I just told him.
He broke down crying and told me about all kinds of emails, phone calls, and running together, meeting up for lunch...(all while working it out with me,in counseling with Steve Harley and all) He added info. I didn't know and it seemed like he had finally come clean but he still insisted there was no physical contact.
He told me how OW put a block on her husbands phone so that is why my attempts to call him didn't go through. I had also emailed him but it was really her responding as she blocked and forwarded my emails from going to him- and went to her instead. My husband confessed that he also filtered OW's husband's email account from coming to me. And that he did in fact email me once asking me to call him. (he actually found the email I sent him from snooping on his unfaithful wife)
So the next day I called OW's husband from my friends cell phone-- and exposed what I knew of the affair. We realized that they were both away - some place/same weekend--
I went home and asked my WH (again) if he had sex with OW. He admitted they did. And he finished telling me the rest of the affair story.
They were physical since December- kissing and touching and things went even further in Jan. Another time they got a hotel for a few hours. They went away for the weekend (business trip which really was a business trip by day but an affair trip in the evening)
As of now, OW moved away. No contact letter has been sent. My WH insists that he is clear about wanting me and this marriage and this family. He has expressed remorse and I do believe he is sincere. The computer has the spyware but he knows it. He has stopped carrying his cell phone at my request (iphone)at least for now.
I think for the first time, there is truly no contact.
Me:BW 34yo
FWH: 36yo
Married:11 years
Together:16 years (dated through college years)
3 Children: 8, 7, 2
EA 10/2009 PA began 12/09 lasted until 4/10
EA Discovery 1/10 & PA Discovery 4/10
What I thought was "no-contact" in 1/10 was a FR
Last known contact June 2010
Believe we are finally in firm no-contact and working on recovering.
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I As of now, OW moved away. No contact letter has been sent. My WH insists that he is clear about wanting me and this marriage and this family. He has expressed remorse and I do believe he is sincere. The computer has the spyware but he knows it. He has stopped carrying his cell phone at my request (iphone)at least for now.
. BRAVO to you for busting up this affair! 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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