((Calla)),

I also think that you sound depressed. You talk about how frequently he calls you during the day. The GPS on the phone is done to give you security of where he is. Is he doing 100% of recovery for you and dragging you along into it? No. Should he? I don't think so. Most of the BS's here actually have to carry the majority of the recovery for the first year.

To me it sounds like he is trying to do some of it. He can't do all of it, and he can't do a good part of it without your participation. Yes, he is responsible for what he did prior to d-day, but you will be responsible for your part, or lack there of, post d-day. I don't want this to sound like an attack on you. You truly sound like you are depressed to me and waiting for whatever to happen around you, to you. Action works against depression. Anger held in turns to depression. I think that you really need to put yourself into working on the recovery to heal yourself. This is the gift to yourself, not him (although he benefits too). But the healing is needed whether you decide to stay or leave.

Fled