Men won't stay obsessed with trying to do everything right for very long when the odds are slim on making his wife happy. When it doesn't happen, he feels like he failed, or worse, that he was betrayed. Discouragement turns into apathy and then the trying stops.


Yeah been there, The familiarity of this over time causes a lot of accepted beliefs also like , "She just doesn't love me or want me anymore" or worse can drive a man with self-esteem issues to work harder, give more, and sacrifice his mental and physical health if this isn't brought back to balance. KInd-of like doing a plan A way to long


Some women's tempers heat up a lot faster
than they cool off, which is not good physics.

For others, it is not anger, but simmering resentment over this or that they didn't get, don't have, or someone else has nicer. They can't ride by and see the flowers blooming without thinking about how their yard doesn't have ones as pretty. If they ever hit a rough spot in their marriage, they can't get over it, even when things are going well for them, and they'll bring it up whenever they aren't happy about something else.


Yes The natural need to adjust thier enviroment can definatly cause women to compare.. even compare thier husbands to others. It kinda feels like "The grass is greener".


Others, as mentioned above, think everything is just fine, but just don't think about being affectionate, loving and sexual. They love have SF five times a year. Doesn't their husband? Why isn't that enough for him?

This sounds like general SF observations, but I am thinking about those who are older and have been married longer, where SF has been ignored for a long time. Both men and women need to wake up and get to work on it, because some of the other items that may be unattended, like Attractive Spouse, and Recreation, are not as easy to achieve the older one gets.


Its like that old adage. "If you Ignore your health, it will just go away"