I'm sorry about your separation. I hope that you will be able to find the answers you are looking for. Maybe you will discover that your husband means more to you than you thought.<P>You say that you SOMEHOW want things to work out with your husband...are you going to continue working on rebuilding feelings for him?

Frank,<P>Thanks for your insight. I'm beginning to think you're right. I hadn't thought of it before, but you make an interesting point. I'm gonna think on that. Plus, take a hot bath <P>Hummingbird,<P>Thanks for the prayers and well-wishes. I agree that the "in love" feeling probably leaves and is replaced with something even possibly sweeter. I want the "in love" thing, and SO DOES MY H, so I guess we're stuck here. <P>Janie,<P>If you're still reading, I'd like to exchange email with you. We are in the same place.<BR>Nice to meet you too!<P>Pam,<P>I love my H. That part won't change. I don't know if I want to try right now to recapture the feelings. I'm tired. I'm sure you understand. My H means alot to me, but... and I mean alot to him, but... and that's where we get stuck!!!! Icky, I know! <BR><P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<P>Marriage: the most important contract you'll ever enter into, and the most sacred.<P><BR>

Sheryl,<P>Just here adding my sentiments along with everyone else. I don't really know what to say to you right now, cuz I thought things would be getting better for you two pretty soon.<P>Well, perhaps separation IS a good thing right now. Heaven knows you two need a rest from the constant torment you put yourselves through. Maybe after your heads clear and you've distances yourselves, you'll be able to know how to get that "in-love" feeling back. Perhaps you'll start dating again or something. I think you two have a good foundation that you can build from when you are ready.<P>I'm sorta like Hum... my foundation was whacked from the very beginning, and that foundation is what's important... <sigh><P>--andy

New Beginning -- My email address is <BR>Jane.Adkins1@Firstunion.com. I'd love to correspond. I think we both have spouses who love us, but are depressed/midlife/confused.

airheart,<P>ah, andy, I know what you mean. I am sitting here feeling like general crap. I feel terrible. I miss the H I used to know. I miss what's been lost. But frankly, it's been gone for a LONG TIME - at least one whole year, some people who've known us say nearly 10 yrs. Go figure.<P>I'm sorry for your pain too.<P>air-hug<P>janie,<P>I emailed you. Did you get it??<P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<P>Marriage: the most important contract you'll ever enter into, and the most sacred.<P><BR>

Cheryl-<P>Why did you take your rings off? my husband and i separated and we both took them off. does it have significance?<P>

gorg,<P>We have our rings on. We took them off the last time we separated, but have kept them on so far. <P>I think the significance is that we keep them on until we don't want to try anymore - rather, until it's over. <P>I'm sorry you're going through this too. It's awful.<P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<P>Marriage: the most important contract you'll ever enter into, and the most sacred.<P><BR>

Sheryl-<P>do you think since we took ours off that means it is over and there is no hope? <P>this is the toughest thing i have had to go through. i lost my father 6 months ago and now i have lost my H.<P>