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AnnaBelle Rose
Me: 29 WH:31 DS: 22mths M: almost 6 years, together 7 1/2
I am not a mistake. - ABR
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"He's just like you, you would like him"
(insert crazy emoticon here)
Me BH 40
Her XWW 34
Married 12 years
Feb 09 - PA #1 (w/married alcoholic)
Apr 09 - Started recovery, thought things were going well until...
Jan 10 - PA #2 (w/different guy on Facebook)
Dec 10 - Divorced
Now - very happy; no regrets
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"It was only for the sex, and the sex wasn't that good anyway. I don't know why I kept going back, it got boring really fast with her."
"I didn't plan for you to 'ever' find out." When I pointed out that this plan obviously failed, he said, "That wasn't in the plans, either. I didn't plan that far." (What happened to the plan for "EVER"????)
"Having sex with someone else doesn't mean I don't love you."
Lucky to be where I am, in a safe place to get marriage-related support.
Recovered.
Happy.
Most recent D-day Fall 2005
Our new marriage began that day. Not easily, but it did happen.
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Having sex with someone else doesn't mean I don't love you" What it really means is that you don't RESPECT me. Or our relationship.
Me, BW
WH cheated in corporate workplace for many years. He moved out and filed in summer 2008.
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"OW and I are so much alike. It is like we are family."  Do you commit ADULTERY with members of your family? POSOW even jokingly called him her "retarded cousin." Hmmmmmmm "She's not my type so I can't be having an affair with her." Hmmmm me thinks you're a LIAR. Now what about AP comments to BS? I got, "I haven't slept with anyone in 2 years" as PROOF that she wasn't sleeping with my WH. Of course she also said that he wasn't her "type." And she BRAGGED that she hadn't dated anyone for more than 2 years. Her FB states that she would NEVER get married because she couldn't stand being around anyone that long. Oh wayturds and their POSAP.
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING  Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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Here ya go sweet pea...... "You don't love me......if you REALLY loved me then you would want me happy, and she makes me happy...." "you only wanted me when somebody else had me....." And my all-time favorite...... "I'm glad you found those emails because they gave me the balls to do what I should have years ago and LEAVE your sorry a$$......".......(this one got my new floors installed and a new couch the next day......guilt CAN be rewarding......  ) I'm know I have more Karma honey, but I can't remember.....oh and you can sign me not2fun....
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Ohhhhh.....I remembered another.....and I SWEAR this has come out nearly EVERY WS foggy lips...... "You ruined all of my chances at happiness!!!!!.....you must really not love me if you don't want to see me happy......."...... 
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month after his first and only child was born
"she (OW) is my own happiness"--oops guess he forgot about the newborn
"it's me not you"
"i can really talk to her and she understands me"
"i only stayed with you because i felt sorry for you"
Last but not least.... when asked why he would do this after three miscarriages and finally we had a child (which he couldn't wait to be a dad) "I came to terms with the fact that i would be a part-time parents... i didn't want to get to atached at first knowing i wouldn't be there everyday from the begining" (vomit)
Truth can stand on it's own two feet....A lie needs support....FRM
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"There is no one else, I just need some space to think about things" (and he moved out two days later).
"I just can't be who I really am in this marriage"
"I've always felt my life would be short and I want to live it to the fullest while I can"
I don't love you and I haven't for...(insert the amount of time here). With my WH the length of time always varied. First he said the past year, then it was the past two years, then it went to the past 6-7 years (which is our whole marriage!).
"Marriage Counseling would never work because too much has happened and you would never trust me again" (while still denyin A!).
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Sidney, I actually got "I don't think I ever loved you." Bwaaa?!?! Really? Then what the heck have you been telling me these last 7 1/2 years?!? But of course he loved me during reconciliation! ugh, waywards...
AnnaBelle Rose
Me: 29 WH:31 DS: 22mths M: almost 6 years, together 7 1/2
I am not a mistake. - ABR
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Oh, and you gotta put the "Shes a good person." OW that is....I got that one... I got that one too! Right....because having an affair with a married man really demonstrates quality of character..... Here are some good ones: "I only married you because of the momentum leading up to the wedding." "You're ruining [OW's] life!" (by talking to her husband....) "She loves me like I want to be loved." (yes - which is why she was honourable enough to leave her husband first and wait till you left your wife -NOT!) And my all time favourite: "I love you, but it's more like I would love a sister." (and all the while my pregnant belly stands out between us....)
Me: BW, 27
Him: WH, 29
DD 4
DS 1
Married 07/25/09
A began end of 08/2009 (possibly sooner)
D-Day: 3/31/10
2nd D-Day: 4/9/2010
3rd D-Day: 4/21/10
Plan B (shortlived as it was): 18/05/10
WH decides to work on marriage: 20/05/10
False Recovery, Back to Plan B: 13/08/10
Filed for D Feb 2011, D April 2012
Looking forward to the sunshine and rainbows life should hold for us all!
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I've got quite a spike in views! You guys are great. I'm back from work now and after a quick change of clothes I'll be updating.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
I will not spend my life this way.
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Oh wait no, THIS is my favourite: "I'm glad this A happened because otherwise we would never be talking like we are now, I just would have left. Just looking for the silver lining here."  What crap waywards spew!
Me: BW, 27
Him: WH, 29
DD 4
DS 1
Married 07/25/09
A began end of 08/2009 (possibly sooner)
D-Day: 3/31/10
2nd D-Day: 4/9/2010
3rd D-Day: 4/21/10
Plan B (shortlived as it was): 18/05/10
WH decides to work on marriage: 20/05/10
False Recovery, Back to Plan B: 13/08/10
Filed for D Feb 2011, D April 2012
Looking forward to the sunshine and rainbows life should hold for us all!
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"She makes me feel ALIVE"
"I will always care for her"
"Her husband is abusive" (wow, it was a lie)
Me: BW, 46
Him: WH, 48
EA/PA with co-worker 8-08 to 7-09
D-day 7-29
NC 8-17
OW and WH both fired from jobs
OW lost court case for restraining order- judge called her a "practiced deciever" who manufactured evidence!!
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disgusted, what do you want your name put as on it?
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
I will not spend my life this way.
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NewPetals, I got the "I love you like a sister, too"....karma make sure you put that one, yeah, yeah......I really want to email this to my wh hoping to show him how run of the mill and stupid his affair is....not so wonderful and unique. But I know that is an LB.
BW me-41 WH -39 DS - 9 married 12 Yrs together(?) 18 yrs when A discovered DDay aug 2007 found MB dec 2007 Moved out april 2008 still seeing OW Plan B Okay I fixed the ages, it was looking screwy. 
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Make a new email and send it to him? He'll think it's junk mail. 
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
I will not spend my life this way.
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I don't love you and I haven't for...(insert the amount of time here). With my WH the length of time always varied. First he said the past year, then it was the past two years, then it went to the past 6-7 years (which is our whole marriage!). Got this too, with the ever changing amount of time, everytime he said it....until it ended up that he never loved me. 
BW me-41 WH -39 DS - 9 married 12 Yrs together(?) 18 yrs when A discovered DDay aug 2007 found MB dec 2007 Moved out april 2008 still seeing OW Plan B Okay I fixed the ages, it was looking screwy.
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Make a new email and send it to him? He'll think it's junk mail. I really think im gonna, karma....
BW me-41 WH -39 DS - 9 married 12 Yrs together(?) 18 yrs when A discovered DDay aug 2007 found MB dec 2007 Moved out april 2008 still seeing OW Plan B Okay I fixed the ages, it was looking screwy.
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I'm going to need some more WW fogtalk; there's precious little of it in a sea of all this WH fogtalk. So, guys?
I'm typing as fast as I can to write new entries though!
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
I will not spend my life this way.
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