Funny story, in a meeting of 20 execs including WW and OM, OM was giving a presentation. In the middle of the meeting/presentation, an email from WW dad arrived saying 'stay away from my daughter' (although it was worded a lot less subtley)! It popped up on the bottom of the screen (I think he has outlook) with a preview of the worst parts of the email! Everyone saw and knew exactly what it was about! Incredible timing! Oh the shame! They were both embarrassed beyond belief!! Ha ha.

OH that IS GOOD. I am loving THAT.

As much as you hate the idea of WW living with OM, remember that you are doing these things to try to SAVE your M. If you did nothing, then your M would most likely end and WW would move in with OM anyways. Do it the right way. Then you will be able to hold your head up high and say you did everything you could.

Work laptop = $2,000
Network version of Power Point = $200
Network version of outlook = $500

Outlook popping up a preview of your father in law emailing OM to stay away from your wife in front of the Board of Directors = priceless!

For somethings there is cash, for adultery there is Marriage builders!





Should I ave been an ad guy or what?

Prepare for VENOM!

Just ask if she wants a potato chip.

Or a cookie.

Would she like steak for dinner.

Would you like to watch"American Idell"

Things like that.

You're right. Priceless.
Venom has started already. Well into venom stage. Very hard to resist retaliation, but I have been just as nice as possible. We'll see how it goes tonight again.

Gack, I love these adverts anyway, but this would be brilliant.
Thanks for the laugh.
TM

The vision of this is a beautiful thing.

WW and OM up in an internal affairs (excuse the pun) investigation meeting/Questioning today. She called me in tears (which I still
don't like to hear) asking how I could risk her job with aformal complaint? I said it's what any sane person would do when OM is using his job to carry on with my wife. She didn't like that. I doubt anyone will be sacked, but it won't look good & will be very awkward. I'm expecting either massive amounts of venom later (was supposed to be meeting her after work) unless she does a runner back to OM and goes into communications blackout. We'll see.....

Love it. Stand back from the venom andy. Don't engage WW because she will not hear you while her head is exploding or imploding. Let the APs throw each other under the bus; let FIL, HR and whoever else deliver the A-killing blows. Pop some popcorn and just observe.

@ Gack LMAO Priceless

Good job, my man!! Just stay strong and don't let her venom bother you. It will blow over soon enough.

Either way.
Pay this no more attention than you would a small child pitching a temper tantrum because they did not get what they wanted.

That is what it actually is.


What do your wife and OM do?

Uh-uh. The actual question is, "How could YOU risk your job by having an affair with a co-worker?"

Thats exactly what I said, but then just ignored all the rubbish and got a pizza in. She ate, complained some more then went to bed. She is going to stay at OMs tonight after viewing another flat to rent. It honestly looks beyond repair, but now I'm expecting it, it somehow makes it easier to take all the crap talking from her and stick to the plan.

Andy-That's it. You need to stick to YOUR plan and not let your WW's actions determine what you will be doing. You need to ACT and not REACT.

Another tough weekend, although WW did stay at the flat. I was hoping to go out with her and start trying to have some fun. She refused on Saturday so I went out with some friends and had a great time. Unfortunately i had said that I'd do something with her on the Sunday morning, but I ended up in bed after s heavy night. It was a stupid mistake on my part, and it is very very rare that something like that happens, but it happened on a day I could have made real headway. Anyway, after she spent all day reminding me of all the reasons she felt she had to go off with OM (because of me), we eventually went to bed on good terms, promising we won't cut each other out of our lives, and she was even saying she wish it hadn't all happened now. She is still determined to find a new flat and move away to start again, but at least I made a minute bit of progress.

We're in separate beds by the way.

Three things that WW says are keeping her from coming back to me when before she thought she would (although the signs and what she was saying at the time were the opposite).
1: she could never see my family again because they would judge her and hate her.
2: she can't understand why I haven't deleted the proof emails. I said I can't trust her yet but will do in time.
3: Our friends have all taken my side and very few have contacted her. I've told her everyone would like to see us together again but she feels deserted, and could never be true friends with them again.

I'm struggling to see how to get round these problems. Should I just stick to the plan A and hope that she loves me again so much that it overcomes these problems? Should I get people to intervene in a particular way to show her she can come back? Should I tell her I've deleted the emails even though I haven't?

These problems are causing big stumbling blocks and regardless of who caused them to be there, they are still there! Thanks for all your support!

I see a problem there. The real recovery can't start before a person owns his/hers wrongdoings and faces the consequences. But your WW wants to avoid that as I see from these "stumbling blocks".

These "blocks" translate to me as "please do not judge me guilty because of my crime and please delete all evidence".

This is very dangerous thinking. The only way out for her is honest apology to your family and friends and consistently transparent behaviour after that for regaining trust.