Welcome to the
Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum
This is a community where people come in search of marriage related support, answers, or encouragement. Also, information about the Marriage Builders principles can be found in the books available for sale in the Marriage Builders® Bookstore.
If you would like to join our guidance forum, please read the Announcement Forum for instructions, rules, & guidelines.
The members of this community are peers and not professionals. Professional coaching is available by clicking on the link titled Coaching Center at the top of this page.
We trust that you will find the Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum to be a helpful resource for you. We look forward to your participation.
Once you have reviewed all the FAQ, tech support and announcement information, if you still have problems that are not addressed, please e-mail the administrators at
mbrestored@gmail.com
|
|
|
|
Joined: Oct 2006
Posts: 1,327
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Oct 2006
Posts: 1,327 |
Best advice I can give you right now.........
Call the coaching center. See if you can get Steve Harley Jr.
Drop the counselor.
Husband was unfaithful to me before and after our marriage, at least 7 times. I found out 13 yrs into the marriage. Trickle truth for an entire year. Several different d-days, so it was more like a d-year. Difficult recovery.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jan 2006
Posts: 3,093
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jan 2006
Posts: 3,093 |
Like I said, the term codependence does not seem to apply to the issue of the affair. It has to do with substance abuse.
Anyway.
My take on this is:::::
noanswers is AFRAID to expose the affair - as are most betrayed spouses.
Afraid of the fallout, afraid of the judgement, afraid of hurting the wayward spouse, of having to deal with an angry spouse, etc. etc. etc.
The fact is, the BS can and should expose this affair and watch it implode.
After that, see what this WH does.
If noanswers wants a divorce, then do that. It is her right, given the circumstances. But exposure has more of a chance of ending the affair than continued secrecy and protection of the WS and his OW.
The protection and lack of exposure serves no purpose other than to allow for the affair to continue unchallenged and uninhibited. Period.
SB
Lucky to be where I am, in a safe place to get marriage-related support.
Recovered.
Happy.
Most recent D-day Fall 2005
Our new marriage began that day. Not easily, but it did happen.
|
|
|
Moderated by Ariel, BerlinMB, Denali, Fordude, IrishGreen, MBeliever, MBsurvivor, MBSync, McLovin, Mizar, PhoenixMB, Toujours
|
0 members (),
554
guests, and
102
robots. |
|
Key:
Admin,
Global Mod,
Mod
|
|
|
Forums67
Topics133,625
Posts2,323,524
Members72,032
| |
Most Online6,102
Jul 3rd, 2025
|
|
|
|
|
|
