What a great topic. Thanks for starting it.<P>It's been 5 weeks since I got confirmation of H's affair, and his confession. He broke off affair immediately. I was certain I wanted a divorce, until I saw him the next day. I said I was willing to work on saving our marriage if he does two things: never has another affair, and comes to marriage counseling. He is doing these things.<P>Our marriage is back on track, and it's very exciting. It's like a second honeymoon! We were totally taking each other for granted. I'm exploring how I contributed to the atmosphere that made his affair possible. We're being intimate A LOT and it's great!!!<P>I still have my pain. I let myself feel it when it comes up. But it's subsiding. I'm grateful to be married to such a wonderful, caring, compassionate, intelligent, handsome, sexy man. <P>We even joke about the affair now, like how I'm going to time him when he goes to the store. I don't know if others deal with things this way, but I find our humor really helps us connect, and deal with it.<P>We're learning a lot about ourselves and each other, and I believe that already we have a better marriage because this was a wake-up call.<P>Sorry this was so long. I'm feeling inspired!

Today I thought we were one of the fortunate couples who had or would make it. Tonight I think if i am still on this mb we are no where near to making it.<BR> simone

This is a very encouraging subject, thanks. I hope to be on that road soon. H wants to come home and is having trouble leaving OW. He is afraid to tell her. But I have faith, at least tonight, that he will come home and work on our marriage. These posts have helped. Thanks