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This caller's wife has been in a 2 year affair and the man never exposed. He has kept it a secret the whole time. it starts about halfway through here - callers name is Ron: here Part 11: here This caller did not expose and Dr Harley called him an "enabler." "It's very difficult to overcome an affair when you become an enabler."Dr Harley: "In my judgement exposure would have ended your wife's affair."Dr Harley telling BTintrouble to "expose the heck out of this affair" and do not offer forgiveness. here
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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This caller needs my Texas boot in his a**!!  What a wimp!!! I get so mad when a BS won't stand up for his marriage and his children. 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Take a blood pressure pill before you listen!! 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I get angry too, at that sort of thing.
It's why I TRY to stick to "my" topics--mainly women, but one or two men, too (with one shining example of a man, Pariah. Kudos to you for still having a heart to give to animals. They appreciate it more, I think) , who have done and are doing their best to either recover themselves or their marriage.
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One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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Happy Birthday, Karmasrose!!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I know he needs to give a caveat that exposure might not work, but I can firmly attest to the fact that it killed my FWH's affair DEAD. DEAD. We're happily together today. THANK GOD FOR EXPOSURE.
Any newbie coming to this board is going to recoil from this whole exposure thing - thank God the OWH didn't!
My experience? I will NEVER tell a BS to NOT expose.
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D-Day 2-10-2009
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Aww, thanks, ML...  21st one... (Sorry for any T/Jing!)
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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Happy Birthday, Karmasrose!! Happy Birthday, Karma! ![[Linked Image from freesmileys.org]](http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-bounce016.gif)
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![[Linked Image from bestsmileys.com]](http://bestsmileys.com/birthday2/8.gif) Happy Birthday, Karma...
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You all really didn't have to...
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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I clicked on the link and it didn't display. Am I doing something wrong?
BS: 41
WS: 52
Marriage 20 years on 6/9/10
Dday on 4/27/10
Husband moved out 5/12/10
Plan B....5/21/10
DD 15
DS 11
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There is something wrong with the server right now. Hopefully they will get it back up soon!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Exposure is the smartest thing I've ever done. No matter what else may follow, that was the best thing.
Thanks for all the support along the way.
I wish you all well. I'm outta here.
Peace.
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This is timely My wife and myself had an interesting discussion about exposure last night. Her side of the "discussion" is why I don't feel she has earned her F (for FWW)  I'm thinking about starting a thread about it.
Me 34
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Abandoned Feb 17th 08, D-Day Aprl 27th 08.
Returned home Jul 7th, OC born 12/30/08
The FOG is clear, and we are in recovery.
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Dr Harley telling BTintrouble to "expose the heck out of this affair" and do not offer forgiveness. http://richwith.com/mb/Previous%20Programs/05-28-10/MB_052810_C.mp3
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Thanks Mel, for posting the link.
Really good stuff.
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fyi, they pay to air this show out of their own pocket. It costs them $100 a show so that is why they are taking donations, hence this notice on the radio page. I called the 800# and gave them a donation with my credit card. Support Marriage Builders Radio with a tax deductable donation to the Association of Marriage Builders Inc.
call 1-888-639-1639 or mail to PO BOX 335 Hugo, MN 55138
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I listened, and was surprised 2 hear in amongst the discussion about exposure, that the Dr and the Mrs said that plan B was when 2 expose. But it may have just been that they were recommending that Ron go 2 plan B and expose simultaneously because he hadn't up 2 this point.
Regardless, he's where he is for whatever reason. Lambasting him for not exposing earlier by calling him an enabler of something that obviously hurts him deeply (and he did say he thought he was doing the right thing, however wrong it 2rned out 2 be) isn't particularly helpful. Heck, there's even ways 2 call him an enabler that won't drive him away, in my view.
First time I've heard the radio show, though. Interesting.
-ol' 2long
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