If you want to read how to do a plan A while your wife has left, then read sickoflimbo's thread.

Sapphire - thanks for sticking with my thread. I think I've lost everyone else. What do you think I should do about money/ custody issues. If I fight she will see that as more control and I likely won't end up with anything more than I would get if I just agree.

Also, I have an issue with DD12. She told WW that she is not going with her. she said "If you don't like it you can change it". I'm happy to see my daughter gets it. However, WW see this as me manipulating her. How do I deal with that? She told DD12 that she is going with her tonight whether she likes it or not. What should I do?

You do not pressure your daughter to go live with her mom for 3 days so she can have 50/50 your daughter is old enough to make her own choices. Just say "I won't get in the middle of you and daughter if she does not want to stay with you."

I am glad that your daughter knows how wrong her mother is treating you, she is smart.

About money..what about it? DO NOT GIVE YOUR WIFE ANYTHING!!!! DO NOT SUPPORT YOUR WIFE WHILE SHE IS IN HER AFFAIR!!

Your job is to only support your kids, so if you want to make sure that they are taken care of give the money to your wife's mother, say "This money is solely for my kids, no one else, I just want to make sure that my kids are taken care of while they are with their mother." then thank her for letting your wife stay there while you fix your marriage.

I would start separating your finances, so your wife can't get to YOUR money, she can do what ever she wants with he money but you will not stand by while she takes your money and sleep with another man. This is not a LB, because YOU WONT be talking to her about it! If she brings it up reverse babble...say.."You right, married people should have joint accounts, and have and open and honest relationship what some ice cream?"

Don't discuss about separating the finances, why should you? Did she discuss with you when she wanted to sleep with another man?

About fighting for custody...FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT and FIGHT some more!!! Make her fight back!! She will realize that divorcing you will be a pain in the @$$

I would say you have 2 options
1) Keep doing a Plan A with her out of the house. (This is tought to do, read about others)
2) Move yourself into a good plan B. This has the best effect when she will notice a large difference between you being there and you not being there.

I did a plan A for about 2 months then I exposed (after I found this website, Plan A was just my intuition). I planned to continue Plan A, but she left and I decided that this is a good opportunity to go to plan B. I cut off funding and went dark.

As for the kids there are no court orders right now. You can try to keep them as long as you can if you want. Leave it to her to pick them up with notice. Let them decide what they want to do. More likely than not the kids just get in the way of the affair and she may be using them as leverage, trying just fight against you. I think your daughter knows best what she wants to do.