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Notable mention is that several posters at the end CAUGHT ON to her gig. Once one poster pointed out this sham, the others sort of got on board. So maybe it took one person to embolden others to say what they were really thinking....... I know when I joined this board in 2001, our threads looked alot like that and rarely did anyone pipe up. OW had the run of the board. I would sometimes say something negative about adultery and would be attacked by other board members for making "dj's."  whatever....I think at first people were caught up in her "horrible family" woes and all the other crap. It wasn't imminently obvious that she was still with Jeff when she met OM - it was barely mentioned in a lengthy post about all the other horrors in her life. If she were to post it here, or even on TOW board, people would know it was about infidelity immediately. Basically, she minimized her adultery and buried it under everything else. It worked - for a while. Eventually somebody is going to read it who has had experience with adultery and has their antennae up.
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You would think people would have had more HORSE SENSE than that!!!!! I can't believe I am the first to say that   she so funny! 
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Thanks for the links! Those must have been interesting times. I love the "focus on the positive" and "just a thought" lines.  Looks like I need to go read some history...
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From your answer to Shapette, it's hard to believe you had to spend too much time getting "stronger." Looks like you had a pretty good idea how trust worked even then.
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Wow; history is interesting ...
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From your answer to Shapette, it's hard to believe you had to spend too much time getting "stronger." Looks like you had a pretty good idea how trust worked even then. never mind
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Kay, thanks for your confidence but I already struck out with that poster. I gave her the exact same advice you did and she shot it down. We can hand her all the tools but if she refuses to pick them up..... 
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From your answer to Shapette, it's hard to believe you had to spend too much time getting "stronger." Looks like you had a pretty good idea how trust worked even then. never mind Sorry if I said something wrong; I realized after that post it looked a little confusingly worded. I was intending to say "Looks like you knew how to handle yourself fairly well when you got here."
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From your answer to Shapette, it's hard to believe you had to spend too much time getting "stronger." Looks like you had a pretty good idea how trust worked even then. never mind Sorry if I said something wrong; I realized after that post it looked a little confusingly worded. I was intending to say "Looks like you knew how to handle yourself fairly well when you got here." Thanks Markos! I did handle it pretty well, I guess. I was not in good shape when I arrived here and neither are most people when they arrive on SAA. That is what really makes me mad. No one defended BS's from that abuse back then, thankfully, we wouldn't put up with that crap nowadays. There would be hell to pay.
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Frankly, this particular wayward seems even more disturbed than normal, though it's hard to tell since there's no way to know the actual truth of the situation. She may simply be deep in the fog and as anonymous readers, we're only getting waylogic (which is why it doesn't make much sense). I read the first page and a half and then grew tired of it. Too much of it sounded like something my ex (wow, it feels strangely comforting to be able to say that) -wife might have written.
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