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The silver lining here is that he now has a history of taking children away from their legal parent, so you'll have leverage to keep visitation supervised and local. That was my thought. If he wants to see the kids, he has to come to your town, get a hotel and supervised visits. You are a good Mom even though it has to be difficult to be doing this on your own. Just remind yourself that God gave you these precious children because "you can do this". It gives me the shivers thinking how it would be if he was raising him with this OW. Should be plenty of temptation for OW in Florida with all those woman walking around in bikinis. 
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09
Quote: "First thing you do is pray; when there is nothing else to do, continue to pray."
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Believe me, I'm sure her being with other women is part of the arrangement. He's been trying to get me to hook up with another woman for the entire duration of our marriage. There's no way he'd let her skate on that.
Thanks for the good thoughts. I am a good mom, but I'm very tired. And it's a real wake up call what raising kids for 8 years out of the work force does to a career. Probably the worst thing about it to overcome is just simply feeling abused and abandoned. Sometimes I feel like there should be a reckoning, or a crash on his side that will vindicate all the abuse I've been taking. But that's vindictive, I know.
Up on top of the world one minute, and down in the dumps the next. What a roller coaster ride!
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