You and Mrs. W are so funny! It certainly helps.

This soul mate with an AP business just makes me crazy. I asked GM tonight and yes, he told that dirtbag whor* that she was his soul mate. Good lord, I would have killed for a smile from him and he gave her that!

So keep it up. Your jesting back and forth makes it all a little more tolerable and a little bit easier to get through with some semblance of sanity.

SANTA CLAUS is my "soul mate!" I love me some Santa!

Oooh that is a good one! Right now I am a little more partial to Jack Skellington though. The Pumpkin King with good intentions

Dear DWG: I know you don't believe it now, but one day you will laugh a little at what your H said to her. You won't ever laugh at the affair, but you will laugh at your H talking like the boy hero in a teenage girl's magazine.

Honestly, my H wrote (in an email that OW showed her H, and he told me) that OW "is a shrine and he wants to worship her".

I was at my lowest point then, discovering from OWH detail after detail of how my h had abused me during this long affair, but even then, I burst out laughing at that.

Your H didn't marry his soul mate, did he? He didn't think highly enough of his ho (literally in his case, I understand) to make her his wife. I bet he made sure to take her to restaurants with darkened windows, far from places where anyone knew him.

The proper spelling of that is SOLE mate; she is filthier than the stuff on the bottom of your shoe. He knew that even when he said those words to her.

And two????? Wow! If equipted like that everyone would be their own soulmate. It would be the end of singles bars.

"A boy hero in a teenage girls magazine!" You are too much! I love it. As a matter of fact I did laugh. He was a little puzzled by that so I asked him what that made him? Why when I was here he was the sole (another good one thank you!) mate of someone he had to pay to be nice to him? He was so fogged out he created a little love nest with plans with his faithful (my med bills said otherwise) ho. It really is funny in a very sad kind of way. And then there is the shrine of your FWH's. Where does this stuff come from? Does he talk to you like that? I mean really, it does sound so adolescent.

They had plans, she only needed a little place where she could have a little garden (with a picket fence I assume) but who on earth could he have ever taken her around? He knew that was not going to work but it did not stop him from letting her think it was possible. My sons would have puked and told him he was nuts and left in disgust if he had introduced them to her. His family who always thought I was not good enough would surely have loved that one, lol. Yes, they were darkened places they went. I would feel better had they not contaminated places I had wanted to go but never had and places that he could have been seen in. Ahh, that is all over and past but the rubble is so disgusting and it remains a big old pile still.

Still, Dr. Important Big Shot was in love with a woman who would not work a real job, lived off the government but was able to make a living on her back, drank herself into the hospital often enough, did all kinds of nasty drugs was stupid to beat all of that. Cheated the law, lived like a pig but she was his sole mate. It really is funny in a very sad and disturbed way.

Oh, my let's not bring Santa Claus into this, my wonderful hubby is beginning to resemble him. Poor thing 38 and almost completely white and almost completely white beard. Ya know, kids stare at him like you wouldn't believe at Christmas!

I have thought this very thing many times...that movies, TV, magazines, and other media glamorize and foster the fairytale and soulmate ideal. They also make extramarital affairs seem acceptable and justifiable for "true love's" sake. I think there's much more to this than most people realize. I believe that the entertainment industry has more to do with this problem than many people realize. I know that there have been times in the past (pre-A) that I have watched a movie and dreamed of living a real-life love story like that...

I agree though. There is no such thing as a soulmate, even though I believed at one point OM was my soulmate. It was just foggy, fantasy hogwash, but I believed it at one point.

Our pastor preached a sermon series on marriage and divorce a couple of months ago and stated it like this:

"If God truly has ONE person in this world designated for you, he brings you both together, and you say your wedding vows before God, then why do so many of these Christian marriages fail? Marriage is NOT about finding the right person. It is about BEING the right person."

PG01

s-o-u-l m-a-t-e = louse mat

Bwahahahaha! That is great! Thank you for a last laugh before I head off to bed.

Head off to bed?

It's time to get up, woman!

WW: Where have you been all my life?

OM: Too bad you're married with children.

WW: Is that a problem?

OM: No, not really.


They're really more like partners in crime than soul mates.