Myfamilyilove,

Like I said, think whatever YOU want. It really don't bother ME. Oh, boy, the volleyball game it's actually more interesting that your comments. For I have to admit that I found YOU rather amusing!!! Hahahahahahaha, I really needed a good laugh. PR just won the GOLd medal!!! Yes, you were saying?

You're attitude is the reason you are in this mess. It's all abig joke to you isn't it? "Oh I had a sordid A with my BH's business partner, ha ha ha but I don't really care, he needs to get over it!"

Just read your posts again

Poor myfamilyilove,

You are the one who doesn't get it! I'm not laughing at the affair. I'm laughing AT YOU!

My M is no laughing matter, nor I'm going to let jokers like YOU get in the middle of it.

ElC is a great man, as I am!!! I was a cruel and evil person while I was having the affair, and it's something that will always hunt me. Making ElC suffering as I did, is no laughing matter.

Try to find a new distraction in your life. My M doesn't need input from people like you. This is about helping M's, not making WS get upset. Although, again, you are definitely a joke!

I'm surprised a WW in your position even has the ability to laugh! But then again I suppose it does once again demonstrate how lightly you treat this whole situation.

And for the record, you've 'got' NOTHING

Myfamilyilove,

Blablabla... For the record, please find yourself something else to do.

You have no idea of how I feel right now, nor I'm going to spent my time letting a joker like you know. So, please, stop waisting my time. Right now, I have to concentrate in more important things, like my M! Unless YOU have a constructive input to help my M, please refrain from any comments.

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Myfamilyilove,

Thanks for your support... For the record, the MB Pros never leave a fallen angel behind. It's the inexperience ones Like You, who does. The Pros don't let a Ws get to them, they try differnt ways to reach them, until they finally do.

They told me already what to do, and so far, I'm doing it. I'm not making any LB's that could bother ElC. I'm letting him to make decisions, and sending him msg's letting him know that I'm waiting for him whenever he is ready...

So, good night!

Sorry, I know, I should just have ignore her. My bad.

Let's get back on track and help this poster! Keep your posts productive and respectful or refrain from posting.

Sorry, MB members, I was out of line. I know that you are trying to help. I'm too touchy and kind of desperate right now...

I'm losing hope...

Rizos,

And well you should! You don't even know to give your H a hug, all you are doing is talking and he has heard you talk for a long time now. What you going to do? What is your plan?

Please think about this.

JL

PS: The person you were arguing with was trying to help you. It is your choice to use the advice or NOT. But, you really did not help yourself with this exchange. You lost more than you won and I think you need to reflect on that fact, because I fear it is part of the dynamics of your marriage.

Rizos,

you lack of empathy and the ability to reach out. These are things you need to start practising. Immediately. You already had a chance to start with good things, like Just Learning said just to give him a hug. In the situations like this you will not pay attention of what you feel or think, you make the first step and reach out. You are afraid of making more mistakes, but yet the only thing you do is making them more and more.

You say you wait whether he gives you a second chance, but I'll bet he waits your actions first. Sit in your car, drive to him, march in the house and give him a hug, for crissake. Show you care what is going to happen to him and your M. Doing nothing is not a plan. ELC already made up his mind, he wants divorce. He doesn't have to think it over and over again. What do you want?

Rizos,

I don't think I saw an answer to my question. If you are not planning to take the children from your BH should he choose divorce, why are you discussing what would jeopardize custody with an attorney?

Still no answer, eh Rizos?

I can see why your H doesn't trust you and wants to file for divorce. You say you don't want to hurt him, you want a marriage, but when pressed on tough questions, you fold rather than answer.

He has good reason not to trust you, and you keep giving him even more reason not to trust you.

If you want any hope of saving your M you need to come back here and follow the Plan.

Plan Rizo is Divorce!

EE,

In terms of custody, we both agreed to joint custody. That will protect our daughters in case any of us go crazy in the future, again! He said he wants to have them 2 to 3 times per week and every other weekend. 50% custody, and alternate Holidays.

I'll do whatever is better for them, and our M. If he wants to see them everyday, I don't have any problem. We are both good parents, I might have gone wild once, but I have my feet on the ground again.

I have to take DD's to bed. I'll come back soon.

myfamilyilove,

Sorry for being too harsh the other day.

ElC still wants to get a D. He's protecting his space, and not letting me get any closer. He doesn't look at me. When I chat with him, he only answers what is related to DD's.

He started to chat more today, but only D questions. He has an appointment with a lawyer on Monday. He has been out this week, he's in VA on an interview. He said he wants to leave to VA alone. I told him that I would look for a job in VA, so that I could move to VA with DD, and we could ALL be together. I tried to convince him, to give the M another chance. I told him how selfish I had been in order to protect myself, etc. I told him that I would look for an affordable apt, and that he could have DD any time he want it.

He said that the affair is not what is influencing the D. That he just have nothing good left to give. And also that he wants a quick and ASAP D.

I have an appointment with Steve on Thursday, but he said he is not interested.

He clearly said that if I move to VA, I was going to be on my own. That he had already started to move on with his life.

I told him that I was not giving up. And that I was not expecting anything from him. Just a chance to heal him, and our M, without him having to do anything. To let me be his doctor.

Anyway, I'm telling Steve on Thursday, and see what I do from here on.

I'm so sorry for you all, Rizos.

I know MelodyLane, I apreciate your help, and the support that you have given to our M. I'm sorry for the hurt that I have inflicted to ElC, and for breaking our M. And
I don't even want to talk about the damage that I have done to our DD's...