Hi Bob.. thanks. I hope the stories can help others who are in the same position to rethink their actions before its too late.

No problem.

Larry

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Not everyone is brave.
Not everyone can fight this ultimate demon
Some people just want peace from the hopeless agony of betrayal.
I don't think Mike did this TO his WS and DD. He just needed out. Poor ******.
Maybe I am soft 'cos I was two feet to the left from preceding him eight months ago.
Horrible all round. Horrible...

I know this pain.. I was just like Mike fir awhile but then went too far the other way, becoming a hateful, screaming, vindictive, abusive shrew. Now I'm trying to learn the MB way...

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***Bumping up for new BS***

* bumping * for new BS.

Retaining your dignity in an undignified situation might just save your life.

Bob,


What a story. I can certainly relate to a certain extent.

My first thought, as awful as it is, was, "If he was going to kill himself anyway, why not execute OM first?"

Hi K

Knowing Mike as I do ( sorry DID), I suspect it wasn't a big theatrically planned thing. He just got too sad and hopeless to want to breathe anymore.

I'm interested in what has happened with his family (WS and daughter) since then. How is the daughter doing? This is just so horrible. I had some pretty dark days in the beginning, so dark I cringe when I think about them. I never considered leaving my son, not for a minute, but I can understand it.

Hi SL !

Well in the last year or so Squid has virtually quit Karate so I don't get to hear any of the updates nowadays. Last I heard Roxy was turning 18 and had something of a trouble set of relationships, unsurprisingly.

Joan is a drinking lush who moves from partner to partner. Roxy had nothing to do with her as of a year ago. I dunno if that changed.

And they call them " love affairs". Should call them pain affairs instead.

That is a great quote! What happened to the a**hole fireman? Whatever fog she may have been in, he knew exactly what he was doing to that poor man.

Hi Blade

I dunno what happened to the OM fireman. Didn't stay with Joan for long. Hardly worth all the hurt for them was it ?

That just stinks.

The kids really do get the poo end of the stick in all this, don't they. BOTH of her parents cut out on her. Talk about rejection at it's worst. I can understand Roxy getting into one bad relationship after another, at this point; her self worth must be in the toilet. She's probably pretty lost. It hurts to read stories like this. What an utter waste.

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Update on joan, roxy, fireman?

How long did it take for the OM to dump joan?

That is so sad. While I would never kill myself I can understand wanting to escape the nightmare.

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Thank you, Melody. UC, are you reading this?
Mulan

Bob, I have a similar story. I once deposed a guy claiming a back injury and , shortly after the deposition, learned he had hanged himself in his garage.
Seems his wife was cheating on him and he discovered it by the caller ID on his phone. She was supposed to be in California with her sister , but called from Texas. He eventually found out she was with the neighbor guy at a hotel down there.
Long story short, the woman moved out to be with the OM. Thye would ride their snowmobiles through his yard and taunt the poor BS. Thye had two kids and one of the girls found him in the garage.
To make matters worse, the WW then filed a worker's compensation claim, claiming that the guy's work related back injury caused him to be depressed leading to suicide.
I was busy and we farmed this case out to another lawyer, a well known big shot in work comp in Minnesota.
Well, unbelievably, he settled with the woman and her kids for a decent amount of money.
It was insane IMO. It was clear this guy's back injury had nothiong to do with his suicide and the cheating wife walked of woith about 60,000. I never should have let this go from my office.

I attempted suicide after Dday...and it is selfish...but just so you know the frame of mind I was in...my WH was basically throwing me away like trash, telling me he never loved me, he never wanted DS, never wanted to get married, basically that our whole 15 years together was a lie.

And of course he was saying it was all my fault...the pain I felt was unimaginable..it was a pain in my gut, I saw no escape from it...I saw no future for my life...My WH was saying things like if my depression was passed on to DS that it was all my fault, he kept telling me how he didnt love me and he loved someone else....

I felt that truly my DS would be better off..if Wh thought this OW was so great that WH and OW would take good care of DS and that no one needed me....I felt like a burden, I felt like if I raised my DS I would ruin him and he deserved better then me. I need this horrible feeling to go away and badly....I was a mess now and was in such pain that I was kind of useless to my DS at the time after dday....What kind of mother could I be, my WH had convinced me that I was no use to anyone....and being depressed before Dday he easily convinced me....

So I chose to end it all for everyones sake....luckily I had a vision befor I passed out of DS goin to school and telling his classmates that his mom was dead.....I got help in time and DS still has his mom....and I am a great mom....I know that NOBODY loves DS like I do. He is my baby and I am so glad I am still here to share his life with him. I got help for my depression and am on wonderful meds that I have needed for a long while.

So my point is you never know what is goin on in a persons mind and I feel for BS that succeeded in suicide and their families. My WS said to me when I woke up in the hospital "just tell the doctors that your H loves someone else that I dont love you anymore" and "That was selfish of you to do that werent you thinking of DS"

So I dont really know if WS' ever "get it" my WH did not blame his actions at all. I think my WS would have had it made with out me.