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Good job on the VAR! The GPS is probably most important intel you can get going now then. Unless you can afford a PI to follow her.
You need to get the goods(quietly) on OM as well. Did you run the report through intelius on his cell #? Thanks Susie for all your help on this. I hope I don't find anything to confirm my suspicion...god I love this woman. I can't afford a PI. I don't know the number of the OM or I would have traced the number already. When he called it showed as unknown name or unavailabe. I looked at the numbers on my phone bill but they were numbers I knew already. Like I said before she would go to her mom's house to talk...that's what she admitted. I'll keep digging until I know for sure that nothing is happening. Thanks again for your help...
"Love is a gross exaggeration of the difference between one person and everybody else". George Bernard Shaw
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I'll keep digging until I know for sure that nothing is happening. The thing is...you already KNOW something is happening..an EA. An EA endangers your M as much as a PA. The OM has met some of your W's emotional needs and she has begun to fantasize about him. She basically gets a zing or a high when talking/seeing him. Dr Harley has had so much success with helping marriages recover from affairs because he treats them like an addiction (which they are) which he has a background in. It is highly unlikely that your W will stop this on her own. The reason for the snooping is to a)find out who the OM is and b)get your evidence so that you can move to the next step ~ EXPOSURE which is an extremely important step towards ending the affair and also begin de-fogging your W.
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You may have already covered this base but do you have access to your W's phone records? Have you checked all the outgoing numbers for anything that you don't recognize? You can *67 to see if a male answers.
Also if you check her contacts, she may have saved his cell # under a different contact name or a fake contact name. It may be time-consuming to go through and look and try to figure it out, but is probably worth a shot. My H had his OW's cell no listed as a secondary cell for one of his friends.
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Like I said before she would go to her mom's house to talk.. How well do you know her mom? Do you believe that she would facilitate her daughter using her house to conduct an A? If not, you may want to consider having a talk with her about what's been happening and ask for assistance in stopping the A.
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