Many of us BS fit the quote above.

And I think we fit it because we let the A eat at us and transform us in bitter people.
It is important to be aware of this and work on being loving and caring and positive. Because at times the A and the end of a M can actually be a blessing as they give us an opportunity to better ourselves and find our strenghts.
blessing

I am NOT bitter and it makes me angry when people say this to me. I really am not. I am truthful and honest. When something is hurting me, I let people know. I don't let it rule me NOW. I have changed. What I was talking about was the jealous raging person I was before I knew about MB. I was insecure and I AOd and DJd all over the place. I was NOT a person I liked to be.

Being in Plan B and pulling off a relatively DARK one has helped me to not only survive, but THRIVE. I have made small changes that have built up to bigger ones and I am PROUD of who I am becoming. A work in progress.

Scotland, I was not thinking of you at all about being a bitter BS, to the contrary, you are an example of how plan b actually transforms a person into a better one, accepting and loving.
I think I was thinking more about myself, as sometimes I have to catch myself and be aware of my thinking and actions. Otherwise I risk for the bitterness to rule me.
I know my WH has been telling people that I am angry and want to punish him.
I do not know where he gets that from as I do not even talk to him. He must get it thru the grapevine. I do not want to be an angry person who punishes people. I believe I am not, so I know how upsetting it is to be thought as angry and bitter when that is not the case.
blessing

Okay, sorry. Sometimes it is hard to understand people's tone on here since it is words only. I don't think of you as bitter or as punishing only sad and hurt.

I KNOW that Plan B will help you. I have seen how much better I feel and I wish that for everyone. I too feel like some days I am just surviving. Going through the motions hoping for a better day. Honestly though, a couple of weeks ago, I started to feel happy. Almost like my old self long before the A. I wish that for you too.

See, you shouldn't even be hearing that your WH thinks that you are punishing him. You should be protecting yourself from hearing things like that and asking people to help you. It is against everyone else's instincts that we would not want to hear about our WH. Really though, why should we want to? We don't want to be hurt again and again and tortured about how "happy: our WH is without us and how we should just move on. After going through all of this, I actually feel really sorry for Jennifer Aniston. She had to go through all of this pain and humiliation in the limelight and had to talk about it over and over again. She is still seeing the things written, although, I think she might get a kick out of some of the more recent news.

Sorry, I just rambled and rambled. Let's get on with getting ourselves healed from this mess. One day at a time.

Ah-ha! (not ya'll, scot and at)

The mystery unraveled.

Pg. 16 has her on the floor praying in the bathroom.

Pg 17 has her leaving her H seven months later.

Pg 124 says that she found her guru ONE MONTH after that night on the floor, via a picture in David's apartment.

So she was seeing David AT LEAST six months before she left her husband.

Thanx CWMI. At least we have PROOF now. See waywards are so dumb that there is ALWAYS proof.

went to see the film at the cinema and...

Eat Pray Love Vomit

(wish I knew how to do that puking icon)

Yup your all right and I was wrong. I must have been so foggy when I read that book, I couldn't even see my own hands. What a load of toosh.

Worst bit of the film - When on the rooftop she imagines that her husband is there and he forgives her, but really she decides to forgive herself.

Best bit of the film - When her husband Steven says to her, you didn't even give me chance to fix anything? You didn't even tell me what was wrong? No you can't have a divorce and she sits there like a muppet.

All I can say is I am sure she is a nice lady and can only comment via what I have read/seen but she strikes me as someone completely self obssessed, thinks her wants and needs are the only thing that matters and then made a big drama about what most people do when a marriage ends..... grieve...

She ate some pasta, prayed a little and then had a holiday in the sun in Bali.