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Allie, You took a lot of posts the wrong way. The one by PB in particular. Are you hyperdefensive by nature? (I personally have a little bit of a tendency to do that myself) If so, it might be good for you to acknowledge that and be aware of it as you thru read posts...re-read them a few times before you write anything off as negative. Pep's advice to take the focus off yourself and instead refocus it on Recovery and your BH is actually spot on... Part of the reason MB is so successful is because it gives both wayward and betrayed spouses a PLAN and HOPE to focus on for a happy M. Something proactive you can do vs focusing on how you feel. This sure did help me in Recovery  Hopefully you will keep posting so that we can help you through the steps of Recovery...which actually should be your top priority if you really are focused on your H's pain...and not your own. Posters actually REALLY do want to help you and your BH use the MB concepts to rebuild your M!
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Posters actually REALLY do want to help you and your BH use the MB concepts to rebuild your M! This is really very true ~ my FWH rarely (and I mean VERY rarely) posts and he actually came out of the woodwork to post to you...that is saying something!
Me,BW - 42; FWH-46 4 kids D-Day #s1 and 2~May 2006 D-Day #3~Feb.27, 2007 (we'd been in a FR) Plan B~ March 3 ~ April 6, 2007 In Recovery and things are improving every day. MB rocks.
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I won't be back around to read any more comments but, thanks again. Wow. Cured in 10 hours and 59 minutes. Nice job guys.
Testosterone boys! Testosterone! It ain’t just for nose, ear and back hair anymore!
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LOL @ chrisner! Love your sig line too. How are you? Hope you are well!
Me,BW - 42; FWH-46 4 kids D-Day #s1 and 2~May 2006 D-Day #3~Feb.27, 2007 (we'd been in a FR) Plan B~ March 3 ~ April 6, 2007 In Recovery and things are improving every day. MB rocks.
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Wow. Cured in 10 hours and 59 minutes. Nice job guys. It's what we do. ![[Linked Image from pic4ever.com]](http://www.pic4ever.com/images/2chw5mg.gif)
D-Day 2-10-2009
Fully Recovered and Better Than Ever!
Thank you Marriage Builders!
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It's really unfortunate. She sounded like she was ready to commit to do the right thing. Anything to repair the damage. Instead she left when she was forced to face the truth. It always makes me sad because I've seen just how great things can turn out when people get on board.
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Together 14 years, married 12
Two "furry children" (one cat & one dog)
MB has changed me and changed my life. I am becoming a better person for it, and building a better marriage. MB principles can truly help you create the love and the life you want.
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I won't be back around to read any more comments but, thanks again. Wow. Cured in 10 hours and 59 minutes. Nice job guys. 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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![[Linked Image from manysmileys.com]](http://www.manysmileys.com/files/S/lM/Ee/SlMEevVV11973041.gif) Gogo team! Seriously, though Allie - if you don't continue to post I hope you stick around and read all you can.
Me & DH: 28 Married 8/20/05 1DD, 9 mo. Just Lookin' and Learnin' HIYA!
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How can you "survive" the guilt?
STOP focusing on your feelings.
Because, when you are doing that, all that "guilt", you are NOT being a good wife to your husband.
Stop feeling guilty by becoming a GREAT wife to your loving husband.
Self focus is what is killing your marriage today. What was Pep thinking writing such bombastic vicious venom dripping sarcastic and hateful posts?
Last edited by chrisner; 09/16/10 03:28 PM. Reason: ThreadJack in the Edit Box: Hi MF!!! (I laugh every time I type that). DD22 and I are doing great. Thanks for asking.
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