I do agree with you.

What are your suggestions for a plan ? I have asked & he has agreed to let me know if she calls. Or call me instead of contacting her if he feels the need. Calling me ASAP if she shows up at work. Not answering phone if shows up private , anonmyous, or her number. Texting is blocked due to it is a company phone. Any other suggestions ? Or changes ? We have/are discussing ways or ideas to keep this from happening again.
We agreed to a 2 word code last nite for my need to know ( even if he has the urge or has slipped ) & he can answer yes or no. If answer is no subject is dropped if yes it will be discussed.

Any other ideas ? He did read your responses. He is also looking for possible ideas. Maybe someday he post himself but for now he is happy being a lurker

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I posted this to you earlier:

OW never called, but it was good to have this in our pocket if she did.

Good to hear he's lurking here! Hi, 8thgraders' H!

His truck is his office for most of the day. So same suggestion ?

Hide a VAR in it.

lol .... ok next question how do I manage that if he is lurking on this board also ? Won't he be aware of this & act accordingly ?

Dang...I forgot that you've already brought him on board. Hmmmmm...
I think I would let him know that you are reserving the right to do so anyway. True story: I had my old VAR in my open purse because it had lousy reception in H's car. (I was planning to buy a better one the next day.) H saw it as he walked by and asked what it was. I looked him straight in the eye and said "It's a voice activated tape recorder that I plan on using occasionally to tape your conversations. But it sucks reception-wise, so I'm buying a better one tomorrow." He said "Oh."

Do I use it every day? Not so much anymore. But he knew I had it and planned to use it. I figured I'd hide it really well and he could spend time looking for it every day (and drive himself crazy looking for it on the days it wasn't in there, LOL) or he could be honest and not have to worry about what I would hear. It works.

lol ..... I was wondering .... who is your H ? I know I have seen it mentioned on this board before. Just curious ....

He will be checking this thread later tonite & we will discuss the possiblities. lol

My H doesn't post. I think he's afraid of Mel.

He's a purebred FWH, though. Thanks to all our work and MB I think he'll stay that way. But I still snoop. What smart spouse doesn't? He knows I do, and welcomes any poking around that I care to do.

Heck, I go through his wallet right in front of him - if he was a wayward I'd be driving him crazy, trying to stay underground! And he also knows that I have other methods of checking up on him.

Truthfully, I've got him pretty much wired for sound. He's cool with that - he no longer has anything to hide.

I have also extended the same right to him, by giving him all my passwords, etc. But he says he doesn't need them - he knows I'm trustworthy. Darn it - am I that predictable?

Did you tell him I am a sweetheart???

Well, if she is really O&H she would tehehehe

dats right!!

I haven't been around that long but I can say Mel calls them as she sees them. I've seen a few run & hide. lol

I did! I even showed him a picture of you! I don't understand his reluctance...

i am thieving that bad boy!!

Mel & MB I do appreciate you taking your time out to respond. Your suggestions have helped.

Our DD is starting to drive him nuts to with making him acct for his phone calls etc.

So Im going to make these suggestions to her also.