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But my question still remains. If someone could be so evil as to commit this act of treason to their own H and child, is it conceivable to think they wouldn;t do it again? This is pure selfishness, self centered person. Isn;t this a personality trait? Isn;t someone in this position just upset they got caught?
Yes, it is pure selfishness and lack of any morals or values. She is evil and does not respect you. Maybe after years of trustworthiness and keeping an eye on her you could begin to trust her again, but maybe not. Is she selfish in other ways?
No matter what protect yourself against having another baby. She may already be pregnant with the other guy's child and this is why she wants to have mad frequent sex with you so she can foist the other baby onto you saying it is YOUR baby.
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I have thought about this and asked her to quit. We need the income and the economy is really tough where we live. She looks for another position for a week, then stops the search. I agree, she must leave. Although I am not a fan of ultimatums, this may be the only way. You are not issuing an ultimatum, painful. You are affair-proofing your M. Your WW should be on board with that. There must be NC between the affairees, for life. This is important not only to ensure that the A doesn't begin again, but for YOUR peace of mind. You can't have that axe swaying over your head every day, wondering if today's the day their resolve crumbles and the A starts up again. Surely your WW understands how cruel that would be, yes?
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No matter what protect yourself against having another baby. She may already be pregnant with the other guy's child and this is why she wants to have mad frequent sex with you so she can foist the other baby onto you saying it is YOUR baby. I agree with this...be careful, she might be pregnant by OM. Also, you have all the rights to D your wife if you so choose. Even Dr. Harley would D his wife should she have an A. He said that himself. I just heard Dr Harley say in a radio show that WW when they want to R the marriage are rarely repeantant. He said that the success rate is very high even if WW is non repentant, while the success rate is very low if WH comes back non repentant. He added that is in the nature of men to seduce and chase women so for a BH is easier to court and entice his wife to fall back in love with him than it is for a BW. So just see it as a courting game. blessing
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No matter what protect yourself against having another baby. She may already be pregnant with the other guy's child and this is why she wants to have mad frequent sex with you so she can foist the other baby onto you saying it is YOUR baby. I agree with this...be careful, she might be pregnant by OM. Also, you have all the rights to D your wife if you so choose. Even Dr. Harley would D his wife should she have an A. He said that himself. I just heard Dr Harley say in a radio show that WW when they want to R the marriage are rarely repeantant. He said that the success rate is very high even if WW is non repentant, while the success rate is very low if WH comes back non repentant. He added that is in the nature of men to seduce and chase women so for a BH is easier to court and entice his wife to fall back in love with him than it is for a BW. So just see it as a courting game. blessing Exactly,would not be the first WW to pass off her OM's OC as her BH's child. Your WW must leave this job today. I have seen to many PA's restart because there wasn't NC. This OM because he is without a car will sooner or later let his horniness motivate him to get back with your WW. OM is single does not mean he has no one to expose, expose the OM parents.
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That would be utterly devastating, although I think I would know by now. Also, we use protection so it would be fairly obvious.
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