When wheels exposed me it pretty much died instantly, although the OM was trying to contact me I wanted NO CONTACT EVER!

My only question to my DH is "Why didn't you expose EARLIER!!?"

Exposure was only partial with d-day1. WH's Human Resources VP and new superior (to expedite job transfer - still took 5.5 months, as it involved creating a new position - and, of course, because the A didn't end.) DS, DIL. Closest friends of BH and me.

I really regret not exposing to the Dolly's employer. WH and the Dolly vowed to keep it "just business as required" contact, until total NC could happen with job move. Though I had verification in place, it was way too weak, and waywards can always find ways around it if they want to. Anyway, d-day2 occurred 5.5 months later, and WH and the Dolly had had that much more emotionally invested, effectively doubling the length and depth of the A, but maintaining the secrecy, which is part of the high.

I knew we were not in recovery as long as WH had any contact, so I was holding my breath for this to happen. So it isn't so much a false recovery in my sitch, but just as devastating, when I realized all the outright lies in the past 5.5 months.

[color:#FF0000][/color][i][/i]BS's, EXPOSE FAR AND WIDE IMMEDIATELY. DO NOT LET YOUR FEAR, THOUGHTS, CONCERNS, ETC. PREVENT YOU FROM TAKING THIS AS YOUR FIRST STEP. Take a lesson from me and the other BS's on this thread. Your special situation (and who's isn't?) does not warrant AVOIDING EXPOSURE. The FIRST STEP in MB plan is to kill the affair. Exposure is your best weapon in the arsenal.