I have a question. Eva Longoria is divorcing her husband, because of his affair. Apparently he has done this before.

Now, while I completely understand her sadness, anger, distrust, etc., why would she decide to pull the trigger when she commented that she and her husband still are 'deeply' in love.

I am not saying that she should forgive him and believe that he will stop cheating. Also, I used to firmly believe that if my husband ever cheat, I will file for a divorce, no question, period.

However all of that changed once I had a child...., and even without the child, after spending over a decade with someone, and becoming very close to his side of the family, etc., I learned that it is not that easy in a real life.

So my question goes back to her. If they are still in love, you would think they try to work things out......, but I see this a lot where betrayed spouce files for a divorce, period. Is this a personal strength? Is this because they believe that the same thing would happen in the future? Is this a punishment for the other?

There is nothing like history as a reliable predictor of the future. I had a husband that cheated on me with one woman. I forgave him and continued to work on the marriage...and then I saw all the signs...sure enough, he was doing it again with someone else. I gave my best to that marriage but all the love I had for him couldn't help his character flaws. Sometimes it's best to count your losses and move on unless you're a glutton for punishment.

As for children in the equation, it's best that children live in peaceful stress-free homes where people respect themselves enough to have boundaries and enforce them...they are observing their role models for their future behaviors. Do you want children that accept a mate's cheating as normal behavior? Sometimes it's good for them to see that there are consequences for even adults.

Hi KC, I understand the part where you are being a 'role model' for children in my head, but I still feel bad and sad for my son. My parents gave me a perfect environment and I could not provide that to my own son? That makes me feel like a big loser.