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Re: Husband of 16 yrs has a 5mon old baby
Stepmomtobe #2449314 12/06/10 04:23 PM
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stepmom, I respectfully ask that you not tell a poster who came here in terrible pain about her WH having C with a child made outside of their M that she is wrong. She has every right to not want to have contact with her H's OC. She has every right to divorce him if refuses to go NC. It is completely up to her and she should not feel guilty about her choices.

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DS 30
DD 21
DS 15
OCDS 8
Re: Husband of 16 yrs has a 5mon old baby
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Re: Husband of 16 yrs has a 5mon old baby
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Dr. Harley recommends No Contact for life with the Affair Partner, rather or not there is an OC involved.

This is a Marriage Builders website, and the goal of this site is to save marriages. Dr. Harley is an expert at that and his methods have saved countless marriages after infidelity.

Me: BS/FWW: 48
BS/WH: 50
DS: 30, 27, 25
DD: 28
OC: 10
BH and I are raising my OC together.
Re: Husband of 16 yrs has a 5mon old baby
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I mean who wants to be with a person who would give up their child without some sort of fight?

*Raising hand* I DO!!!!! Put your body through torture (mentally and physically) for 6 years of fertility treatment with no child of marriage produced, invest 13.5 married years in a man, let some skank HO give your H his firstborn, and see how you feel.

We asked OW to let us adopt OC and she said no, so I am glad to walk away. My marriage is worth FAR more than OC. My H stepping up to repair the damage he has done to me and our family is worth far more than stepping up to parent OC. OW can remarry and get OC a dad. OC has my H's DNA that's all. He IS NOT a father.

Please stick to MB principles when posting.

Me: BS age 35
POS-eX-the SORRIEST, CRUELEST, LOWLY WAYWARD SCUMBAG out there
Married 14.5 years, together almost 16
DDay: 7-5-09
OC born: 7-23-09
no COM: tried 6 years frown
D filed 5/05/2011
D final 11/10/11
I was gaslighted for 2 years.

"You were not built for a safe story. Take risks and feel what it is like to actually be brave. It's worth it." Carlos Whittaker
Re: Husband of 16 yrs has a 5mon old baby
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Of course that makes since in your situation. That would be very difficult. In my case it was opposite. She got pregnant by my H after SHE went through years of unsuccessful fertility treatments. But Im very sorry If I have offend you. Obviously there are many cirumstances that are different for us. And probably my childhood experiences are what makes me feel the way I do. Again, Im sorry if I have offended anyone. I most definately was only trying to offer support to the original poster.
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