I can tell you that, having been in a very similar position, the fidelity (or lack thereof), is likely a big issue as well. The poor BF is probably thinking that the next time they have a big argument, she's going to be off boinking some other man again.

K, you need to understand something dating is like a really big interview to by that persons "spouse" once you mess it up by sleeping with other men then you my dear just failed that interview.

marriage is a HUGE commitment, if you are seeing men during your relationship then you will see other men during your marriage so if you really do care about this man then you would leave him alone, but before you do he needs to understand that you were lying to him and cheating on him.

Have you told him all the men you were seeing and all the men you slept with? If not then that is your first thing to do on your list.

He needs to see the REAL you, once he sees that then you wont have to worry about him any longer he will not be with someone who have slept with other men.

and for a heads up for the future the grass is NEVER greener on the other side.

Good luck.

You're correct, MIM. I was thinking of faithfulness/fidelity within the context of marriage. Of course there are matters of faithfulness in a living-together arrangement. Two people need to agree that they won't boink anyone else. She did, and I immediately pegged her dishonesty and deception because of that.

My bad.