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Then atleast let him know that you will not tolerate hearing her name maybe...
''I do not want to hear her name ever again, should I make cookies tonight or cake?'' Only if you say the first part one time. When he brings her up again, respond: "No cookies or cake? How about a nice pan of brownies?"
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Then atleast let him know that you will not tolerate hearing her name maybe...
''I do not want to hear her name ever again, should I make cookies tonight or cake?'' Only if you say the first part one time. When he brings her up again, respond: "No cookies or cake? How about a nice pan of brownies?" Or...''i don't think skany ho is on the desert list''
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Thank u guys for the help. i have not talk to him after he sent me that text. I am so mad right now. once again he has lost his rabbit mind. using the kids like that and I am not biting at all. I don't have time for their games. I hope by 2011 he gets some sense.
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I have been on the couch all day---The only i've done today is take a shower and nothing else. I don't like feeling like this. I am still taking the AD meds (hate them!) I guess u have good and bad days. Thank u guys again!
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Hang in there, vivi. It gets better. I promise.
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Hang in there, vivi. It gets better. I promise. Thank you. WH is still blaming OW for his actions and until he does, our M doesn't stand a chance of R. I always get "Vivi is such a nice and forgiving person" and that I should be home by now. I will not settle for less than I deserve. If it wasn't for MB I proably be home by now.
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We're praying he comes out of his denial and fog soon.
Btw - you crack me up when you say he's out of his rabbit mind. I know you're being serious but reminds me of one of my friends she says the same thing.
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We're praying he comes out of his denial and fog soon.
Btw - you crack me up when you say he's out of his rabbit mind. I know you're being serious but reminds me of one of my friends she says the same thing.
Hang in there! Thank you. Its one of my favorite sayings lol. I still can't believe WH ask me to forgive OW for the kids sake.
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Happy New Year everyone and I hope 2011 is a better year for those of us going through a rough time in our M.
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Well u guys I don't if the Levitra my WH is taking to keep up with the OW has got his mind messed or do he actually think I am going to fall for his crap!! WH text me last night asking If I was willing to meet with OW to hear her side of the A. He said for our marriage to work again I need to know that some of this was my fault!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What is wrong with this man? I text him back and said It is so cold here in Arizona and It got 29 the other night. He text me back asking why was I talking about the weather when he ask me a question about the OW. I text him back and said This weather is so strange for AZ don't u think? I can't believe he is now blaming me for his A. I will be glad when WH starts talking like a grown-up and admit to me for his mess. When will this nonsense end?
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Good job on the fog talk! Your response was exactly right. He's asking you for something outrageous that deserves no response from you. Amazing.
Apparently he is still with OW or he wouldn't be trying to still defend her.
Have you thought about going to Plan B?
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Sounds like him and the ow sat down to get their story striaght now they are trying to convince you of there fake story rofl!! Stupid ws  they need to realize that you are not that stupid.
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Good! Now that you've talked about the weather, next time he says something outrageous, text him back with a cute or funny memory. WH: That little Jezebel seduced me! It wasn't my fault! If you'd just talk to her, she'd tell you. Besides, she's sorry... Vivi: (Thinks, but does not say, Yeah, I'll say she's sorry.) Do you remember that time we [insert cute or funny memory]? You were my hero! It's very important to remember that a WS's need for admiration can still be honestly met by going into the past. There should be many memories over the years of admirable things they have done. Start working on a little list that you can toss out at a moment's notice. WS's have short attention spans anyway, and if you say nice things about them that is often enough to sidetrack them. 
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Good! Now that you've talked about the weather, next time he says something outrageous, text him back with a cute or funny memory. WH: That little Jezebel seduced me! It wasn't my fault! If you'd just talk to her, she'd tell you. Besides, she's sorry... Vivi: (Thinks, but does not say, Yeah, I'll say she's sorry.) Do you remember that time we [insert cute or funny memory]? You were my hero! It's very important to remember that a WS's need for admiration can still be honestly met by going into the past. There should be many memories over the years of admirable things they have done. Start working on a little list that you can toss out at a moment's notice. WS's have short attention spans anyway, and if you say nice things about them that is often enough to sidetrack them. Neak I love This!!!! Thank you
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If WS keeps talking nonsense like this I will consider going to plan B. Perhaps if WS stops taking Levitra---He can think straight with his other head!
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You'll need to go to Plan B before long, anyway. Maybe 2 more weeks of Plan A, give or take a little. By the middle of next week I'd start getting ready, and then you won't have to scramble around once you decide to go dark. Lol Levitra - if only it was that simple! 
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sorry for my ignorance but is levitra a get-it-up drug?
Why would your WH need it at only 51? Was he also using it with you or the urge came when he hooked up with the 21 year old...?
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sorry for my ignorance but is levitra a get-it-up drug?
Why would your WH need it at only 51? Was he also using it with you or the urge came when he hooked up with the 21 year old...?
blessing Yes it is. WH never had to use it with me. He forgets that I paid the bills and I notice the med he was taking and looked it up. I am like why is he using that. I ask him and he told me that he was stressing about work and other things but what do Levitra has to do with stress? lies, lies
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I agree Neak. I am so tired of this mess. I will give it 2 or 3 weeks more.
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