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OK I found one....(my H) ![[Linked Image from rookery.s3.amazonaws.com]](http://rookery.s3.amazonaws.com/1094500/1094684_6b5c_625x1000.jpg)
BW/FWW 34 (Harmony)
BH/WH 36
Feb 2009 - Affair starts, physical for 9 days on business trip.
Mar 2009 - Separate from H, live alone
Apr 2009 - realise I have made big mistake and attempt reconciliation with H, establish NC with OM.
Jun 2009 - H physical and emotional serial A start right upto present day.
Jul 2009 - NC with OM broken and becomes EA
Mar 2010 - H reads email and discovers A
Jul 2010 - Discover MB
Aug 2010 - Plan A starts
Oct 2010 - Plan B starts
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Our Texas Gal Mel don't need no stinking thumb screws!  Harmony, how did you know I was looking for Mel...you know me too well, LOL (Reynolds, don't use Mel's name and a foreign accent in the same sentence...  ) ![[Linked Image from polarblairsden.com]](http://www.polarblairsden.com/moviesblackwhip03.jpg)
D-Day 2-10-2009
Fully Recovered and Better Than Ever!
Thank you Marriage Builders!
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Thank God I've never had to use Plan B but I am curious about something. How can you move to plan B when the wayward isn't ready to leave or give up the affair? You can't legally force the wayward out of the house I assume. And leaving may be a bad choice especially if there are kids involved..
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I packed up my WHs belongings, put them on the porch and asked him to leave. I wa worried that he wouldn't, but he did.
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING  Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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yeee hawwwwwwwwwwwww Melody!
Oh golly gosh, when our Melody gets back here she is not going to be happy we have run amock on her thread....
More tea vicar?
(best british accent)
BW/FWW 34 (Harmony)
BH/WH 36
Feb 2009 - Affair starts, physical for 9 days on business trip.
Mar 2009 - Separate from H, live alone
Apr 2009 - realise I have made big mistake and attempt reconciliation with H, establish NC with OM.
Jun 2009 - H physical and emotional serial A start right upto present day.
Jul 2009 - NC with OM broken and becomes EA
Mar 2010 - H reads email and discovers A
Jul 2010 - Discover MB
Aug 2010 - Plan A starts
Oct 2010 - Plan B starts
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Thank God I've never had to use Plan B but I am curious about something. How can you move to plan B when the wayward isn't ready to leave or give up the affair? You can't legally force the wayward out of the house I assume. And leaving may be a bad choice especially if there are kids involved.. I did the same as Scotland, packed everything up on the entire house, and he took most of it. There was some resistance, but as they are in such a confused state they seem too shocked to argue. The advice I got if H would not leave, was to leave the house myself. Tough one.
BW/FWW 34 (Harmony)
BH/WH 36
Feb 2009 - Affair starts, physical for 9 days on business trip.
Mar 2009 - Separate from H, live alone
Apr 2009 - realise I have made big mistake and attempt reconciliation with H, establish NC with OM.
Jun 2009 - H physical and emotional serial A start right upto present day.
Jul 2009 - NC with OM broken and becomes EA
Mar 2010 - H reads email and discovers A
Jul 2010 - Discover MB
Aug 2010 - Plan A starts
Oct 2010 - Plan B starts
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Did I ever mention that the ringtone I use for XWH is Gloria Gaynor's "I Will Survive?" Just in case he calls and I feel a little weak, the soulful stylings of Ms. Gaynor snaps me out of it and reminds why I don't talk to him!! Just a little something I do to keep me on track! 
Me:BS40
WXH:42
DD15; DS13; DD6
D-day:6/30/08 & 10/25/08
WH moved out 9/15/08
D: 1/15/10
"So take that look out of here, it doesn't fit you, because it's happened, doesn't mean you've been discarded." -- Big Country from "In a Big Country."
"Keep calm and carry on." -- Winston Churchill
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Did I ever mention that the ringtone I use for XWH is Gloria Gaynor's "I Will Survive?" Just in case he calls and I feel a little weak, the soulful stylings of Ms. Gaynor snaps me out of it and reminds why I don't talk to him!! Just a little something I do to keep me on track!  I love that! Its such a great idea. I have just changed mine to Johnny Cash - Walk the Line!
BW/FWW 34 (Harmony)
BH/WH 36
Feb 2009 - Affair starts, physical for 9 days on business trip.
Mar 2009 - Separate from H, live alone
Apr 2009 - realise I have made big mistake and attempt reconciliation with H, establish NC with OM.
Jun 2009 - H physical and emotional serial A start right upto present day.
Jul 2009 - NC with OM broken and becomes EA
Mar 2010 - H reads email and discovers A
Jul 2010 - Discover MB
Aug 2010 - Plan A starts
Oct 2010 - Plan B starts
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When I went to B, I called my WH on the phone while he was at work and told him "You need to move out tonight. I have reached my limit to the pain I can handle having you here while you continue to have your affair." He didn't have a choice. He had to stay with a friend til he found another place to live.
I was kind but firm.
I was not going to take no as an answer to him leaving but I didn't get nasty about it either.
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LOL you know, I read this and thought. Yes I bet there is a polygraph machine in her kitchen, and I bet more than one WS has sweat buckets strapped to it.
Probably has a sticker on it that reads "V hav vays of making you talk" Thick Soviet accent and all. Ain't no silly foreigner accent, you silly man! ![[Linked Image from s6.tinypic.com]](http://s6.tinypic.com/35iyavr_th.jpg)
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Sorry Mel I forgot you were in Texas. I am Canadian you have to forgive. LOL
FBH,Dad
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Just wanted to chime in here and let everyone know that if they have Verizon Wireless cell phones(any phone w/verizon) you can actually block up to 4 numbers from recieving phone(and voicemail) and messaging, FOR FREE. Go to the Verizon Wireless webpage. Log into your account. You will see towards the middle of the page a bunch of boxes with things you can do(i.e. bill, plan, device and profile) under "PLAN" the last box says block call & messages. Click on that box, it takes you a page where you enter the phone number(s) you want blocked and...viola...call is blocked for up to 4 months(it will tell you when block is scheduled to be done). This is very helpful to a person in Plan B. If you CAN'T get their call/text/voicemail then you can't worry about if WS is thinking about you; and if they are why won't WS call/text leave a voicemail? They are like someone you haven't met(like a 'fog' enveloped zombie?) yet who doesn't have your cell #. They don't exist in wireless land. I don't know if other carriers carry this option. I like this way because a lot of the 'newer' phones have the block feature directly on the phone, that's too easy to unblock. Thought this would be usefull. 
BS/ME 47 Met on blind date
WH 46(Alcoholic,drugs?)
DS1:18 DS2:15
1st A EA9/07 PA10/07 NC11/07
2nd A EA/PA-10/2010
Found out- 11/20/2010
He moved out-1/1/2011 same apt.cmplx as OW(&her kids)
PlanB-1/1/11(broken)
NEW PB-2/11 Taking it one day at a time
There are two kinds of people in the world: Those who say to God, "Thy will be done" and those to whom God says, "Alright then, have it your way." ~C .S.Lewis
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Married 1989
His PA 2003-2006
2 kids.
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We seem to have much confusion on the board about what Plan B means. Plan B means a complete and total separation with no contact. That means no talking, no visiting, no phone calls, no emails, no texts, no listening to voicemails, no smoke signals, no mental telepathy, no nothing. It is to be launched with a letter that stipulates your conditions. If a WS comes to the house, you don't let him/her in. If [s]he sends a letter, you don't read the letter, you give it to your IM. Every time [s]he attempts to get through, you should block the attempt and have your IM contact the WS immediately and remind the WS that all contact is to come through the IM. Every time you allow your WS to get through, it gives them a little fix of YOU. Enough to go out and carry on the affair for a little while longer. As long as [s]he is assured that[s]he is in control and can get through at will, [s]he will feel at ease in carrying on the affair. The WS usually does miss the BS so allowing contact eases that PAIN. When you EASE that pain, it helps the affair. In other words, when you let the WS through, you are propping up the affair! The OP thanks you muchly for your support!! BUT...if you want to have the best chance, you should never let the WS through. And lastly, if you don't understand Plan B and/or are not really serious about staying dark, you should not bother. This is an all or nothing program. All you are doing when you say you are in Plan B and then let the WS call you 2 hours later is wrecking your credibility. You are advertising that you are not serious and will allow the WS to call the shots. IT IS UP TO YOU TO ENSURE NO CONTACT, NOT THE WS!! Any questions, give me a shout!
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His PA 2003-2006
2 kids.
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Thank God I've never had to use Plan B but I am curious about something. How can you move to plan B when the wayward isn't ready to leave or give up the affair? You can't legally force the wayward out of the house I assume. And leaving may be a bad choice especially if there are kids involved.. I did the same as Scotland, packed everything up on the entire house, and he took most of it. There was some resistance, but as they are in such a confused state they seem too shocked to argue. The advice I got if H would not leave, was to leave the house myself. Tough one. This is one of the questions I had. Once exposure has been done and he doesn't move out or just leaves his stuff here and goes can I pack up his stuff. I guess I can.... Good thing I bought new storage containers for the Christmas decorations. I can use the other ones to pack up his stuff. I have already started organizing and ya know doing some spring cleaning. While I am doing that I am separating his stuff from our stuff so it is easier when the time comes for him to move ALL his stuff out. I hope he rents a big truck!
BW 46
XWH 46
Boys 17 & 19
Girls 16 & 10
D-day #1 12/2006 (confessed affair in 2004 w/BF & his wife)
D-day #2 10/2008 (denied by XWH)
D-day #3 10/2010
Kick WH out 01/2011 he files for D
D finally final 03/2012
I'm free!
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Am I sick and twisted for looking forward to plan B?
BW 46
XWH 46
Boys 17 & 19
Girls 16 & 10
D-day #1 12/2006 (confessed affair in 2004 w/BF & his wife)
D-day #2 10/2008 (denied by XWH)
D-day #3 10/2010
Kick WH out 01/2011 he files for D
D finally final 03/2012
I'm free!
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Am I sick and twisted for looking forward to plan B? No ma'm, you are not. Your healthy mind is taking care of you and is telling you that it's time to break from the drama. 
D-Day 2-10-2009
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Thank you Marriage Builders!
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Am I sick and twisted for looking forward to plan B? No ma'm, you are not. Your healthy mind is taking care of you and is telling you that it's time to break from the drama. Oh good. At least one of us has a healthy mind.  I hope my break comes soon. I have been on a long shift.
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XWH 46
Boys 17 & 19
Girls 16 & 10
D-day #1 12/2006 (confessed affair in 2004 w/BF & his wife)
D-day #2 10/2008 (denied by XWH)
D-day #3 10/2010
Kick WH out 01/2011 he files for D
D finally final 03/2012
I'm free!
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BTW Maritalbliss, I never did iron all his work clothes. They are still folded in a laundry basket and it is so full it may tip over. I think I will iron them tonight so they are all together and ready to go. Oh, I mean they are ready in case he needs to wear them. The fact that it will mess with his mind will just be an added bonus. Then I will find something else to organize for him. Smile and wave boys, smile and wave.....
BW 46
XWH 46
Boys 17 & 19
Girls 16 & 10
D-day #1 12/2006 (confessed affair in 2004 w/BF & his wife)
D-day #2 10/2008 (denied by XWH)
D-day #3 10/2010
Kick WH out 01/2011 he files for D
D finally final 03/2012
I'm free!
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