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Re: Questions for BS that are still married to the WS
wowthathurt #2470409 01/31/11 05:38 PM
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Originally Posted by wowthathurt
3. We had been in MC before Dday, but we both went to IC after. Actually, we had the same IC and I know that is not recommended but she is awesome and amazing and helped him kill the affair and pull his head out. Love her! And she helped me immensely as well. But he did not go until after Dday #2 (my requirement to stay together)

Any other experiences with IC helping to kill an affair??
Re: Questions for BS that are still married to the WS
abc098 #2470414 01/31/11 05:59 PM
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Our counsellor asked why in gods name would I expose????!!! If I love her why do that to her.

Because it saved her and saved our marriage. Is saving our marriage..

FBH,Dad
No half measures, in anything.
Re: Questions for BS that are still married to the WS
Reynolds531 #2470436 01/31/11 07:08 PM
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Nope. My xwh and I went to counseling and two things happened.
(it was IC)

He lied to her so convincingly the counselor thought I WAS THE ONE with the issues when my xh was the ws, caused everything, and lied his butt off. Somehow, that counselor missed that. Plus their focus is on $ and getting more sessions, and in not really healing things. Look at it like this. If you have a couple in counseling, wht makes them grow their business? Have them divorce and have two more sessions separately. They are NOT in the marriage saving business. Not at all.

I seriously do not think counseling helps, unless it is MB coaching. Unless it is personal recovery, and then counseling is fine, as I used another one for my personal recovery after the divorce smile

Change happens by listening and then starting a dialogue with the people who are doing something you don't believe is right. ~Jane Goodall
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