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please offer your counsel.
thank you
Me =-44
wayward husband 44
married for 19 years
two kids
boy-16
girl-4
dday9-1-2010
nc first time 9-1-2010
2dday 12-31-2010
nc secnd time 1-1-2011
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What is the typical recovery period?
Sorry. I mean after n/c. I am still in plan A. He told me last night that he is kind of upset and how can I do a 180 on him so fast (which by the way will never go back around to the way I was) and he feels that this is the way I should have been all along.
A REAL MAN, who is out of the fog of adultery says" "I will do whatever it takes for as long as it takes to make this right."
A REAL MAN might also say : "I can see all the changes and hard work you've put into yourself. Thank you."
Also, he told me last night that SF was not in the picture right now. I know that it is one of his top EN, but he is willing to not have it met right now cause he says "it feels false, fake".
Have you been tested? How long ago?
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Thread about FALSE RECOVERY .... and the tell tell signs. * LINK *
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WH's are considerably easier to seduce than WW's, though each is possibly. A few days of you wearing revealing clothing (at least around the house when there are no kids, or at night when they're in bed), bend over in front of him every now and again, and touch him boldly but quickly, moving on immediately....you will drive him nuts.
That type of sexual behavior (with no expectation or pressure for SF) can even also meet some needs for Admiration, since you are admiring him sexually. You are also meeting his SF need even without SF, because you're showing that you're WILLING to meet it.
While you're doing all that, keep snooping. I really doubt this A is over with. Better to be prepared for the worst and be happily surprised.
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb Neak's Story
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Just saw Pep's posts, and completely agree. Please read and reread very carefully what she said.
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb Neak's Story
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Yes, her WH is still in phone contact with OW. They are definitely in a FR.
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