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Originally Posted by MyJourney
..He was a.d.d.i.c.t.e.d, and probably is again. I remember during d-year I would trigger bad over that game (he left me for a girl he met online in StarWars Galaxy, BEFORE HE EVEN MET HER) and I would cry, and he kept playing, and playing, and playing. It wasn't until after I clocked him at 120 hours in one week that he stopped playing.

Yeah I have seen that also, fantasy at its worse huh?

Alter-ego anyone?

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I prolly won't play again, but will let you know if I do.

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I've been so tempted to play again, but I have too much going on. I'm afraid if I start, the house will fall down around me, and the animals will starve to death. JK....I was never that bad.

It was definitely a form of escapism for him. That and porn. sigh And he's back at it again.

Time for me to fly........


D-yr fall 06-fall 07
Separated 10/2010
Him-several affairs, last one 3/2011
Divorced filed 3/2011, final 3/2012

Formerly "Mopey".
http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2013149&page=1

After a 4 yr FR, it became CLEAR to me of what you can look for in a FR. And that is the absence of POJA, and/or if your spouse tramples on your boundaries. If someone is not willing to do POJA with you, and they don't respect your boundaries, imo, the relationship is doomed.
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I stopped playing because I'm not fond of playing in groups, and the game's not so fun, I guess, if you aren't in a group.

I did play for a while with a mage, and then as a Nelf druid. It was cool there, not even having to have a steed because you could change into one.


One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger

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Yeah, druids are neat characters. I've never played one.

I'm thinking there are plenty of opportunites to play alone, or in a pickup group. I personally found it more fun playing with people we knew. All of the people in the guild we started we knew IRL, so that was fun. We even had a weekend lan party at my house once. I loved that.


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Him-several affairs, last one 3/2011
Divorced filed 3/2011, final 3/2012

Formerly "Mopey".
http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2013149&page=1

After a 4 yr FR, it became CLEAR to me of what you can look for in a FR. And that is the absence of POJA, and/or if your spouse tramples on your boundaries. If someone is not willing to do POJA with you, and they don't respect your boundaries, imo, the relationship is doomed.
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For EVERYONE in the divorce forums.....

Heaven

This has been one of my favorite songs for about 6 or more years now. I've worn the song slap dab out!

My husband took me to the concert, and it was one of the nicest things he ever did for me. I love the Los Lonely Boys.


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D-yr fall 06-fall 07
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Him-several affairs, last one 3/2011
Divorced filed 3/2011, final 3/2012

Formerly "Mopey".
http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2013149&page=1

After a 4 yr FR, it became CLEAR to me of what you can look for in a FR. And that is the absence of POJA, and/or if your spouse tramples on your boundaries. If someone is not willing to do POJA with you, and they don't respect your boundaries, imo, the relationship is doomed.
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I put on my healing gear and was in 3 man arena, with two dranai girls from malaysia. They were all in epic gear and I healed. One was a Ret warrior and one a hunter. Her cat ussualy saved the day, but we planned it that way too lol.

I miss my friends on there, but I don't miss the guild drama, or the backstabbing little 12 year olds. I especaily don't miss instance appointments that people did not come to, when working people would rush home from work, all excited, just to be let down.

The best times were the fun times relaxed and carefree. Some of the quests were a hoot also.


I just saw this post.

I miss the friends we had too. They were my husband's friends first from work, and I quit playing. I feel like an outcast now. I'd wanna play with them again if he wasn't. He's getting those friends in the divorce. grin

Our guild was fun because it was laid back and relaxed when we started it. Then it grew and people became too serious about it. It quit being so much fun after that.

When we started that guild, we wouldn't allow any snotty nosed brats to play with us....LOL....


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Divorced filed 3/2011, final 3/2012

Formerly "Mopey".
http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2013149&page=1

After a 4 yr FR, it became CLEAR to me of what you can look for in a FR. And that is the absence of POJA, and/or if your spouse tramples on your boundaries. If someone is not willing to do POJA with you, and they don't respect your boundaries, imo, the relationship is doomed.
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Originally Posted by karmasrose
I stopped playing because I'm not fond of playing in groups, and the game's not so fun, I guess, if you aren't in a group.

I did play for a while with a mage, and then as a Nelf druid. It was cool there, not even having to have a steed because you could change into one.

Yeah, the group thing can go both ways, if you don't know the character, as in the attributes or what is expected of you, people can be strait up jerks.

And the game is designed so you HAVE to team up, to progress, hence the multiplayer thing. It began to feel like a racket, and like I said, a lot of people were "one-way". Lol Like high school.

In my guild my Ist officer, was a very awesome women who helped everybody, and was very disapointed when over and over people would bail and go to other guilds after we invested in them.

I got to the point where I would make different characters, and get them to 40, cause I knew the quests, and liked the challange. But it started to turn me off to help people, and that when the game lost its attractivness to me.

I think of going back but I remember what a time-consuming thing it was, and that stops me. The personal friendships are the only thing I miss now.

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Part of the time consuming thing, was all the research you had to do on the net, and the Utube studies. As a raid leader.

It was the outrageous stuff like two manning a five man instance lol, that was fun. I loved the challanges.

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Originally Posted by MyJourney
When we started that guild, we wouldn't allow any snotty nosed brats to play with us....LOL....

I had a code of conduct that had to be adhered to, and enforced it, so kids that signed on, were expected to tow the line or 3 times your out. Funny, some 12 year olds were more mature than the adults, lol.

Eventually tho we made an age requirement, so we could attract adult members. Lol, still got people who were older, but were slicker at being selfish.

I get what you are saying though, losing friends in the D, I think I have seen lawsuits where people sued for WoW characters, it a pretty powerful influence in peoples lives.

Where else can you look great, never get real damage that doesn't heal, and allways move ahead with experience that will make you stronger? All for $30/mo. roflmao. wink

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I remember hearing about some marines actually playing the game...
and saying that things like the Onyxia raid wipe video were dark places to be as a guild leader.

I never took the auto-pay option off my account, maybe I should check back in.

Still ticked to heck that they got rid of Auberdine though!


One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger

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I had a code of conduct that had to be adhered to, and enforced it, so kids that signed on, were expected to tow the line or 3 times your out. Funny, some 12 year olds were more mature than the adults, lol.


I can believe it.

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I get what you are saying though, losing friends in the D, I think I have seen lawsuits where people sued for WoW characters, it a pretty powerful influence in peoples lives.


Are you for real?! For fun, I am so gonna ask for half his characters....lol....

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Where else can you look great, never get real damage that doesn't heal, and allways move ahead with experience that will make you stronger? All for $30/mo. roflmao.


I know right? roflmao with ya.


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Him-several affairs, last one 3/2011
Divorced filed 3/2011, final 3/2012

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http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2013149&page=1

After a 4 yr FR, it became CLEAR to me of what you can look for in a FR. And that is the absence of POJA, and/or if your spouse tramples on your boundaries. If someone is not willing to do POJA with you, and they don't respect your boundaries, imo, the relationship is doomed.
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I thought it was $15 a month, or are you overseas somewhere?


One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger

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Where else can you look great, never get real damage that doesn't heal, and allways move ahead with experience that will make you stronger? All for $30/mo. roflmao.


Oh, and let's not forget that you can also go on dates and have affairs in the game too! During discovery, I remember my husband telling me that he took his virtual gf to a Valentines dance, in the game. faint


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Divorced filed 3/2011, final 3/2012

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After a 4 yr FR, it became CLEAR to me of what you can look for in a FR. And that is the absence of POJA, and/or if your spouse tramples on your boundaries. If someone is not willing to do POJA with you, and they don't respect your boundaries, imo, the relationship is doomed.
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I wonder if that could be reported as griefing? (ingame, someone who causes the game to be unjustly interrupted for others. IE if you have a giant steed, like an elephant, and stand on top of a quest-important NPC so no one can click on him.)


One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger

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I remember hearing about some marines actually playing the game...
and saying that things like the Onyxia raid wipe video were dark places to be as a guild leader.

I never took the auto-pay option off my account, maybe I should check back in.

Still ticked to heck that they got rid of Auberdine though!


I remember my husband playing in the big 40 man raids back in the day, and I'd overhear them over the speakers. Those guildies were serious, and would get upset when someone screwed up. It just took so much time to get that many people in the game at one time, and ready, and they had to get er done or they'd be tired for work the next day.

I don't know much about Auberdine. That was enemy territory. For the Horde!!!!! laugh

Woot!


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Divorced filed 3/2011, final 3/2012

Formerly "Mopey".
http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2013149&page=1

After a 4 yr FR, it became CLEAR to me of what you can look for in a FR. And that is the absence of POJA, and/or if your spouse tramples on your boundaries. If someone is not willing to do POJA with you, and they don't respect your boundaries, imo, the relationship is doomed.
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I paid $15 a month, here in the good ole U.S. of A.


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Him-several affairs, last one 3/2011
Divorced filed 3/2011, final 3/2012

Formerly "Mopey".
http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2013149&page=1

After a 4 yr FR, it became CLEAR to me of what you can look for in a FR. And that is the absence of POJA, and/or if your spouse tramples on your boundaries. If someone is not willing to do POJA with you, and they don't respect your boundaries, imo, the relationship is doomed.
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I wonder if that could be reported as griefing?


What'd I miss...report what...


D-yr fall 06-fall 07
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Him-several affairs, last one 3/2011
Divorced filed 3/2011, final 3/2012

Formerly "Mopey".
http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2013149&page=1

After a 4 yr FR, it became CLEAR to me of what you can look for in a FR. And that is the absence of POJA, and/or if your spouse tramples on your boundaries. If someone is not willing to do POJA with you, and they don't respect your boundaries, imo, the relationship is doomed.
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If you need a laugh, try "Onyxia Raid Wipe."
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Aw dang - that triggers some bad memories. I was Horde for a long time.

The time spent on WoW and the subsequent neglect of my family led my wife to tell me she was leaving. I quit cold turkey. I still have friends that play but I like real life with my wife and kids. A nice bike ride or board game or a swim in the pool is so much more enjoyable and less stressful


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