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Thank you so much for the feedback and encouraging words. I wasn't able to read your posts until now, which is good. They came at a good time. I was able to not care that tears were ruining my makeup, since I don't have to go anywhere else today.
I woke up and was out of the house early this morning, still feeling the emotional hangover from the thoughts of yesterday. I only slept for two hours last night. I tried every meditation technique I could think of to fall to sleep, and I couldn't. I had this recurring dream that my husband is seeing someone, someone blonde. /shrug
I met two close friends at their church this morning, and had a really long lunch with them afterwards. It was good. Very good, considering the slump I was in. They are the kind of people that can breath life into me, and help me to see what's mine and what isn't, in the most loving way. Going to try Pilates with one of them this Thursday. That should be pretty funny.
C.P.....
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What strikes me is that during all that hardship, you still were willingly asking your husband to love you fairly, when he had not done it before that time. It seems he was blind, and you had blamed yourself for it.
I thought I was being fair at the time. I remember fluctuating between being impressed at my capacity for forgiveness, and feeling like he thought I had no respect for myself for giving him that chance with me. Of course I had those thoughts myself. Projection? Maybe, maybe not.
Honestly, I do not know how he felt about that. He never told me I had a forgiving heart. Maybe because I needed more than "I'm sorry I hurt you" and if I needed something from him, than I wasn't truly forgiving?
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I don't think he was strong enough from what I am hearing.
I agree, and neither was I really considering how ill equipped I was to handle all of that. But, I was willing to take the heat in the kiln while we created a masterpiece. I think now he doesn't think I fit the mold. Like somehow I was always innapropriate for him. Talk about blinders.
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I don't remember how old you are, but I think you are younger than I. One thing I can tell you is that as we age, we don't bounce back as fast as we do when young, but, here is the good part, we come back much wiser and deeper than we ever were before. We just can't see it when we are in the middle of the storm, that this too is for our own good.
I am 46 and am discovering this is so for me as well. At least I'm wise enough now to know there's a lesson in those storms.....
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If your husband could not be there and help you through the tough times, and build you up out of hopelessness, and have compassion for you, then his values were messed up to begin with.
And this is the million dollar question to me. Was it his values? Was it because of what he was mentally and emotionally capable of? Or, was I asking for too much? I do know that when I felt he wasn't protecting the marriage, I would be upset by it and withdraw from him. He saw that as demands and refused to give in to demands.......
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As someone who is slowly recovering,(I like to be busy and get things done),
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and are a very strong and tender woman
Ok, on two hours of sleep and emotionally tired, that brought tears to my eyes. I feel that I do have a tender heart, and my husband I believe feels that I am anything but. I was too caught up in survival mode that I had to be tough. I didn't feel safe to share that side of me with him, for the most part.
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You will get past it and the answers will come, relief will day by day, week by week, be revealed to you. One day you will observe, "I don't feel that bad anymore", and that will continue to be a revelation you will have time and again.
Thanks C.P. I do remind myself of this.
D-yr fall 06-fall 07 Separated 10/2010 Him-several affairs, last one 3/2011 Divorced filed 3/2011, final 3/2012
After a 4 yr FR, it became CLEAR to me of what you can look for in a FR. And that is the absence of POJA, and/or if your spouse tramples on your boundaries. If someone is not willing to do POJA with you, and they don't respect your boundaries, imo, the relationship is doomed.
The trick (if you want to call it a trick) is that when these thoughts come, I accept their intrusion into my mind -- but only for a moment -- and then send them on their way.
That's what I do most times, and I like that. But like yesterday, sometimes I have to just let myself be aware of what I'm feeling and hold it for a bit while I process it. Only then can I let some things go.
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I might stagger a step or two, but I'm going to keep running...
Me too Fred. Me too.
Thank you for being here for me.
D-yr fall 06-fall 07 Separated 10/2010 Him-several affairs, last one 3/2011 Divorced filed 3/2011, final 3/2012
After a 4 yr FR, it became CLEAR to me of what you can look for in a FR. And that is the absence of POJA, and/or if your spouse tramples on your boundaries. If someone is not willing to do POJA with you, and they don't respect your boundaries, imo, the relationship is doomed.
. But, I was willing to take the heat in the kiln while we created a masterpiece. I think now he doesn't think I fit the mold. Like somehow I was always innapropriate for him. Talk about blinders...
Yes I agree, if we can just push thru, it will be awesome, but some don't see this, and need instant gratification.
I guess O&H communication along with sticking by your commitments with integrity is the answer there.
Me 56 Former BS Widowed 5-17-09 --married 25 years. 4 children DS-35 previous marriage--18-22 DGrandSons 6 and 4 Me former BS DD-29 with DGDs 5 and 1yr DSs 26 and 23 Teilhard de Chardin..“We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.” ...Sounds about right to me.
I don't know if your a fan, but thier are two songs by REO Speedwagon from, "You can tune a piano, but you can't tuna fish" album that came on tonight that reminded me of personal recovery and relationship. The first one was one I used to sing in the shower a long time ago, after my first marriage disaster... "Time for me to fly". (For you country western FREAKS! Dolly Parton sang it too.) lol
"I've been around for you I've been up and down for you But I just can't get any relief I've swallowed my pride for you I've lived and lied for you But you still make me feel like a thief You got me stealin' your love away 'Cause you never give it Peeling the years away And we can't relive it I make you laugh And you make me cry I believe it's time for me to fly
I've had enough of the falseness Of a worn out relation Enough of the jealousy And the intoleration I make you laugh And you make me cry I believe it's time for me to fly
[Refrain:] Time for me to fly Oh, I've got to set myself free Time for me to fly And that's just how it's got to be I know it hurts to say goodbye But it's time for me to fly
Oh, don't you know it's... [Refrain]
It's time for me to fly [Repeat to end]..."
Then the other one by REO, "Roll with the changes" This one make me think of you..
As soon as you are able Woman, I am willin' To make the break that we Are on the brink of
My cup is on the table Our love is spillin' Waitin' here for you to Take and drink of
So if you're tired of the Same old story Oh, turn some pages I'll be here when you are ready To roll with the changes Yea eee yea, woo
I knew it had to happen Felt the tables turnin' Got me through my darkest hour
I heard the thunder clappin' Felt the desert burnin' Until you poured on me Like a sweet sunshower
So if you're tired of the Same old story Oh turn some pages I'll be here when you are ready To roll with the changes Ohh yeah
Huu
Ohh woo oh So if you're tired of the Same old story Oh, turn some pages I'll be here when you are ready To roll with the changes [From: http://www.elyrics.net/read/r/reo-speedwagon-lyrics/roll-with-the-changes-lyrics.html] Yea eee Roll over the changes Oh, you know, you know, you know You know, you know what?
(Keep on rollin') Oh yeah (Keep on rollin') Ohh (Woo ooo) Roll with the changes Keep on rollin'
(Keep on rollin') Oh yeah (Keep on rollin') Ohh (Woo ooo) Gotta roll with the changes Oh yeah
(Keep on rollin') Oh yeah (Keep on rollin') Oh you got to, got to roll with the changes (Woo ooo) You got to, got to, got to, got to To keep on rollin' (Keep on rollin') Got to keep on (Keep on rollin') Oh you got to, got to, got to, got to Got to, got to keep on rollin' (Woo ooo)
Keep on rollin' Keep on rollin' Woo ooo Keep on rollin' Keep on rollin' Woo ooo Keep on rollin' Keep on rollin' Woo ooo Keep on rollin' Keep on rollin' Woo ooo
But as long as I am quoting tunes,,, The one that I used to dedicate to my WW many times since I first heard it...' Bryan Adams, "Everything I do, I do it for you"
Look into my eyes - you will see What you mean to me Search your heart - search your soul And when you find me there you'll search no more Don't tell me it's not worth tryin' for You can't tell me it's not worth dyin' for You know it's true Everything I do - I do it for you
Look into your heart - you will find There's nothin' there to hide Take me as I am - take my life I would give it all I would sacrificeDon't tell me it's not worth fightin' for I can't help it there's nothin' I want more [ From: http://www.elyrics.net/read/b/bryan-adams-lyrics/(Everything-i-do)-i-do-it-for-you-lyrics.html] You know it's true Everything I do - I do it for you
There's no love - like your love And no other - could give more love There's nowhere - unless you're there All the time - all the way
Oh - you can't tell me it's not worth tryin' for I can't help it - there's nothin' I want more I would fight for you - I'd lie for you Walk the wire for you - ya I'd die for you You know it's true Everything I do - I do it for you
Yeah, a sappy song I admit...
Your gonna be fine MJ, roll with it and we will all get thruogh it.
Me 56 Former BS Widowed 5-17-09 --married 25 years. 4 children DS-35 previous marriage--18-22 DGrandSons 6 and 4 Me former BS DD-29 with DGDs 5 and 1yr DSs 26 and 23 Teilhard de Chardin..“We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.” ...Sounds about right to me.
Yes I agree, if we can just push thru, it will be awesome, but some don't see this, and need instant gratification.
I guess O&H communication along with sticking by your commitments with integrity is the answer there.
Agree. I'm sure my husband thought 4 years was way too long, but it took almost a year to get the truth out. And he wouldn't keep committments in recovery either, so he helped to stall the process.
C'est la vie.
Changing the subject to the songs.
I mentioned upthread that I heard that song, Time for Me to Fly not that long ago and I turned up the volume! Someone mentioned that they use to sing it in the shower after a breakup. Was that you? Lol....
I've always loved the Bryan Adams song. I wonder if it's healthy to have someone love you so much that "everything I do, I do it for you". Not that I don't think I would mind that....lol....
And C.P., yes, let keep on rolling! Great song. I need to put some of these on songs on my player!
One that I still like lately is I'll Pray for You by Jaron and The Long Road to Love......
I haven't been to church since I don't remember when Things were going great '�til they fell apart again So I listened to the preacher as he told me what to do He said you cant go hating others who have done wrong to you. Sometimes we get angry, but we must not condemn. Let the good Lord do His job and you just pray for them.
I pray your brakes go out running down a hill I pray a flowerpot falls from a window sill and knocks you in the head like I'd like to
I pray your birthday comes and nobody calls I pray you're flying high when your engine stalls I pray all your dreams never come true Just know wherever you are honey, I pray for you
I'm really glad I found my way to church 'Cause I'm already feeling better and I thank God for his words. Yeah I'm going take the high road, And do what the preacher told me to do, You keep messing up and I'll keep praying for you.
I pray your tire blows out at 110. I pray you pass out drunk with your best friend and wake up with his and her tattoos.
I pray your brakes go out running down a hill. I pray a flowerpot falls from a window sill and knocks you in the head like I'd like to.
I pray your birthday comes and nobody calls I pray you're flying high when your engine stalls I pray all your dreams never come true Just know wherever you are, near or far, in your house or in your car, wherever you are honey, I pray for you. I pray for you
D-yr fall 06-fall 07 Separated 10/2010 Him-several affairs, last one 3/2011 Divorced filed 3/2011, final 3/2012
After a 4 yr FR, it became CLEAR to me of what you can look for in a FR. And that is the absence of POJA, and/or if your spouse tramples on your boundaries. If someone is not willing to do POJA with you, and they don't respect your boundaries, imo, the relationship is doomed.
After a 4 yr FR, it became CLEAR to me of what you can look for in a FR. And that is the absence of POJA, and/or if your spouse tramples on your boundaries. If someone is not willing to do POJA with you, and they don't respect your boundaries, imo, the relationship is doomed.
After a 4 yr FR, it became CLEAR to me of what you can look for in a FR. And that is the absence of POJA, and/or if your spouse tramples on your boundaries. If someone is not willing to do POJA with you, and they don't respect your boundaries, imo, the relationship is doomed.
Hey C.P., I just reread the lyrics to Roll With the Changes again, and it sounds like an op asking someone to leave their partner.
Just remember, most lyrics are subjective... Some are contextually clear, but not many.
Thought that since we're sharing "road tunes", I'd kick one in. This is what I think you need MJ...'a little bit of resolve'.
Foo Fighters - Resolve ------------------------- Something that I felt today, something that I heard Swingin' from the chandeliers, hanging on your word I remember watchin' you once upon a time Dancing from across the room in another life
A little bit of resolve is what I need now Pin me down, show me how A little bit of resolve is what I need now Pin me down, show me how
Lookin' back to find my way, never seemed so hard Yesterday's been laid to rest, changing of the guard I would never change a thing even if I could All the songs we used to sing, everything was good
A little bit of resolve is what I need now Pin me down, show me how A little bit of resolve is what I need now Pin me down, show me how
One more year that you're not here It's gone and passed you by What happened to you, what happened to you One more tear that you won't hear That's gone and passed you by What happened to you, what happened to you
A little bit of resolve is what I need now Pin me down, show me how A little bit of resolve is what I need now Pin me down, show me how
A little bit of resolve One more year that you're not here It's gone and passed you by (A little bit of resolve) A little bit of resolve One more year that you're not here It's gone and passed you by (A little bit of resolve)
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BH (me): 31 WXW: 31 (Still in the house!) Married: Jan 2005 DS: 6 years old DDay #1: 12 Mar 2008 Failed Recovery #1: Jun 2008 - Jun 2010 DDay #2: 28 Jun 2010 Failed Recovery #2: Aug 2010 - Sep 2010 Plan A/Limbo: Sep 2010 - 24 Jan 2011 DDay #3: 29 Jan 2011 On OM#4, that I know of... D Filed: 11 Feb 2011 D Final: 10 Jun 2011 (still waiting on prop division & custody)
"You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink."
..I mentioned upthread that I heard that song, Time for Me to Fly not that long ago and I turned up the volume! Someone mentioned that they use to sing it in the shower after a breakup. Was that you? Lol......
Oops! Yeah that was me, lol. Guess I forgot I allraedy mentioned it.
Hey C.P., I just reread the lyrics to Roll With the Changes again, and it sounds like an op asking someone to leave their partner.
Lol well I never saw it that way, but like IAT said, lyrics are mostly subjective.
I saw it as a BS waiting for thier WS to get it together and work with them, sorta grow up so to speak. Kinds "here I am, this is who I am, now lets get to work and deal"
After a 4 yr FR, it became CLEAR to me of what you can look for in a FR. And that is the absence of POJA, and/or if your spouse tramples on your boundaries. If someone is not willing to do POJA with you, and they don't respect your boundaries, imo, the relationship is doomed.
I always think to myself "not Michael Jackson" whenever I write 'MJ'. Hehe. Just thought I'd share that.
Glad you like the song. I know REO to Foo Fighters is quite a jump, but I figured what the hay. And, since lyrics are subjective, I was pretty sure all of us here on the D would read the song pretty similarly.
I do need to do an update. Although, not a whole lot to update. STBX responded to the petitions..agreed to everything including placement with me. She also FINALLY went looking at apartments yesterday. Guess she didn't have much luck. I still don't speak/look at her; only email. She asks me stuff occasionally, and I usually give a very short answer.
Other than that, DS and I have had a blast together for months now. We start our horse riding lessons (his 2nd year, my 1st!) this weekend. We're both stoked about that.
Just keepin busy really. And enjoying what I can. Even if a certain someone doesn't want to enjoy it with me.
I think you're doing great MJ. Just keep it one day at a time, one foot in front of the other.
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BH (me): 31 WXW: 31 (Still in the house!) Married: Jan 2005 DS: 6 years old DDay #1: 12 Mar 2008 Failed Recovery #1: Jun 2008 - Jun 2010 DDay #2: 28 Jun 2010 Failed Recovery #2: Aug 2010 - Sep 2010 Plan A/Limbo: Sep 2010 - 24 Jan 2011 DDay #3: 29 Jan 2011 On OM#4, that I know of... D Filed: 11 Feb 2011 D Final: 10 Jun 2011 (still waiting on prop division & custody)
"You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink."
My stbx likes Michael Jackson. I packed up his stuff out of my bedroom closet finally, and there were some old Jackson records in his stuff. Also, on one of his social forums, he added some songs to his page and Michael's Billy Jean song was one of them. Oh, and Desperado too.
Changing subject.
Thanks for the update! How do you tell someone you're glad to hear the "divorce is moving along well"? It just doesn't sound right to me....lol...Maybe I should say that I'm glad that she's not making things "more difficult for you". Yeah. That's better.
And how in the hayul do you guys stay sane living in the same house with a stbx? I would seriously want to shoot myself. Those of you who have to do that deserve some kind of medal. Have you offered to help her look for an apartment....lol...Heck for that matter, maybe you could sign her up on Adultfriendfinder so she'll "need her space"! Hahahahaha....Have any single enemies?
Glad to hear you're having fun with your son. I love that you are doing the horse lessons together. That's awesome. What's her face is missing out.
My kids are a wonderful distraction for me these days. We've been having a ton of fun too.
Life is getting better and better, even in the midst of the dark knights. There is light at the end of the tunnel. See ya on the other side buddy.
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D-yr fall 06-fall 07 Separated 10/2010 Him-several affairs, last one 3/2011 Divorced filed 3/2011, final 3/2012
After a 4 yr FR, it became CLEAR to me of what you can look for in a FR. And that is the absence of POJA, and/or if your spouse tramples on your boundaries. If someone is not willing to do POJA with you, and they don't respect your boundaries, imo, the relationship is doomed.
Maybe I should say that I'm glad that she's not making things "more difficult for you". Yeah. That's better.
Yeah, hard to word that one. But, she isn't making anything easy, per say. The fact that she is still assuming that I'm making plans based of what "I know" she is planning on doing, even though she doesn't tell me anything... Well, let's just say, soon enough I'll only be raising one child. But, when DS gets to be a teen, I already have some practice! LOL.
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And how in the hayul do you guys stay sane living in the same house with a stbx? I would seriously want to shoot myself. Those of you who have to do that deserve some kind of medal. Have you offered to help her look for an apartment....lol...Heck for that matter, maybe you could sign her up on Adultfriendfinder so she'll "need her space"! Hahahahaha....Have any single enemies?
It is very trying at times. I can be in the best of moods, but as soon as we're in the same house....BOOM! Bye bye good mood. It effects me and how I am with DS at the moment. But, I usually try and keep the "family" time to a minimum and go do my own thing and let them have time. Honestly, she only sees him in the morning for about 40 minutes a day before the bus, and then maybe 5 hours a week other than that. But, she tried to tell me that I'm trying to turn him against her, because I do all this stuff with him. Guilt much? So sad really...
Good idea on the AFF. Maybe after the dust settles, I'll kick it back up a little.
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Glad to hear you're having fun with your son. I love that you are doing the horse lessons together. That's awesome. What's her face is missing out.
Exactly. And she knows it...
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Life is getting better and better, even in the midst of the dark knights. There is light at the end of the tunnel. See ya on the other side buddy.
I'll bring the beer and turntable. You bring the Speedwagon records...
And stop talking about how old you guys are, CP and Fred. Music is timeless. I bet I don't know anyone who was alive when Beethhoven wrote 'Moonlight' or the Egmont...but, I still listen to it.
BH (me): 31 WXW: 31 (Still in the house!) Married: Jan 2005 DS: 6 years old DDay #1: 12 Mar 2008 Failed Recovery #1: Jun 2008 - Jun 2010 DDay #2: 28 Jun 2010 Failed Recovery #2: Aug 2010 - Sep 2010 Plan A/Limbo: Sep 2010 - 24 Jan 2011 DDay #3: 29 Jan 2011 On OM#4, that I know of... D Filed: 11 Feb 2011 D Final: 10 Jun 2011 (still waiting on prop division & custody)
"You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink."
Maybe I should say that I'm glad that she's not making things "more difficult for you". Yeah. That's better.
Yeah, hard to word that one. But, she isn't making anything easy, per say. The fact that she is still assuming that I'm making plans based of what "I know" she is planning on doing, even though she doesn't tell me anything... Well, let's just say, soon enough I'll only be raising one child. But, when DS gets to be a teen, I already have some practice! LOL.
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And how in the hayul do you guys stay sane living in the same house with a stbx? I would seriously want to shoot myself. Those of you who have to do that deserve some kind of medal. Have you offered to help her look for an apartment....lol...Heck for that matter, maybe you could sign her up on Adultfriendfinder so she'll "need her space"! Hahahahaha....Have any single enemies?
It is very trying at times. I can be in the best of moods, but as soon as we're in the same house....BOOM! Bye bye good mood. It effects me and how I am with DS at the moment. But, I usually try and keep the "family" time to a minimum and go do my own thing and let them have time. Honestly, she only sees him in the morning for about 40 minutes a day before the bus, and then maybe 5 hours a week other than that. But, she tried to tell me that I'm trying to turn him against her, because I do all this stuff with him. Guilt much? So sad really...
Good idea on the AFF. Maybe after the dust settles, I'll kick it back up a little.
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Glad to hear you're having fun with your son. I love that you are doing the horse lessons together. That's awesome. What's her face is missing out.
Exactly. And she knows it...
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Life is getting better and better, even in the midst of the dark knights. There is light at the end of the tunnel. See ya on the other side buddy.
I'll bring the beer and turntable. You bring the Speedwagon records...
And stop talking about how old you guys are, CP and Fred. Music is timeless. I bet I don't know anyone who was alive when Beethhoven wrote 'Moonlight' or the Egmont...but, I still listen to it.
I like new bands too, its just that I don't listen to music and seek to be connected like I used to. As a matter of fact, what it serves to be a purpose is that many people can have the same questions and troubles, and that we are not alone in them.
What I told my now 24 year old manager at AT&T,(proud of him also), when the cheese fell way off Moms cracker back in 2006, and he was dreaming of promoting his band and was living somewhere else because our family had exploded, ...was that music can present a connectivness and express problems very well, but I want solutions instead. Just like people can study trees and splice the genes, I want to know who created them, that was better than changing them, IMHO. Same with people, just because a sensitive and expressive person can relate to my problems, does not mean they have an answer to them. Years ago I thought they might, but now I see they are just asking the question in a different way.
Music makes me think, and connects us, I think thats its purpose also, along with the spiritual side of it.
Yeah Freddo, I know what you mean, I remember going in and out of music for years, mostly top 40 stuff and when those new kids like The Police came out. When my BIL who was 14 started smoking weed and rocking out to KISS after his 76 year old Dad died, I had to set him straight on the spirit behind it. After all I was 19 and so much more grown up. "Detroit Rock City" was a rockin tune though and appealed to that rebelious nature even in my serious nature.
The latest group I was hypnotised with was Creed, back in the 90s, although I listen to allmost all of them, and try to understand what they are saying. It seems music reachs us and means the most when we are in emotional turmoil of some kind. I try to be careful of what I listen to, because it has allways had such a profound effect on my emotions. Cerebral groups like The Who to party groups like The J. Giels Band all have thier place, but I take them all with a grain of salt.
Something interesting I heard in Christian circles, was that Satan was in charge of music before he fell from Heaven. Thier is a lot in mythology also about Pan who was the hairy little trouble maker who played the pipe and coaxed people into mischief. It was said that Pan was relegated into the role of the Devil in Christianity. The interesting part was that although everybody blamed Pan for their bad behavior, the people chained themselves to him willingly.
Kinda sounds like people doesn't it? Blame shifting because of their own choices. Reminds me of Flip Wilsons "Geraldine" character, "The Devil made me do it!"
Sorry I haven't responded to the playful banter on here the last few days. I'm feeling down. I hate this rollercoaster.
My stbx informed me this week he is getting his own apartment now, and moving out of his sisters. It's just one more move away from me permanently.
I have been pretty successful in my forgivness towards him, for my own healing. The one thing that can still hurt me deep inside is how he saw how much it hurt me over the last few years with what he did, and he CHOSE to hurt me that way again. My forgivness for that is a work in progress.
It's funny because he was so frustrated that I couldn't forgive and forget on his time schedule. I am now where he wanted me to be the last 4 yrs, but he was impatient. Not to mention, he couldn't do the same for me.
Since we're still discussing songs....I've been hearing this song for the last few weeks, and I loved the music, but didn't pay close attention to the words until last night. I looked the lyrics up, and the song is fitting for me right now. It pulled some heart strings because one of my dreams was to sail off somewhere with my husband. Just replace me for the guy in the song.......
Got out of town on a boat Goin' to Southern islands. Sailing a reach Before a followin' sea. She was makin' for the trades On the outside, And the downhill run To Papeete. Off the wind on this heading Lie the Marquesas. We got eighty feet of the waterline. Nicely making way. In a noisy bar in Avalon I tried to call you. But on a midnight watch I realized Why twice you ran away. Chorus Think about how many times I have fallen Spirits are using me larger voices callin'. What heaven brought you and me Cannot be forgotten. I have been around the world, Lookin' for that woman/girl, Who knows love can endure. And you know it will. And you know it will. When you see the Southern Cross For the first time You understand now Why you came this way 'Cause the truth you might be runnin' from Is so small. But it's as big as the promise The promise of a comin' day. So I'm sailing for tomorrow My dreams are a dyin'. And my love is an anchor tied to you Tied with a silver chain. I have my ship And all her flags are a flyin' She is all that I have left And music is her name. Chorus Think about how many times I have fallen Spirits are using me larger voices callin'. What heaven brought you and me Cannot be forgotten. I have been around the world, Lookin' for that woma/girl, Who knows love can endure. And you know it will. And you know it will. So we cheated and we lied And we tested And we never failed to fail It was the easiest thing to do. You will survive being bested. Somebody fine Will come along Make me forget about loving you. At the Southern Cross.
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D-yr fall 06-fall 07 Separated 10/2010 Him-several affairs, last one 3/2011 Divorced filed 3/2011, final 3/2012
After a 4 yr FR, it became CLEAR to me of what you can look for in a FR. And that is the absence of POJA, and/or if your spouse tramples on your boundaries. If someone is not willing to do POJA with you, and they don't respect your boundaries, imo, the relationship is doomed.
Smoked to many years and don't sing anymore, but yeah I used to have decent set of pipes. 
