Hey I refused to accept my wife had an affair even when friends of mine saw it happen.. I'm sorry bud but you need to snoop.

Sorry you are here and I know, as a newbie to all this, you are confused, scared, and DEEP in the �betrayed fog� right now.

Sir, your wife IS CHEATING. Any extramarital opposite-sex relationship that is initiated, propagated, or maintained via secrecy and/or deception from the other spouse is emotional infidelity at a minimum. Your wife is clearly going to substantial lengths to conceal and lie about her whereabouts and the company she�s keeping.

Every WW uses the �I need some time and space to myself to think about some things� line as a cover to maintain and indulge her affair. My WW did it to me and virtually every BH hears it in some form. Standard wayward bs.

She is almost assuredly in an emotional affair/EA at the very least and I would not be surprised one bit if it was physical/sexual as well. She certainly has had plenty of chances to take it there given her strange activities at strange hours like you�ve described. Please stop kidding yourself�SHE IS CONCEALING SOMETHING WITH THIS GUY AND PEOPLE DON�T CONCEAL THINGS UNLESS THERE IS SOMETHING �BAD� TO HIDE.

Her denials mean NOTHING. Every BH here, myself included, was lied to by his wife as to the true nature and extent of the relationship with her �friend�. Don�t believe her one bit. Snoop and find out ASAP�I guarantee there is way more to the story than she is leading you to believe.


Let me help you out with this to make it more accurate to reality:

but i am worried that she's developing has indulged, and has acted upon, inappropriate feelings with this other guy.


That�s fine�for now. Take all the advice here about HOW and START SNOOPING right away. Don�t decide the above until you have the REAL INFORMATION not just wishful thinking.

If, as I strongly suspect, you find out that she�s cheating (EA at least), then you are going to really have to think hard about how much you are willing to invest and risk (present and future) with a woman who has so little regard for her marriage and husband that she has betrayed it/him only a few months in. You are young, you have no kids, and I would strongly advise you to consider cutting your losses early with someone who is so clearly an irresponsible, untrustworthy partner.

Start SNOOPING please!

It is a matter of denial.

You are in denial.

What your wife is doing sounds like shes sharing her drug dealers stuff (drugs and sex)

My last post sounded kind of negative, so let me give you some encouragement.

There is a way to get through this. We have been in your shoes, we've heard the same BS, and the same lies.

Your first job is to snoop.

I have to logoff the PC here at work, could someone post the link for snooping?

Found any info?

Your wife wants time alone to pursue this fling of hers. You have to make demands- Either me, or him!

Please take the time to read the Basic Concepts and articles on this site and refrain from posting unhelpful advice to posters.

That's what I said of my FWW who I had been with since she was 15. Two affairs later I found out I was fooling myself. please listen to what's being advised. There are very poor boundaries in place by her (and you). You need to absolutely verify what's being asked by the folks here.

CV

Alot of old topics being resurrected... hmmm