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In any event I have responded and told him to try again in 6 months if he feels the same. Well, you came here asking the forum for opinions if it was appropriate to respond to him. You were advised not to. You did it anyway. Now what? I guess you are done here.
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I am not sure if I want to spend more time with someone who cheats and lies. Would that not be true for BW and BH as well? No one has addressed that question. That is the million dollar question for BS that have "families" and a long history invested in the marriage. Do I destroy my kids lives and throw it all away without a fight? You have neither of these things with him. Find a real man.
ME: BS
HIM: FWS
Married 14 yrs together 17 years
DD: 8 & 13
D-DAY PA 9/16/08 and 12/13/08
OW: neighbor presenting herself as my friend.
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That would be true of every man and woman who has ever cheated. In any event I have responded and told him to try again in 6 months if he feels the same. I figure that is enough time to decide if he is serious.
Thanks for your advice minus the weird ones. Toodles! ![[Linked Image from pic4ever.com]](http://www.pic4ever.com/images/6.gif)
D-Day 2-10-2009
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In any event I have responded and told him to try again in 6 months if he feels the same. So much for redeeming yourself.
FBW in recovery
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Toodles! 
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utbow,
Everyone is responsible for their own actions, you were raised to not interfere with anyone else's marriage to respect that. Marriages are difficult at best without someone interfering and causing a spouse to not thinking clearly and you stop a spouse from giving 100% to their marriage, yes he did do it as well just like every other wayward spouse, this is just about your responsibility and that to me is a disappointment as a woman. Women have a code, you are the type of woman that every other woman warns each other about. Why do you chose to be that woman, you should have more respect for yourself and other women........
I wouldn't respond, you should work on yourself, get your integrity back, get some self respect and then find someone who doesn't think that having an affair while married and raising a family is okay.......
You came here looking for advice, something in that tells me you may have changed for the better, don't take any more steps backwards.........I am a bs by the way
BW 56
WH 57
Married 25 years, live together for 2, dated 2 years before that.....
DS 23, DS 25
D-Day Nov 23/09
NC Mar 1/10
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I think I have changed myself for the better and yes I have responded. I have told him I can't talk to him for 6 months and that will make 18 months since he separated and 9 since divorce. I will revisit at that time if I am not otherwise involved.
Thanks again.
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