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[censored] I am shaking right now Meh, I am so sorry. I have been here a year and now seen a lot of men sitting where you are sitting right now. I have even seen a couple sail through it okay with their marriages intact. What maritalbliss said is absolutely correct. If she will not take steps to assure you that your marriage is safe, she needs to go.
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OK I will vent here - done with polygraph threats for now ---- I told her I am speaking with an attorney tomorrow and that she will lose everything if she refuses the polygraph.
I am going to rad Josephs letter now Perfect. Don't be surprised if she starts blabbing to you before the polygraph test. They usually do. Go through with it anyway. Good job on not threatening her - you'll accomplish little. You've already said the one word she never wanted to hear - polygraph. You think you're shaking?
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OK I will vent here - done with polygraph threats for now ---- I told her I am speaking with an attorney tomorrow and that she will lose everything if she refuses the polygraph. Meh, you are doing an awesome job. So fast and so strong. You are probably the kind of man that your wife is not going to want to lose.
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Meh, you should change your name to Lightning. I've never seen anyone do all the right things so fast.
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haha - thanks
I told two of her friends in the past hour and she is texting me "why the [censored] did you tell XXXX. who else did you tell?"
She is saying I am scaring her and that I seem crazy
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She just said she is taking my son and going to stay with her mom for a while
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She just said she is taking my son and going to stay with her mom for a while I don't think that's appropriate. Why would she need to take your son? I'd tell her she's not taking your son without a court order.
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She just said she is taking my son and going to stay with her mom for a while Did you expose this to her mother? Give her a call if you haven't. WW will go there are start painting you out to look like a lunatic. You want to get to her mom before that. Don't get overly emotional when you call her. Explain what her daughter has been up to and ask her for her support as you try to save your marriage. Blood is thicker than water, but don't forget the blood that Grandmothers are partial to - their grandchildren. Tell her you are sure that she doesn't want her grandson to grow up in a divorced family, and she can help you avoid that.
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I have already told her mom - this made my WS more furious than anything.
I just forwarded my WS two texts from the polygraph examiner.
She replied "you really have lost it"
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Yes, sir, you do. (Did you realize that on your own? Amazing.) Don't lose sight of this; don't leave it undone.
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well - she texted back saying "I am not making you out to be crazy - I just want to be away from you.
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well - she texted back saying "I am not making you out to be crazy - I just want to be away from you. Pay no attention to the ramblings of a wayward, Meh. Call her mother and tell her what is going on. Ask for her support as you fight to save your marriage. Do this before WW gets there. Where is you son right now? Is he with you? She should not leave with him if you can help it.
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She replied "you really have lost it" She still thinks she's driving this car, doesn't she? But I see you are taking the keys away.
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her response "You have to STOP this"
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well - she texted back saying "I am not making you out to be crazy - I just want to be away from you. "You can be away from me all you want, honey, when we are divorced."
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her response "You have to STOP this" I'd quit texting her at this point, Meh. You have other work to do. Did you tell her work and her family, yet? Take care of this all at once for maximum effect.
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her response "You have to STOP this" If you must respond: "I will never stop fighting for our marriage."
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She just said she is taking my son and going to stay with her mom for a while Did you expose this to her mother? Give her a call if you haven't. WW will go there are start painting you out to look like a lunatic. You want to get to her mom before that. Don't get overly emotional when you call her. Explain what her daughter has been up to and ask her for her support as you try to save your marriage. Blood is thicker than water, but don't forget the blood that Grandmothers are partial to - their grandchildren. Tell her you are sure that she doesn't want her grandson to grow up in a divorced family, and she can help you avoid that. Meh, Do it quickly. Tell her you are seeking counseling for you and your WW to save your M. (consider calling the Harley's not only for your M, it also looks VERY good in court if things go south.) Save all those text's in a SAFE place. I would also ask her mom to NOT babysit your son for your WW as she may be using this as a way to hook up with the OM. I would also tell your WW that if she does leave with your son you will be calling the OM's wife to let her know that she should be extra vigilant in keeping an eye on her WH. Which will also make the OM like your WW even less!!! Jim
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I am going to stop talking to her for the next hour at least - things need to simmer
I cant stop her from taking my son
She has said that my telling her mom is more dishonest than what she has done
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