LOL

There is probably a best selling book in there haha.

Here's the best list ever posted about wayward fogbabble (Look at the second post)

http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2029218

you are doing AWESOME OB!

keep on exposing!

The madder he gets, the more you know you've hit the targets.

Here's a tip:

Never call OW by her first name, or call her derogatory names when speaking with WH.

Always refer to her as OWH's wife .... Example: "Bob's wife".

As in: "You sent Bob's wife a valentine and you also made a hotel reservation to secretly meet with Bob's wife."

Use that term AS OFTEN AS POSSIBLE.

And, never refer to this as "Your affair with Bob's wife". Instead, say "Your adultery with Bob's wife".

Awesome, thank you for that. I always want to refer to her as that slut/skank/ho etc.

You can call her those names here.
Not in front of WH.
But here?
Let 'em rip!

Should I call her & tell her I want to talk to her? I want her to have to face me.

ADvice please! I know it is probably a bad idea...

Oh yes, it is a good idea. Tell her that she is in for the fight of her life and that if this doesn't stop you be filing on grounds of adultery and name her as a respondant. She will be subpoenaed to testify under oath about her affair and will have to produce her email, cell phone and test records under discovery.

Tell her there is no future in her affair because she will be eternally hated by your children and the inlaws.

Is your MIL going to call her up?

Did you expose this affair to her PARENTS and the rest of her facebook friends??

You are getting good advice.

Completely ignore your WH until exposure is complete. Don't take his calls or look at his texts. He will just try to derail/distract you or plant seeds of doubt...


RE Confronting the OW
I confronted my H's two OW (one by text, one by phone) and was with my sister when she confronted her H's OW. They HATE being confronted so it's a great way to interfere with the fantasy. Just be warned that they will lie, deny and try to gaslight (all three OW I mentioned above did this). So don't bother trying to get any sympathy or understanding from her. What ML gave you is perfect.

Hang in there.

Tell her "my children know that you are nothing more than a mistress who is sleeping with their dad and trying to break up their family. They hate you."

Talked to OWs H again today. She enquired about an apartment (they work at an apt complex which has made this easier for them to move out) & was told she could have one just short term. So she wants to move out & split custody of kids with her H. He said he is fine with that, he is done with her & her lies, wants to do what is best for kids. I told him he should not let her disrupt the kids lives by moving them into an apartment complex, but whatever it is his choice.

What a skanky [censored] ho, I am so disgusted my H has screwed his children over for that POS.

Thanks ML. Nor sure if MIL is going to call her. Have not exposed this to her parents, will have to see if I can find them online.

Get er done!!

I confronted my H's OW.

She is scared of me. I have no idea why...except that I told her if she ever came near my husband or me or any of my friends again I would beat the living *&( out of her......

Lo and behold, she has not come around, not even to my neighbor's house where her daughters are friends with the girls next door to me. She has her hubby pick up and drop off.

Also, my friends have mentioned that they haven't seen her "in years".

Wonder why?

Careful making threats!

As fun as that sounds, it would be a one-way ticket to "Order for Protection-Ville"

Not a good idea to make terroristic threats....

The way I worded it that was safe (When I messaged the OM via Facebook) was something like:

"Attempting or making any further contact with my wife would be a serious mistake"

And I added - "I know you are divorced and have an 8 year old daughter - don't destroy another family"

Great ways to DIG in to them without making threats. This is not harassment either, if you only do it once. Harassment is continued messaging, or continuous unwanted contact.

Libel is stating false facts like "OM sleeps with Donkeys"

An opinion is not libelous and you could say "I think OM sleeps with Donkeys!"

Fine lines here folks. Be careful!

Yep, Harley's right. Don't make threats. MAKE PROMISES. Let OW know she'll never have a moment's peace as long as she is anywhere near your H. Don't be a polite BW. OW laugh at those women.

I have not heard anything re workplace exposure. I did just read Mulans thread about workplace adultery. A lot of that post applied to my Hs workplace, no spouses at conferences, christmas parties etc. IN fact, the company bussed all employees to Albany for the party this year. So they probably don't give a crap who is screwing who.

OW did move into an apt there. I have told my H I do not want her around the children. He said "What - never?". Grrrrrr. I said if either of you have an ounce of decency you will wait a year before you start thinking about introducing the children to your new partners. I asked him how he would feel if I went out & got a new boyfriend and started bringing him around the kids? He didnt like that.

He wants to file for divorce. I told him I would have my lawyer do a separation agreement, and we go from there. In a year we will revisit the divorce idea.

I dont know what to do. I started taking classes at a martial arts studio & am getting my life back on track, taking care of myself & the kids.

Have you been in touch with the OWH about the ongoing affair? And to whom did you expose at work? I am surprised the OW still has her job.

Did oyu expose to the OW's parents?

I sent a letter to 3 people at work - the president, VP, and managing director. Nothing yet, maybe something is in the works & I just don't know it yet.

Yes, have been in touch with OWH, they are splitting, sharing custody of kids. I told him my H is an alcoholic so he had better consider that when he will be around OWs 1 & 4 year old.

Have no info for OWs parents, did get in touch with her sister but heard nothing back.

If there's more than just a couple people at the office where your WH and OW work together, I would seriously consider paying them a visit in person!

I'd walk right in, walk right over to OW's desk and with a clear a loud voice introduce yourself as DH's WIFE and ask her to stop screwing your husband, and destroying your family. Do this in front of as many people as possible. The more the better.

Apparently, the home office doesn't care about employees bumping uglies on company time, so they won't care if you waltz on in and share your thoughts!

The OW has got to go. Period. Your WH is cake eating too.

Before you leave, hand OW a few pictures of your children and tell her to look them in the eyes and think about how pathetic her choices have been. Then feel free to call her a wh*re and walk away.

Just be careful not to make any threats, or get violent. No need for police to get involved!

Good luck! We're here for you!