I started another thread in the divorcing section. I will update as needed here.

I got a message from OM soon to be ex-wife and she said that OM actually asked her if she wanted to come back to him. I think my WW is pretty nieve about what her new relationship actually is. And she is living with him lol.

It looks like the affair is going to end, according to Dr. Harley, the wrong way. But nonetheless, it sounds like it might have run its course. Are you ready for this?

Come again? OM sent you a message or did I misread that?

nope, im not. I don't know if it will end or not. OMW does not want him back. Hes to much of a pos in her eyes as well. This will be his 2nd A with this wife. I think my WW will be to stubborn and have to much pride to admit she was wrong. At least at the moment. She will probably continue with divorce just to show everyone how right she is.

Lost - sorry to say, that sounds all to familiar. Pride and stubborness are a terrible combination. My WW is doing the same thing - has to buy that house and move out. She's got to show that she's doing what she says she's going to do. Remember, it's out of your control - let it go. Can't teach stupid! Sorry if that's harsh!

Not harsh at all, just truth. Not even going to try anymore. Its over with her and im not beating any more dead horses even for my kids. If she ever had a complete change, id have to think about it.

Lost - sorry to hear that you're going down the D path. I fear I'm headed down there too - just like TimB. The Feb Exposure vintage is definitely a mixed bag.

Ya that's no doubt. At first I had high hopes after reading so many stories, but sadly all hope went down the tubes as she kept going farther and farther away. Feb was the worst month of my life to date. I can honestly say that, followed by the second worse month, being march. She actually told me on my birthday she wanted a Div. How awesome is that. She has done her job of winning the battle of leaving her life she had. Congratulations to her.

I actually have some totally awesome stories about yesterday that just flipped my hole view of whats going down, but i dont want to post them in that slim case she does view these forums.

don't look at it as she won any battle. she's much more lost than you'll ever be. very sorry lostman.

Well she won in a way. she keeps getting what she wants. Yes, sadly in the end she is the biggest loser.

Lost - I feel for you. At least some of these WS here are just lost souls. We, BS, can only hope that their fog will lift at some point. In the meantime, take care of your kids and yourself - those are things in your control. Work at building a life in the 'new normal' - whatever that means to you. I'm trying to do the same thing, even though I still hold out hope. However, that being said, any attempt is off in the distant future. My WW needs to hit rockbottom before she'll consider coming back. If she hits rockbottom - it'll take a couple of months to materialize. The single, carefree life has such an allure that it'll take time to wear off. Then, she'd have to swallow her pride, the odds are against me on that front too. If she doesn't hit rockbottom - she's gone. The old saying applies: "Prepare for the worst and hope for the best."

Hang in there!

Good post Andy. I think we have a lot in common with our WW, As most people do i believe. It is funny, its almost like a disease. All of the symptoms are usually the same as is the treatment. sometimes u win sometimes u lose. I think i lost my wife to WW. RIP.

Exposure increases the chances of ending an A and restoring the M. It is not however guaranteed that it will work. Also, I believe that the stats show that if the WS is a WW, then the odds are significantly greater that the M will end (70+%, if I remember correctly). And even if the M does not end, I'm sure that there are many examples of the BH having second thoughts about choosing to remain M'd, after the dust has settled.

In summary, the chances are pretty small that you end up with what you'd consider to be a better M after your W decides to be a WW.

There is a well-known saying that goes "the best revenge you can have against a man who steals your wife is to let him keep her". Sometimes I wonder if there's a bit of truth to that statement.

Lost - thanks - just putting down how I feel. Whether you won or lost is still an open question in my mind - unless you've closed that door. It's way too early to give in or give up - unless you're done. If you're done, I urge you to get the D done and over with as quickly as possible. That way you can move on and rebuild your *better* life!

MiM - thanks for the reality check, and more importantly, the laugh! FYI - I knew that the odds are against us from the beginning. The only real guarantee in life is death - IMVHO.

Only guarantee is death is certain. I think my WW has taken several if not many years off of my life. Oh well cant win them all.

Andy- am i done? today yes, tomorrow? day by day brother.

Odds, schmodds.

What's life without risk? Risk the odds, damn the doubters. Adapt, overcome, conquer!

Lost - I know exactly how you feel! I run that gambit with you every day.

I have never really been a roller coaster of emotions. Usually content with life. I tell ya, Getting on the roller coaster plays hell on your life. 22 lbs and holding is what Ive lost. The stress levels have elevated, Sleeping at night is generally non existent, emotions are at the tip of every conversation. But I'm doing good and holding strong the last few days.

Lost - Great to hear that you're doing good and staying strong. Emotionally, I'm the same way. My WW was surprised at the amount of passion I bring to this..hmm..topic... I've lost 20 myself - the only upside to this greek tragedy. My sleeping is mixed, 1-2 nights of bad sleep, leading to exhaustion, which results in a really good night's sleep. LOL

Let's keep building on those good days! Focus on the kids - WW be dammed!