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KISA?


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KISA - knight in shining armor


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FU?


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As in plan FU? It would be a harsher form of plan screw you.


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I don't think FU is a marriage builder term.
It's when you throw your arms up and decide that you don't care how many LB you commit, you are done and don't care

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I was encouraged to do some FU behavior during my divorce process but I stuck with the majority advice to follow plan A and I'm glad I did.
I don't think LB behaviors help anyone

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How about LM? As in: "Be careful you don't tip your hand, LM. Watch to see how he reacts to you. WH is still untrustworthy."


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Originally Posted by LeanieMe
How about LM? As in: "Be careful you don't tip your hand, LM. Watch to see how he reacts to you. WH is still untrustworthy."
LM=LeanieMe. It's just shorthand for your posting name.


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"the affair exists in is one in which needs like FS, FC, and DS are not required to be met,..."

When referring to needs, what do these acronyms represent: FS, FC and DS?


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FS = Financial Support
FC = Family Commitment
DS = Domestic Support


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Originally Posted by Mediamom
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OM - Other Man
OP - Other Person
EP - Extraordinary Protection
PORH - Policy of Radical Honest

and also POJA is Policy of Joint Agreement


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what is UA?

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Originally Posted by Mediamom
what is UA?

UA = Undivided Attention

This is the acronym used to signify the minimum time set aside every week for Undivided Attention. The minimum time need to maintain romantic love is about 15 hours each week. This is what Dr. Harley discovered through his research. To restore romantic love, a minimum of 20 - 25 hours is needed.

UA means, too, that the couple is focused on each other, with no children or friends around, meeting each others intimate emotional needs. No tv, computer, phone.


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UA = Undivided Attention

All of the acronyms can be found by starting out by reading from the beginning of this topic thread.

Also, everyone interested in restoring their marriage to a safe, fulfilling and romantic level should at least put in the effort to read all of the free articles on this site, as well as purchasing the pertinent books from Dr. Harley which inexpensively aide you in the recovery process.

I would hope that anyone grasping at straws to fix their marriage would at least read through Dr. Harleys Basic Concepts and follow all of the links to addendum articles.

Isn't your marriage worth at least that much effort?

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POSOM?

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Originally Posted by ljmom24
POSOM?

P - Piece
O - of
S - uh....poop
O - other
M - man


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