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does he not like one of your girlfriends? maybe he thinks shes a negative influence.....

but other than that i have no answer, you could ask him, other than me not going, is there any other alternative that you can think of that would make us both happy? but i am sure you tried that.


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DD1 2.24.11
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final truths 5/8-- all of them poly confirmed 5/18
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Originally Posted by hurtagainbydavid
I'm having some frustration with POJA.

I usually go out with some girl friends once a month. It's only for an hour or two. No big deal. But, H said he is not enthusiastic about me going. So based on POJA, I can't go.

What are we doing wrong?

You need to negotiate.
A solution that you BOTH agree on.
Example:
Girls night at your home.

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that was right in front of my face, duh...


Me 44- yes ugggh
WH 47
together 26 years M 19
serial cheater big time
DD1 2.24.11
NC letter sent 3/7/11
NC letter to OW2 april
final truths 5/8-- all of them poly confirmed 5/18
working the plan

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