Thanks AndyM. Today is another day.

Get this! I sent my WW a text message letting her know I did something for her. It wasn't much of anything. I ended the text with ILY out of habbit. She replys back with Thank you, Luv U Too! Go figure- she's just playing me I think. Who knows!!

AndyM, you are right about the ride. Yesterday we met up at a sporting event for DD. We got along very well. Had her laughing a bit and overall it was good talking with her. Now today she is cold as ice. What goes through their mind? I was polite, upbeat, and did not pressure at all and no talking of relationship. It's like she flipped a switch. I have been keeping a close eye on WW and I believe she has not had contact with OM#1 PA for maybe two weeks. OM#2 EA- I suspect she has had contact electronically a couple of times last week. She never did go see him last weekend which I know WW had been meaning to do. Not sure what happened there! Thanks and hang in there also AndyM

I think this is typical WW behavior Fishing. Hot and Cold, waffling, one person one day, and another person the next. WW's are like a box of chocolate, you never know what your going to get.

Well my emotions are setteling down some. One thing I have found by my snooping is that I do not believe my WW has had physical contact with either OM#1 or OM#2. I also found out that she is not in an PA with OM#2. EA is where it is at and from what I can tell it is not to personal yet. Yet being the big word.

She is telling her BF's that she is not seeing anyone. That may be true but she is in contact with them. They all think I'm crazy. Some of what I have found out is that she still has some feelings for me. She is now on some meds to keep her calm I believe. She told her BF that I am really giving her an emotional rollercoaster??? What does that mean?? I think I have been nothing but honest/open and pretty easy going. I have stated what I want and how I feel and what it will take for us to be together again. I believe the ball is in her court!

Fishing - this sounds like a great Plan A opportunity for you. If she still have feelings for you, then be the best person you can be - especially in front of her.

Plan A .... buy WW's Mother some spectacular flowers.

Make that all the time Fishing! Be the best you can all the time! People talk - who knows it will probably get back to her too!

Spent alot of time with WW this weekend because of DD sporting event out of town. Things went pretty well. I paid for her lunch on Saturday and took her and DD out for Mothers Day breakfast.

After we both got back into town I went to her apt. I bought her flowers and a card for Mothers Day told her she is a good mother and that I love her. She hugged and kissed me and said she loved me too. When I was leavong I told her ILY again and maybe that was to much. It did feel good to tell her that and to hold her even if it brief. I'll wait and see how things roll out.

This weekend is a college grad party for my DSS. The party is at my house, My WW will be here along with her XH. This should be interesting, I,m sure she thinks that I and her XH will be talking bad about her together. This will not happen. At least from my side.

To all the mothers out there HAPPY MOTHERS DAY!!

Struggling today. After what i think was a pretty good weekend I want to sit down whith her and have a talk about us. I know this is to soon and I would just push her away. I'm not sure I can handle another almost two months of this. I made a personal decision that after three months I would ask her about us and if she wants to make a marriage with me. If she comes up with the I'm not sure I need more time answer I may have to go to Plan B. Not sure if this is what I want to do. Guess I'll decide then. Maybe I will have had a chance to deposit some in her LB.

Not sure how to deposit in the LB when she has her wall up. I think every once in a while some get thru. Not sure if it is enough or often enough?? Thanks

Some IC's may not be very good but atleast mine helps me stay strong and not be a door mat which is what I feel like sometimes. I have (in my mind) done mostly what my WW wanted. She would say differently.

I may have helped her move the first time but I will not help her move to her new Apt. She is on her own. I just can't do it nor should I. I told her my truck only moves things in one direction and that is to my home!

Good for you Fishing! I may need to see a IC myself. You know maybe some day we can look back on this and laugh at ourselves. But not right now.

I hope someday we can laugh about it!

Well I was snooping again and saw that WW had a dinner function with people from work. Apparently she had a guy put the moves on her and at first she was shocked. After some drinks she said she was kissing him but it did not go any further. She said this person is not her type and she really doesn't even like him. She also said she was thinking about taking it further with him. At the end of the email she said she just needs to put this behind her. She said this to OM#2 who she so far has not had #%%# with. But is planning on having a BBQ with him next week!! The stress kills a person.

I'm kinda getting the attitude of WTF! To heck with her

Sounds like he is exactly her type but don't want OM#2 to know she did anything.


Taking it further with this new guy? or OM#2?


I think thats the best attitude to have. If you don't care, it don't hurt.

Ever seen the movie Throw Mamma From The Train? I think we should start a club for BH's to TCOB. Dirty Deeds hehe.

Okay the WW emails me asking if she can use my truck and trailer so she can move into her new Apt. Technically she owns the truck and trailer also. I will not help her move unless it is to move home. Can I really just say no! Maybe she should call one of her OM's.

I am trying to figure out something to do that day that requires me using the truck.

Looking for some advice on what to tell her. I am in Plan A even if it isn't working well. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks

Just because she emailed doesn't mean that you have to jump back with a quick reply.

Ignore it for a day or two.

Be too busy to respond.

In the meantime come up with your reason. I think the wheel bearing on the trailer needs replacing....I already promised it to JoeShmoe that day....

Lexxxy, I wasn't planning on letting her know too quickly. I'll see WW on Friday and may have to answer it then. Should be able to come up with something.

I feel as though I should just tell her the truth about how I feel about it. She has done enough lying for both of us. Whatever I come up with it will have to be the truth. Thanks

Plan A has a carrot and a stick.

I think the "stick part" would include making and setting boundaries from helping her do anything destructive to you, your kids or your M.

>ahem<

"I will not enable you to further destroy this family. I do not agree with it, I will take part nor facilitate you doing so in any way. Can you use my truck? The answer is "no". Will I help you move? The answer, again, is "no."

Then stop talking about it at this point. Refuse to argue this situation, it is against your better judgemet -past the point of debate, and she will have to rent a truck to move. Poor, poor, WS.

Do not make this a legal (who owns what) at this point. This is a integrity/moral thing. She is not acting with morals twords your family.

I like that BCAT!! My thoughts exactly. Thanks