For those of you here please forgive me for not posting anything up until now. It's been a stressful couple of weeks. She is visiting her parents now outofstate She suggested going to MC but I refused pretty much knowing that it would not work at this stage. She was upset, called her dad who I already talked to and he advised her to come down there for awhile to relieve the stress. I also talked to him the next day. She was even more upset when she guessed that I had already talked with him. I already had identified the guy and had an appointment to talk with one of the grad school deans about her relationship. He suggested that it would be best if she did not register for any class for awhile and I think that was good advice. I've withheld any support for her to register and pay for any more classes. I know they are not monitoring adult behavior, but I felt he understood. So her degree pursuit is on hold. It would be a grad degree so she will have time.

After she got down there her dad told me she acted depressed. They have since taken her to see a psychiatirist there and I have yet to talk with this person. He is willing to act as an intermediary at least for awhile which I think is good. He knows and her mom knows and my mother knows but I am not willing to expose this to anyone else for the sake of creating more pressure on her than she needs now. Her dad and mom are willing to have her stay for another couple of weeks. We have talked on phone a couple of times and she really seems to be sorry for what she did and the lies and our situation. Right now I am going to leave it alone and just take care of our daughters. I have help in the times I can't get home until later but most nights and weekends I am here with them and I have assured my wife that is the case. She's talked with them a couple of times and they have seemed relieved after that mom will be coming home.

This is the best I can say and it is with some wise people advising me. I will be planning a trip there with out kids to see her in a week or so before she comes home.

pb. I had a couple of rough nights drinking excessively a few weeks ago during this. That is all. Right now I am handling this. I know what you are implying. Maybe you really need to get off your cloud and realize people are pretty resiliant and they have other than you as their God. Okay. I am doing well taking care of our daughters and work and myself.

It is not that I don't appreciate the advice here but right now I trusting that her dad can at least be a strong influence and help us all unravel this.